controlling religious family

[kincadefoster]

So, due to economical reasons I am living at home. My family is of a sort of orthodox religion many consider a cult. I chose my own path. However, due to fact that I don't follow their religion, beliefs or whatever, they feel the need to try and control me and its gotten to the point my older brother treats me like I'm 12 and tells me I can't even have friends over.

My parents go along with this also.

I am moving out as soon as I can, but I'm also thinking I don't want to talk to them ever again. They even go through my stuff while I'm gone(presumably to see if I'm "misbehaving" by drinking or having female friends over(Yes they wish to control my sex life as they see it as a sin))

By the way, I'm a grown man and live in America which is supposed to be a free country which entitles me to privacy and freedom...

What to do about controlling religious family? 20.1>42

 

[goddessliss]

Hex 20 - contemplating from a distance - Probably best to stop viewing them as in the child/parent relationship and try to understand them as you would a friend or even a stranger whose views are not the same as yours.
It doesn't mean they're right and you're wrong or vice versa just means to emotionally detach from them at this level. I'm speaking from experience except the religious people are my oldest son and his wife and I had to learn to not take their behaviour or judgements towards me personally and I learned that by not judging myself.
- Liss

 

[sooo]

Bummer. Been on both sides of that "battle for souls". My older, religious son, also a member of an extreme fundamentalist cult, disowned me some 20 years ago, since I was an unrighteous, unrepentant sinner. Now his marriage and business are falling a part, as he gets a taste of the real world, for which I'm certain he still blames Satan and me for. Classic Freud. Sometimes you just have to let it go.

Like the Navajo legend of the twin brothers, who desired to go out and discover the unknown. They asked their mother for her blessing, who gave it to them, along with the admonition to travel to the east, west or south, but not to go to the unknown and dangerous north. So of course they set out to the north. The course of the hero-warrior's journey begins with breaking away from convention, authority and control.

 

[bradford]

"Due to economic reasons" means there's a price to pay.
Rent, if you will. When the disadvantages exceed the advantages
is when you'll move. It's not going to be what you want it to be.
It's going to be what it is. Observe that.