Commitment and hex 44

[em ching]

Hi,

I have recently started something with someone and I really like him and he seems to like me too. However we do not live in the same place, and I am making plans to leave the country etc and he isn't sure where he's going etc.

We've been friends for a while and just now it's taking this romantic turn. We have arranged to meet again though yet to be confirmed. I guess after all the giddiness I'm starting to fear I may be getting over-excited. Starting to think I should prepare for the worst. Basically terrorizing myself.

I've asked a few Q's on the subject. My first was 'What should I know about this'?
58.2,5>51

Either reflecting me hurting myself with my negative expectations and reminding me to remain open and remember it's about the joy of communicating (we did a lot of that I thnk!) and 51 - either a warning about the situation's potential shock if he does back off, or how I am arousing myself too much.

I asked a few more, just to confuse myself and exasperate yi perhaps. What I really want to know, is, Is he committed to me? (or at least the idea of me as I am him)

Hex 44

Uh oh. Not exactly 32... I wonder if he sees me as overbearing? Try as I might, I think I always seem to act over-enthusiastic and thwack away that 'mystery' that's supposed to keep men interested. Or, I guess it could be saying - opposite of commitment - that he sees it as a fling? A sexual thing?

Could really use some help here.
I really like him. But cannot help being afraid. And I know I shouldn't put all my eggs into one bastard (if you excuse my french and no offence to the men out there

Thanks
:bows:

 

[Trojina]

Hi,

I have recently started something with someone and I really like him and he seems to like me too. However we do not live in the same place, and I am making plans to leave the country etc and he isn't sure where he's going etc.

We've been friends for a while and just now it's taking this romantic turn. We have arranged to meet again though yet to be confirmed. I guess after all the giddiness I'm starting to fear I may be getting over-excited. Starting to think I should prepare for the worst. Basically terrorizing myself.

I've asked a few Q's on the subject. My first was 'What should I know about this'?
58.2,5>51

Either reflecting me hurting myself with my negative expectations and reminding me to remain open and remember it's about the joy of communicating (we did a lot of that I thnk!) and 51 - either a warning about the situation's potential shock if he does back off, or how I am arousing myself too much.
I asked a few more, just to confuse myself and exasperate yi perhaps. What I really want to know, is, Is he committed to me? (or at least the idea of me as I am him)

Hex 44

Uh oh. Not exactly 32... I wonder if he sees me as overbearing? Try as I might, I think I always seem to act over-enthusiastic and thwack away that 'mystery' that's supposed to keep men interested. Or, I guess it could be saying - opposite of commitment - that he sees it as a fling? A sexual thing?

Could really use some help here.
I really like him. But cannot help being afraid. And I know I shouldn't put all my eggs into one bastard (if you excuse my french and no offence to the men out there

Thanks
:bows:

I see sex...or maybe it was just the phrases underlined that made me think that.

Seriously though it seems quite a sex thing. 51 I think often comes up for sexual attraction, describing those kinds of nights you can't sleep for thinking about it...the attraction that is not just the sex....ahem


So 58>51 looks like fun...except 58.5 does suggest you don't put too much trust in it...and then 44 for 'is he committed'.......Well it would be early for him to be committed since you have been friends so long so maybe thats a question can't be answered yet...till you get the sex out of the way...(if you haven't already)

Of course 44 is generally considered not good for commitments...but looking at the first reading its as if the shock of sexuality (51) entering into the relationship has really stirred the waters of 58. That could feel kind of disturbing as 44 can feel disturbing...when you both thought you were having a friendship and then sexuality reared its head



So the answers don't describe commitment to me but they do describe some quite exciting sexual tension.


Now what you do about that is up to you

If you think you may feel in danger of being used maybe be cautious...which isn't to say he has any bad intent, boys will be boys and all that. If you have to seperate soon anyway consider your own emotional well being. would it feel okay to have a 'fling' and then leave or would it make you feel really terrible is what you have to consider.


Right now it looks like more about liveliness and fun and excitement than permanence....but things can change so fast in relationship readings .......

 

[em ching]

Thanks so much.
I don't know what you mean! It was all very innocent
Yes it has been rather disturbing but in a good way! I think.
But yes we're probably both going to go our separate ways anyway, but as we've been friends a while it may not completely die? Y'never know. Although since it happened I do feel a shift in the relationship - as you suggested - ie. now there's all this subtext to our friendship which makes us shyer probably. Also haven't heard from him yet so my anxiety is replacing my elation
However, I can be philosophical. And move on if need be. It's been done before. I'm retaining my independent plans and all that!

:bows:

 

[dragona]

Personaly, i got 44 whenever i was pushing the issue too hard....for me, it shouts-back off...strong attraction is there but you are being too pushy about it...play the game differently, perhaps?
And good luck