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Now I have moved house after leaving a difficult, volatile situation behind, and haveI moved into something just as complicated well not violent but.....
So further to this thread http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/friends/showthread.php?t=14920G is friends with the people I rent off/share a house with although we have a seperate kitchens and bathrooms.
My kitchen and bathroom is shared with others who rent long term or temporary on the property. At the moment there is one other permanent resident called J who I set boundaries up with straight away in terms of food and cleaning etc. He was receptive and we get on fine.
However G is also somehow allowed to share this kitchen although he is not a resident here and at the moment we are more estranged in our relationship than affable and although I spoke to him about the same boundaries he is clearly resistant.
I have spoken to the owners but they are a bit like - work it out for yourselves. Tricky.
What strategy can I use in my somewhat complicated sharing circumstances
Hex 60.1.2>8
Does this mean stand in my own power but still let him do what he wants? How do you work with someone who says 'no I won't do it your way' - just like a child and continues to impose themselves or take food that don't belong to them or whatever.
Basically because I am not giving him what he wants in terms of a relationship on his terms he becomes more and more resistant, argumentative, pushes and pushes the boundaries etc.
What is the best way to deal with g resistance
Hexagram 23.5>20 at the moment I just feel like crying and crying with this present complication.
The only other woman living here has a soft spot for g as he is picking up the slack of her husband so to speak, in regards to the responsibilities of a new baby in the home.
thks Melissa
So further to this thread http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/friends/showthread.php?t=14920G is friends with the people I rent off/share a house with although we have a seperate kitchens and bathrooms.
My kitchen and bathroom is shared with others who rent long term or temporary on the property. At the moment there is one other permanent resident called J who I set boundaries up with straight away in terms of food and cleaning etc. He was receptive and we get on fine.
However G is also somehow allowed to share this kitchen although he is not a resident here and at the moment we are more estranged in our relationship than affable and although I spoke to him about the same boundaries he is clearly resistant.
I have spoken to the owners but they are a bit like - work it out for yourselves. Tricky.
What strategy can I use in my somewhat complicated sharing circumstances
Hex 60.1.2>8
Does this mean stand in my own power but still let him do what he wants? How do you work with someone who says 'no I won't do it your way' - just like a child and continues to impose themselves or take food that don't belong to them or whatever.
Basically because I am not giving him what he wants in terms of a relationship on his terms he becomes more and more resistant, argumentative, pushes and pushes the boundaries etc.
What is the best way to deal with g resistance
Hexagram 23.5>20 at the moment I just feel like crying and crying with this present complication.
The only other woman living here has a soft spot for g as he is picking up the slack of her husband so to speak, in regards to the responsibilities of a new baby in the home.
thks Melissa
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