changing lines on hex 55 line 2 and 5

[kylied1988]

hello everyone, can any one help with changing lines? thankyou

 

[redarmada]

This may depend a lot on the context that your question provides.
But in general, Abundance is about being "the King"- it's about rising up and being the fullest self you can be, like the "sun at noon", casting aside mourning and self-doubt and going to your victory ("the noble one decides lawsuits and carries out punishments"). The changing line in Feng can be a bit confusing (at least, I find them to be- if I'm supposed to be shining and winning, what's all this stuff about darkness and screens and breaking my arm?). I think it makes sense to see them in terms of King Wen's preparation for victory against the Shang- the celestial symbol that showed him Heaven's favor was a solar eclipse at noon.

Line 2- This line is about circumstances which are frustrating to you, or obstructions in your way, you're standing in the shadow- the light of the sun is obscured by "screens" so thick that you can see the night stars during the daytime. If you try to act without being able to see where you're going, you'll stir up mistrust and negative emotions, so what the Yi recommends in order to overcome these shadowy obstructions is, rather than pushing forward blindly, to display your truth and sincerity, be sure of yourself, and you'll draw others to you.

Line 5 is "the pattern emerging". This is the King in battle, talking with his counselors and trying to figure out the path to victory- the way to achieve "fame" and "praise" is to figure out the pattern of the situation, ask your friends and mentors, figure out what the real shape of the situation is so that you can make the right moves to bring you victory.

Hope that makes some sense for you.

 

[kylied1988]

yes that does make alot of sense to be honest. my question was that what will happen if i stop my ex from seein my daughter. ( which isnt his biological daughter and now were over i see no need for him to be apart of if her life) as i see this it about me takin control as he was very controlling to me.
and i have been fearing what would happen if i did stop him from seeing her as he i feel as a wi may lose him forever.
but i see this a way forward and to make him see things more cleary.. and as for victory he may return? what do you think?
thankyou xxx

 

[redarmada]

I don't want to step in where I have no experience to say- a lot of this may be things you have to decide for yourself. I definitely agree that this is about you taking control and setting the course. But what you say about the context makes me think of some other questions: Is his return the "victory" you are seeking? (and just personally I would say, if he was very controlling, why would you want him back?) Or do you want him to see things more clearly? Those may be two different things.
For what the Yi seems to be saying, I think that this reading may be the Yi telling you to stop a moment and think very carefully about doing what you're thinking about doing, because you don't understand the pattern yet (Line 5), you need to ask your friends and relations and supporters about this action and about your ex, and I think stopping him from seeing the child may stir up a lot more trouble and painful emotions- remember that line 2 says that "to proceed brings suspicion and hate", and the auspicious way to act is to be inspiring, truthful, let your worth shine out, so that others will come to you.
That's what the Yi seems to be saying, in my estimation. Hopefully somebody else can give a second opinion.

 

[kylied1988]

yeh i see what your saying, i know i said he was controlling but i have a baby with him whos only 6months old and what hes been doin with my eldest daughter is promising her things like im going to make you a princess bedroom. i have asked alot of my friends family, and in there opinion was to stop contact. beacause he says things to my daughter which i think is wrong. and all i want to do is what right for her as shes 2 and half and it very confusing for her because she keeps asking when hes comin back which i find cant answer. because i dont want to hurt her, but i feel by her still seeing her and bringing her gifts and then crys when he leaves. it hurts me to see her that way. its just hard to know what to do. xxx

 

[kylied1988]

hes sees her biological father on a regualar bases. xxx