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Ok I have to make a choice between two guys both of whom I have dated and both of whom I love deeply. I am not with either of them right now. I asked the I ching what my true path is and I got #30 (clinging/fire) with the first, second, third and fourth lines changing it to #4 (youthful folly). Then I asked what would happen if I went back to the first guy and got #30 (clinging/fire) with the bottom and top lines changing it to #62 (attention to detail or preponderance of the small). Then I asked what would happen if I went back to the second guy instead. I got #30 (clinging/fire) with the third and top lines changing it to #51(the arousing/shock/thunder). And finally I asked what the next thing I should do in my love life is and I got #31 (influence/mutual attraction) unchanging. Maybe it should be obvious but any insight would be appreciated. Thanks.
 

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I asked the I ching what my true path is and I got #30.1,2,3,4 to #4. You still have so much to learn about life before any path becomes visible to you.

Then I asked what would happen if I went back to the first guy and got #30.1,6 to #62. Not this one.

Then I asked what would happen if I went back to the second guy instead. I got #30.3,6 to #5. Try and see what happens.

And finally I asked what the next thing I should do in my love life is and I got #31 Get out there and rock.
 

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Thanks for the insight. That's completely the opposite of what I was thinking it meant. What is it about the reading that brought you to that conclusion? I'm really new to this.
 

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what my true path is
30, lines 1,2,3,4, to 4

30 - you should be after a mutually loving stable relationship
30:1 - but you are confused
30:2 - in your heart you do know what your path is
30:3 - you have great emotional instability at the moment
30:4 - your emotions are too fleeting and burn out quickly
4 - all this leads to immaturity

what would happen if I went back to the first guy
30, lines 1,6, to 62

30:1 - there would be more confusion between you two
30:6 - you would have to ignore some faults that he has
62 - still, nothing much would come out of this relationship

what would happen if I went back to the second guy instead
30, lines 3,6, to 51

30:3 - instability and intensity
30:6 - you would have to ignore some faults that he has
51 - shock

It seems that your path is 30, and the way you think at the
moment is taking you away from there. Same with these two
guys, they are both taking you away from your path.

what the next thing I should do in my love life is and I got #31
31 speaks of the best way to attract a good partner. It shows
a lake, peacefully resting on a mountain, open and receptive
to those who come to it. In human terms, it speaks of a woman
with self-confidence, who has faith in her good qualities, and
does not go after men, but waits to choose from those who
woo her. "Get out there and rock", very well said indeed, go
out and strut your stuff :)
 

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Thanks diamanda. Your interpretation makes all lot of sense to me. I was wondering if maybe the hexagram 30 is not referring to a person or partner but maybe an idea or cause or passion for some thing.

I did a couple of follow up readings to see how I should approach the situations with these two guys and I got #31:3,6 to #12 for the first one.
I got #29:5 to #7 for the second.

Since the next step I am supposed to take in my love life is #31 then it seems like I am supposed to see what happens with the first guy but I have to act carefully and not impulsively and say only what I mean and what is useful. This leads to stagnation and obstruction.

I'm not sure but I think I may have to avoid the other guy until my emotions have calmed down towards him and I have more discipline to act properly and selflessly?

I really just want to do what's best for everyone so we can all move forward.
 

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Does anyone have anything to add to the second readings I did? I'm not sure if I interpreted them right or maybe there is something I'm not seeing. Thanks.
 

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About your second reading,

how I should approach the situations with guy 1 - #31:3,6 to #12
The advice with this guy seems to be to resist your desire for him,
not count on words/talking because these will not influence him,
and stay away / stop communication with him.

how I should approach the situations with guy 2 - #29:5 to #7
You already know you that the situation with the second guy is
dangerous, for whatever reason, and you need to do your best
to extricate yourself from this situation, with as little hassle as
possible.

The first guy sounds as if interested only in the physical part of
your relationship, and somewhat indifferent, the second one sounds
quarrelsome or agitated. Im saying this because it sounds easy to
stay away from the first one, but you'll have to put in effort to keep
the second one away. I don't think the answers are favourable for
any of these two guys, sorry... But 31 unchanging shows great
potential for something new right ahead of you.
 

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Thanks very much for your help diamanda. The first guy loves me deeply (we were together for 3 years) and we are still friends so the only thing that has changed really is the physical part so that makes sense that that need of his is making itself most obvious. The second guy isn't physically dangerous but dating him means that I can't be friends with the first guy (who is my best friend) but I love him so intensely that I feel like I might risk everything I have for him so in that way he is dangerous for me.

Very bittersweet reading. Thanks again for your insight. You put things in a way that's very easy for me to comprehend.
 

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