Concerns about my son

[solivini]

Hi all. My son turns 2-years-old today . He is a precious, sweet little boy, but he talks very little. Medical professionals seem to want to skip right to an autism diagnosis, but having worked with people on the spectrum in just about every setting and at every age for 23 years, I simply cannot see it. I’m not against it—if that is indeed the problem, and heaven knows I am qualified to assist him with this, but my observations tend to lean towards some kind of auditory processing disorder and/or dyslexia. His biological father has dyslexia without a doubt.
Here are my inquiries regarding my son:

Please describe the issue with my son not talking.
46.3.5>29
What I get from this is that it is a gradual process to be taken a step at a time. Perhaps the empty city refers to having no words in his vocabulary as of yet? (3) And then line 5 I feel is an encouragement to keep going with trying, just take it step by step. I’m not sure where the danger lies, however (29), or what the danger is. I am obviously very emotional about this, so I am not sure if I am seeing this answer clearly. Perhaps someone can see something I cannot.

What do I need to know about any medical issues that could be preventing him from speaking?
50 unchanging
The first thing that came to mind was hearing, but that is just because of line 5. Hmm, this answer has me somewhat lost and confused. Could this be saying that he is just growing?

What do I need to know about any neurological issues related to his speech?
36.1.4>62
Hmm, Brightness hidden, authority figures have something to say (line 1, Doctors perhaps), capturing the problem and going out to do something about it (line 4). 62 details.


Am I on the right track with my thinking regarding dyslexia/APD?
3.5>24
I could have worded this better than a yes/no construct, but could this be saying it’s difficult in the beginning for him and he cannot do a lot at once (line 5). Then 24...Return. Is this indication of a lot of ‘returning to the drawing board?’

Is it autism?
52 unchanging
Again, I realize a poor choice of wording. Still, this doesn’t say a clear yes, but more of a “No, just be still.”

I apologize in advance for the length of this and also thank everyone in advance for your input. I want to help him, but in the right way. I am off to do fun things with my kids for his birthday, so I may not be back to revisit this today. Thanks again for reading

 

[mandarin_23]

Hi solvini,
it will be best to wait and see and take your time to see a doctor, anyway, as it might be quite difficult for the Yi to ask so many questions.
The 46.3 in the first reading might well relate to your state of fear and confusion - an empty city, so that there is no-one who could tell, no one to hear and see. But this is a state of development. And 46.5 is more opitmistic. He is still growing, and might learn word for word, just slowly. And you will find out, step by step, and might find support.
The related hexagram 29 - the abyss, keep your heart secure etc. - may well show your own feelings of fear and concerns. Don't get lost in it. Take your time to find out, and leave your son his time.
All the best
Mandarine

 

[solivini]

Thank you mandarin. After reading your response I realize that that the answer to all of my questions are encapsulated by what you have said about the first reading. You have given very good advice. Admittedly, I am a bit on edge about it, as one tends to be with their children.
Yesterday at his birthday party, he did quite a few things that he has not done before, and it gave all of us a lot of happiness. I think I need to just calm down and allow his development to unfold as it will and keep a tight rein on my anxieties so I won’t project anything.
Thank you again

 

[Lavalamp]

Solivini - My older boy was smart, could navigate the TV/DVR/VCR setup and go to PBS and Nickelodeon websites to play games by 1.5 years old and toilet trained himself, but physically he was in the lower 5% so doctors wanted to put him on growth hormones. I didn't take to the idea, I figured he was just a late bloomer, and I was right. He's still not a real tall kid, but is in the normal range. Except he does have size 13 shoes! Really huge actually.
My younger boy took forever to toilet train and spoke very very little. But he is as it turns out mathematically precocious, and has the artist's eye. Incredible artist actually. And he relates to numbers visually, sometimes he says he sees them on blackboard in his head and when he moves numbers they calculate themselves. He partnered with a real genius kid in math class that recognized they were similar, that kid did a long laddering equation in his head in 7 minutes, And my son then did the proofs in about the same amount of time, they did an equation in 15 minutes it took the whole class 45 minutes to figure out.
My point is kids are individual, not cookie cutter. He could just be very very gifted, and you can't jump to conclusions just because Doctors want to intervene. Sometimes intervening and being wrong can screw a kid up.

- LL

 

[Lavalamp]

Please describe the issue with my son not talking.
46.3.5>29
29 as context. This hex describes a person that despite repeated challenges remains connected and true to himself. Penetrating mind, and this is the hex of "be like water" which flows on and around obstacles.
46.3 This line "advancing into an empty city" describes one who advances without doubt or hesitation. He is almost too quick in his progress.
46.5 Wing: You are destined to reach your goals through a steady, step-by-step process. Do not let the coming heights of achievement make you heedless or heady with success. Continue in the thoroughness that led you to good fortune.

In my view this reading sounds like you have a very gifted child. This does not necessarily mean he is not autistic, many autistic children are extremely gifted. I think it does however, indicate he understands everything you are saying to him. He may just not have much to say yet.


What do I need to know about any medical issues that could be preventing him from speaking?
50 unchanging
This is a hex that indicates supreme success. Thing are cooking, alchemy is taking place.
The lesson of the hexagram is that the nourishing of men of talent and virtue intimates great progress and success. There is no indication of medical distress I can see in this. You should send him to school, I think, to nourish his gifts.

- LL

 

[rosada]

Once upon a time there was a family with a young son who did not speak. Finally one day when he was about seven he was sitting at the breakfast table when he suddenly threw down his spoon and cried, "This oatmeal tastes like shit!"
"OMG," cried his parents, "You can talk! This is wonderful! What took you so long?"
"Well," replied the boy, "up until now everything has been pretty good..."

 

[becalm]

My mother was concerned about my brother not talking by the time he was 4 years old but as it's turned out he's just a 'man of few words' as he's in his 60's now and still doesn't talk much. Nothing wrong with him and has been successful in life running his own business for years.
He is the Sun Sign Cancer and personally I've found a lot of Cancers generally to be pretty quiet people. Obviously that's just a generalisation but I notice your sons birthday is in the dates of Cancer.

 

[moss elk]

Please describe the issue with my son not talking. 46.3.5>29

Hi.
It looks to me like a problem that can and will be worked through (29) a little at a time. (46)

There is easy progress in line 3
and
Line 5 says
Persistence is promising,
advance is by steps.

I have no formal training with early child development, but I was once married to a nanny and raised a few children, so I have some experience.

For some reason I am thinking of motivation, as in what will motivate him to want to communicate?

I remember one little girl who didn't want to walk. She was healthy and plenty old enough, but was always carried. One day I got a red cherry lollipop and sat down on the floor.
I let her have a taste, then scooted a few feet away. Within a few minutes she took several steps from the couch without falling, and in the course of that afternoon, she was walking all over the house.

Just some food for thought.

 

[rosada]

There is a toy, I think it's a hamster, that records what you say and then says it back to you. I wonder if that would encourage him to talk? It's available on Amazon.

Meanwhile I have a friend, Mary Ann, who has far memory (like she remembers back in the womb). I just now called and asked her if she had any insights about when/why children start talking. She gave me quite an answer and this is how best I can tell you what she said without getting my own thoughts engaged. Take it for what it's worth:
"Back when I was little (1 - 2 years) words sounded to me as a single buzzing tone, like a ringing in your ear, then one day the buzzing slowed down and separated into separate sounds and I began to recognize individual words. I think particularly conscious kids hear with their whole bodies, not just their ears. Maybe that's why we don't turn to words so quickly for our connection. If somebody touched me when I was little I immediately "knew" them and I assumed they knew me too, so why learn to talk? I got a lot out of the repetitive bedtime routine my mom created. Soft slow lullaby songs that repeated the same words felt like all the spread out words of the day were now coming back together again like an accordion so once again I would hear words as a steady buzz tone that I could close my eyes and sleep on. "
Incidentally, I have known Mary Ann since I was 7.

 

[Lavalamp]

Well my older boy had a childhood friend and the two of them as babies would just go on and on with baby talk for like half an hour. Non stop, they were speaking their own little language. Montessori kids, and I was a Montessori husband as they say.
Shooting video of the child might help interpret what seem like random sounds. I think at a certain point they understand what you say, but cannot physically form words yet. I found I could make out a lot of baby talk as actual words if I listened carefully, and watching back video sometimes I'd catch things. One time I was talking to my older boy shooting video and he said "going go poo poo" before he toddled off into the bathroom, but I couldn't make it out at the time. It was weird that he figured out how to use the toilet by himself. My younger boy needed alot of coaching and took until almost 5! That was bit worrying.
Turns out the older boy simply could not stand wet diapers. Yucked him out. Younger boy - really didn't mind it at all! Lol... They have their reasons.
-LL