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Right now so many things in my life seem to be constantly delayed!!! What is going on????
The holds up are from the other persons end not mine - I'm ready :bounce:
Delay 1
I found a place to move into but there is a very slight delay because the present tenant although moved is waiting for the removalists to come and move her belongings and then the landlord said he wants to clean it and is not giving me an exact date to move in

How can I progress a move for me into my rental

16.3.6>56

Remain enthusiastic and the move will happen. Although the lines suggest the procrastination may result in someone (me or him) changing their mind.

Delay 2
Long story short I've been for several interviews and have been offered a job at each one but again for some reason or other there is a delay in me starting (from their end not mine)

How can I progress the start of a new job

26.1.2.6>15

Lines 1 and 2 suggest it's a good thing for the delay as there is danger - I have to say 2 of th jobs I'm not that sure about working with them and I've another interview tomorrow with another centre because of that.
Line 6 seems to be saying I'm going to have to make a decision.

Delay 3
The third situation is around a potential new relationship - I'm keen, he appears keen but seems to be holding out on connecting properly with me

How can I progress my connection with G

58.1.2.4>8

Yes there's been responsive openings between us albeit me having to come from a place of my own confidence to not worry about how he does responds but so far his responses have been positive although I've had to sort out my own emotions to get this far.
Line 4 - good and bad things if I wish to remain open to a connection with him - this is very true but until he opens up a bit more then it's kinda at a standstill.

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Well Delay 3 is no longer just a Delay it's a total end to situation. A joyous union it was NOT ftom woe to go actually despite the chemistry...not sure how this reading is relevant but that's the outcome anyway. A complete standstill.
 
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How can I progress a move for me into my rental

16.3.6>56

16.3
"Enthusiasm gazing upward, regret.
Procrastination brings regret."


16.6
"Enthusiasm in the dark.
Results bring a change of heart,
No mistake."


I'm not positive about this, but here's a guess.

First of all, the hexagrams as an overview, "frame," or general map: "Enthusiasm (16) about a move (56)," "Motivation towards moving," or "Readiness for a move" (Bradford Hatcher translates the name of 16 as "Readiness").

That seems very accurate - you're ready to move! Let's get on with it! (16 can be exclamation-point-y, I think.)

The lines are a bit contradictory. 16.3 seems to be yelling at you and mentions "regret" twice, but 16.6 talks about "results" (hooray) and "no mistake" (hooray again).

However - it's pretty much a given that two contradictory lines cannot both be true at once, at least not in the way they might seem. What kind of answer/advice would that be, after all. So there must be something else going on in the reading. It must somehow be more subtle than that, or more complex.

How might that be? Here's where I'm making what I hope are educated guesses.

The line that seems to be yelling at you about procrastinating (which, first of all, it's not you who's procrastinating, as you pointed out) is in position 3, the top line of the inner trigram. The inner trigram can refer to your inner world or experience. Line position 3 is at the threshold of that, pushing against the boundary, wanting to make things real in the outer world (outer trigram).

I think 16.3 might be saying this is how you see the situation. You want to move. Other people are procrastinating. You think (your inner experience) the procrastination is bad. You think if you just sit around letting them procrastinate ("enthusiasm gazing upward" - merely watching the current tenant and the landlord dilly-dally, without you doing anything) - it will end badly, maybe that you won't get the apartment at all.

16.6. This is the upper line of the outer trigram, the outer world. I don't think this is saying the landlord will change his mind; I think Yi's saying you'll change yours - that your fears about it (line 3) are not really true, or productive, or in your best interests.

Line position 6 can be a detached overview, removed from the action, more objective, a bit "sage-like." The text acknowledges you're "in the dark." (Who's in the dark? Surely you; the other people probably know exactly what's going on.) As you noticed, Yi's advising you to "remain enthusiastic" while in the dark.

"Results bring a change of heart" - I think this is saying when you start seeing results - people actually doing things - you'll feel better about it.

"No mistake" - it's not a mistake to let them take their time. You probably have no power to hurry the movers, and it might be a mistake to try (maybe you'd annoy people without accomplishing anything). And if the landlord wants to clean and so forth - good! Less work for you! Not a mistake! :D

Also, a "story" in a reading moves from bottom to top. So first (now) you're experiencing 16.3, but later - if you navigate 16.3 properly - you'll experience 16.6.

I think it's safe to assume, because this is the reading Yi gave you, that no one is just stalling out of laziness, or to put you off, or to make this endeavor fail, or anything like that. Maybe if it had been just line 3 - but that wasn't your reading.

So yes it's frustrating to be "in the dark" without a firm date, but I think Yi's advice is to just go along with that, and it will end up better for you.
 
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oceangirl

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Thanks Lisa - yes it is awful not knowing I've been shifting from pillar to post since September last year and now sleeping on my sons lounge until I can move in.
 
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oceangirl

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The landlord finally contacted me saying he's given the flat to someone else.
 
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Sorry to hear about the flat and the guy oceangirl.. but thanks for updating.
So resulting 56 ('doesn't dwell') was quite literal here.
As about the guy, did he decide to hang around with people neighbouring him? (8)

About the job, I don't think 26.6 says you'll need to make a decision, rather: leave it to 'heaven'. It sounds like this particular job is not going to happen, but, it will be to your benefit. So fingers crossed for a better job!
 
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Hi diamanda - thanks for responding - the guy and neighbours Hex 8 - I'm not sure. He just kept making excuses....he said he'd call me and then didn't and then became defensive why he hadn't called and why he couldn't see me. I didn't know him well enough to really make a judgement on neighbours although if neighours can mean keeping to the familiar then that would make sense to me. My guess is he didn't want to step out of the 'rut' he'd got himself in.
 
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In regards to the job and leaving it to 'heaven' I've got a feeling that's exactly what's going on. I've another interview on Friday which I wasn't originally keen on but it's the second time the person has encouraged me to come in....so I thought I'll just follow what's being presented rather than going against it.
 
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"neighours can mean keeping to the familiar" - yes, you've put it much better than I did, that's what I meant. It would make sense if he seems to be quite stuck as you say. Shame though...
Keep us posted about the interview, sounds promising!
 

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The landlord finally contacted me saying he's given the flat to someone else.

What??

How and why could he possibly have done that?!

Not to mention I was completely wrong about the reading, for which I AM TERRIBLY SORRY :weep: although I still don't understand what line 6 was doing there. I mean, my idea about line 6 is when nothing appears to be happening, but it really is and I'll feel better about it when I have a little proof. NOT that something's gone horribly wrong. That's why I thought line 3 applied to them and not you, because line 6 was also in the reading.

:brickwall: :bag:
 
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I wonder if the lines meant him hesitating because he was unclear on things. Initially he was enthusiastic for me to move in but then it seemed he hesitated. It was his niece who was his former tenant and now it appears his nephew is going to be his new tenant so maybe he was unclear for a few days what exactly was going on.
 

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Well okay, it's perfectly understandable that he'd rent to family ahead of strangers, and his nephew moving in is certainly a "result" as in line 6, but then what is line 3 for?

I mean, if you'd kept bugging him about it (if line 3 was really your line, not theirs), would he have let you have the apartment ahead of his nephew? That doesn't even sound like something that should happen (objectively speaking).

Did you give up some other apartment you could have had because you thought you had this one? Or something that could be the "procrastination" and the "gazing upward"?

I'm just trying to make sense of the reading at this point, I hope you don't mind. Usually hindsight helps, but this one I don't understand at all now. :(
 

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I wonder if the lines meant him hesitating because he was unclear on things.

Well I guess you're saying maybe both lines were the landlord's? I can sort of see that, but mostly not.

1. You asked "How can I progress a move for me into my rental" - what you should do. You didn't ask for a picture of the situation or a description of what was holding things up, so if the entire reading is about the landlord it doesn't make much sense as an answer to your question.

2. Line 3 has "regret" in it, twice. If it's the landlord's line, where's the regret? He has a tenant, what is there for him to regret? Unless his nephew will be a horrible tenant, but that makes even less sense as an answer. (You: "How can I, Oceangirl, progress a move for me into my rental?" Yi: "Well, the landlord will hesitate, and then he'll rent to his nephew instead of you, and then he'll regret it because his nephew will be a bad tenant.") I mean, surely you don't care! Why would Yi go so far afield? And how on earth could we possibly know that when trying to interpret?
 
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Yes it's a little confusing that's for sure because I kept looking at other rentals regardless just in case this happened so no missed opportunities.
 
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oceangirl

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Right now so many things in my life seem to be constantly delayed!!! What is going on????
The holds up are from the other persons end not mine - I'm ready :bounce:
Delay 1
I found a place to move into but there is a very slight delay because the present tenant although moved is waiting for the removalists to come and move her belongings and then the landlord said he wants to clean it and is not giving me an exact date to move in

How can I progress a move for me into my rental

16.3.6>56

Remain enthusiastic and the move will happen. Although the lines suggest the procrastination may result in someone (me or him) changing their mind.

Delay 2
Long story short I've been for several interviews and have been offered a job at each one but again for some reason or other there is a delay in me starting (from their end not mine)

How can I progress the start of a new job

26.1.2.6>15

Lines 1 and 2 suggest it's a good thing for the delay as there is danger - I have to say 2 of th jobs I'm not that sure about working with them and I've another interview tomorrow with another centre because of that.
Line 6 seems to be saying I'm going to have to make a decision.

Delay 3
The third situation is around a potential new relationship - I'm keen, he appears keen but seems to be holding out on connecting properly with me

How can I progress my connection with G

58.1.2.4>8

Yes there's been responsive openings between us albeit me having to come from a place of my own confidence to not worry about how he does responds but so far his responses have been positive although I've had to sort out my own emotions to get this far.
Line 4 - good and bad things if I wish to remain open to a connection with him - this is very true but until he opens up a bit more then it's kinda at a standstill.

thanks

Update: In terms of the rental - I saw several other places and said yes and then changed my mind but finally got a garden flat I moved into yesterday....it's ok not perfect but will do for now.

In terms of the job - I did have to make a decision, it was either go for an interview or go for a 2nd job trial with a centre that kept mucking me about so I made the decision to go for the interview which, long story short I now have a full time job with. Again I don't love it but it will do for now and help me get my qualifications for which I'm studying for at night so we'll see.

The guy G well not much going on there although we do text now and then but I'm guessing as diamanda said it won't last long - Hex 56
 
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Very glad to hear you got a flat and a job oceangirl, it must be a relief! The 56 was about the flat, not the guy. So maybe there's hope with him still.
 
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Very glad to hear you got a flat and a job oceangirl, it must be a relief! The 56 was about the flat, not the guy. So maybe there's hope with him still.

Oh of course it was.....well I think one of the lines states there'll be ups and downs but if patient it will work out so - we'll see but I'm not 'holding my breath' in expectation. I think he's still got a broken heart from his previous marriage.
 

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Surfergirl brought this thread back to my attention by liking my post (which was very nice of you, Surfergirl, but please bear in mind it was completely wrong. :paperbag: )

...and one reason for that--- I was so dismayed to be so terribly wrong that I scheduled an I Ching Chat with Hilary about it. (Hope you don't mind, Oceangirl - Shared Readings is public, so there's no breaching of confidentiality or anything unethical, but that still doesn't mean you'd have to like it.) I see I never came back and added anything, so I'll do that now!

Hilary pointed out that I'd thought of 56 as moving in, but 56 doesn't mean that. 56 is about moving through, like a tourist or visitor. You have to accommodate yourself to the natives, not the other way around. In this case, he rented to his nephew instead of Oceangirl, which fits that. He took care of his family rather than a passing stranger.

We didn't know that until after the reading, of course, but if I'd seen 56 correctly I hope I wouldn't have said what I did about the rest of it.
 
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Liselle It doesn't worry me that you've brought this thread back up - we're on here to learn in my opinion.

Obviously I'm Oceangirl, now BeCalm. I remember this quite well and unfortunately I've come back to similar circumstances in a different place a few times since.

A bit different but right now I do have a rental but wish to move because of the toxic landlord but I can't find anything suitable to move to, a job I want to leave for because of two toxic bosses but I'm receiving no response to my job applications and a guy who's apparently 'away' for a few weeks so we can't meet up yet (a standard story on online dating in case the present woman they're dating doesn't work out) and a inheritance that's continues to be delayed so I can buy a camper van as my old car keeps needing repairs.
Actually when I come across my own threads most of them are the same old story.

Because I also have PTSD and CFS which gets exacerbated with these continual changing circumstances I've decided to do my best to just Let go and Let God as the saying goes and a big part of my day is spent meditating, doing Kundalini Yoga and listening to Sadhguru.
I'm not looking for a job, nor a new place to live because obviously I have something to work out before I can move on and move out of these repetitive circumstances I find myself in.
 

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:hug:

Hope things turn around before too much longer.
 

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