Did not see this -him- coming!

[kkappa]

Hey everyone,

My love life hasn't been much on my mind for months now, so what happened today pushed me off my chair so hard I didn't even know what to do with myself.

I asked "Does he want to try again with me?" and received 53.2.3>59

This is really not a story I want to go into too deep, it was a raw experience that made me much stronger in the end, which is why dealing with him now is not an issue anymore. I've got my house in order, so to speak.

Also, earlier today I asked "What does he want from me?" 50.1.6>34 and it looked too positive. I have LITERALLY not thought about him for months and went cold turkey on him with no contact 6+ months ago, and now he just pops up out of bloody nowhere (yeah, they always come back sniffing the air).

Life is so strange sometimes.

Please help see the truth in these answers so I don't get stuck in empty imaginings.

Thanks as always!

:bows:

PS: in terms of what is the best thing to do for me, Yi suggested asking for help. so hello, here I am!

 

[anemos]

.... which is why dealing with him now is not an issue anymore.

 

[newlife123]

I think it means that you guys will start up again more slowely but then again more honestly. It maybe less passionate at first but in the end you will be able to empathize and be more accepting of him. I think this is good reading.

 

[anemos]

I had a similar situation this summer when someone appeared after 12 years to apologize for his behavior and proposed to go out.

called 911... erm my very rational friend to talk about it and he returned the question to me " what do you want ??? "

Was nice that he apologized, i was cool by that time , had a nice evening catching up but didn't wish to go further. Yi reading were not bad , like danger- go away.. but inside me was over and I informed the other party

eta : interesting the 1st reading as imo represent two different situations so to speak ..

 

[Trojina]

There was recently a thread on 50.1.6>34 here http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/friends/showthread.php?16760-50-1-6-lt-34 I saw it as a catalyst there, maybe itis here too, for you...or as the question was about him, maybe that's what he wants from you.

You know I find questions about what he's thinking and feeling and so on worse than useless don't you...for all the reasons Hilary posted in the sticky on relationships.

Why do you need to know what he feels ? All you need to know is how to respond in your own feelings and actions to him and by that answer you will surely get his intentions anyway.

Are your answers about him ? I don't know...but if they are then he may have used the recent contact with you as a catalyst, some kind of boost, something he needed to transform in himself, for himself on any level. practical. emotional, I don't know. The change pattern with line 1 and 6 moving is hex 27 yang and hex 28 yin...so it's about taking something in and then moving beyond it so for that reason often this pattern shows a one off experience one imbibes then moves beyond. Might he have needed your energy or input for something ?

Re the 53.2.3>59 hmmm I don't like the look of 53.3 ever, but it can be circumvented if one tries to be responsible for the people or things in ones care. Perhaps he let you down. Here the yang change pattern is 46 and the yin pattern is 25. This might be rather an opportunistic attempt at contact. Always take of yourself if 53.3 shows up for another's attitude, itis the line of the super flake, who lets people down.

But I don't know, I don't know whats in his mind for you. But regardless of whats in his mind what about whats in yours ?

What do you want ?

What is the best way to orientate yourself emotionally to this new development ?

How best you respond to his attention ?

 

[kkappa]

What I want is him to go along with what I want too, not just what he wants. He let me down so much I don't even know how to describe it, but it has been a long time since I've needed to describe it, but curiosity gets the best of you and knowing as much as you can is sometimes the only way to peace. So in a sense, I've made up my mind and that's that, but I'm just scratching my head and going: "The nerve of you?" Why? But then again, cultural differences and what not. I will never see it from his perspective, it's just not me. Well, of course, unless he comes down his high horse.

The reading I got for what I should do - stay on your course whatever comes, he comes in peace, but do ask for help because it may be too much for your little head this time to deal with on your own, like I did the last time.

I think most of all, I just needed to understand. Understand that he is a flake, and that's just life sometimes. Boom. Sucks to be him.

Thank you anemos, newlife123 and trojan :bows:

 

[kkappa]

Are your answers about him ? I don't know...but if they are then he may have used the recent contact with you as a catalyst, some kind of boost, something he needed to transform in himself, for himself on any level. practical. emotional, I don't know. The change pattern with line 1 and 6 moving is hex 27 yang and hex 28 yin...so it's about taking something in and then moving beyond it so for that reason often this pattern shows a one off experience one imbibes then moves beyond. Might he have needed your energy or input for something ?

I like this one and I can see it applying to me more than anything. I am actually very much of the way of thinking that Yi is not a fly on the wall, but sometimes, somehow it does offer another perspective. Go figure. In any case, I do feel like it has catapulted me onto another level of self-confidence. F off you flakes, I know better now!

And most of all, I am in a state of mind to be able to take care of myself no matter what. I will take it as it comes, if it is indeed a slow good progress, leading to him not living up to his promises (again), and then it'll just be another journey. Another necessary journey. It's all one big dance.

 

[kkappa]

Update: Newlife123 was right about the progress of things, but ultimately - once a 53.3 guy, always a 53.3 guy.