Does my partner have a crush on a friend...Hexagram 6....pls help

[prianca]

I have this inkling that my partner might have a crush on a friend. She and I are competitive with each other...... I asked Yi and it gave me 6 Arguing. I had a fight with him though i didn't confront him with it. It might just be my imagination becoz its more a feeling or a hunch? Should i confront him abt it....and is there any point as i do know that he is committed to me and not going anywhere.....i am confused

 

[yxeli]

Hey Prianca.

Hexagram 6 unchanging is about compromising and arguing something out, not for the sake of causing conflict, but to genuinely get to the bottom of discord in order for the argument to manifest as an enlightened discussion that you learn from(line 5), rather then an all out slander-fest that just causes more trouble.

The Nuclear hex is 37, which might be seen as arguing as a way to clear out the leftover detritus, sweeping it out the front door of the home/family to allow for a deeper exchange within the family.

It seems to me that you should think about htis argument. it might mean to argue your point, not from a jealous or competitive stance ( i have a feeling that your quite young prianca. correct me if i'm wrong, but to have friendships based on competitiveness and having a close friend who would even consider going after a boyfriend of yours whilst your still together doesn't feel like a true friendship imo. It seems quite immature.) But i would underline the idea of knowing where your coming from, and how much of this is to do with your own insecurities and how much is based in reality

Line 5 is the only line in hex 6 which says the arguing is a good thing. You did not receive this line. You received an unchanging hex, which also makes me think that this argument might not be going anywhere.

Maybe you should ask the Yi something along the lines of 'what is the underlying cause of my insecurity about my boyfriend being unfaithfull' or something like that.

I think you have a much deeper question to ask here, which is whether your own insecurity about your boyfriend is in fact valid or whether this is to do with some past relationships of yours that have made you feel quite unsure about your current boyfriends fidelity. It could also mean you do indeed need to argue this one out. At any rate, you'd want to be pretty sure that your accusations are based in reality before you approach either your friend or your boyfriend.


Bests,

Yx

 

[long yi]

Two cent worth analysis

Your female friend is in line 5.
He is line 1. They do not get along. Nothing serious going on between them.

You are in line 4 and think of a third party invasion in 2012. No such may happen.
The third party has other men (line 3 hidden man).

Line 1 man is thinking of leaving you in the heart.
There is no marriage because the marriage document star sits under the month of reading (house of marriage: empty) and confront with the day of the reading (house of spouse). This means no deal, no marriage.

If he gets a hit with the line 5 female, he will run. However, they are not for each other either.

Six Line layout
出生时间：年　性别：女　起卦方式：直接指定

神煞：天乙—酉亥　福星—子戌　日禄—巳　羊刃—午　驿马—寅　桃花—酉　华盖—辰
干支：壬辰年　乙巳月　丙申日　己亥时
旬空：午未　　寅卯　　辰巳　　辰巳

六神　 伏神 　　　离宫：天水讼（游魂）
　　　　　　　　　【本　卦】
青龙　　　　　　　▅▅▅▅▅　子孙壬戌土　　
玄武　　　　　　　▅▅▅▅▅　妻财壬申金　　
白虎　　　　　　　▅▅▅▅▅　兄弟壬午火　世
滕蛇　官鬼己亥水　▅▅　▅▅　兄弟戊午火　　
勾陈　　　　　　　▅▅▅▅▅　子孙戊辰土　　
朱雀　　　　　　　▅▅　▅▅　父母戊寅木　应

 

[prianca]

Thank you Xyeli and Long Yi for your feedback.... I think i need to slightly clarify the situation.....we are married and have been so for about 12 yrs now......and we are very committed to each other and our family. This situation is that the girl in question is a family friend....and its more a feeling than anything obvious. Thats why I asked Yi for clarity because i was not sure if i was over reacting or if there is any truth in my hunch. If i do ask him about it and he says there's absolutely nothing but general friendship then i kind off appear silly and insecure so i was hoping to pre empt that by asking Yi first.

So Xyeli as you mentioned i might need to dig deeper into where this is coming from and it might be more than internal insecurity projected than any real situation. I asked Yi the following question

Is my insecurity abt my partner valid?

It came back with 61.5.6 Inner Truth to 19....does this mean i need to trust my instinct?

 

[long yi]

If married, line 1 父母戊寅木　应 means that he has no fate in the relationship and try to scout for outside interest. You two are at odds over certain issue. This is common in marriages. As long as he is not committing adultery with a third party. you should not control him.

Line 1 him is wood. Line 4 you is fire. Wood produces fire. He still supports you. Line 3/Line 4 is the same person you worried about. In line 3, the man is under the third party. Line 3/4 are doors. It is like a female (3rd party) leaning on the door. There is a man inside the room. Line 4 represents also you who is suspicious of this picture. As a result, you suspect that he has the intent. Line 1 merges with line 4 hidden character (man). Thinking, not doing or not acting is not crime. Line 3/4 does not merge with any lines in the hexagram. He does not have a chance.
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Karma:
Why do you insist that Friend be like you and speak and act and breathe according to your vision of the world? It's egotistical-and obviously absurd. Your complementary personalities are what brought you together in the first place; now, instead of being the reasons for your loving they have become the reasons for hating. You must let Friend be true to Friend's self. As Friend will be, anyway-just as you are true to yourself ... but in strife and deceit? or in love and calm reaction? Each of you has a distorted view of himself. Go to a third party with a disinterested viewpoint-not just a mutual friend, but a professional counselor, an astrologer, a psychiatrist, a yogi. Or refer together to a book or to music or to a film for which you share a common sympathy. Do not dally with other relationships until you and Friend have begun to reconcile your differences.
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Art h a • Although your values may seem like absolutes to someone with a strong character, from a philosophical point of view all values are relative. You feel deeply that what you believe and what you do are right. And, in your terms, you are rightbut, in their terms those with whom you disagree are also right. From an objective point of view, your values, your aims, and your actions are only a few among many elements and processes of the overall pattern of human reaction and interaction. As a balance to your positive, steadfast attitude you must retain this objective "other vision," whose truth you instinctively feel. Remember that your adversaries are also in the grip of personal absolutes-immovable and inflexible. Without lowering your standards or hedging on your principles, make an effort to meet them halfway. Since both sides are implacable, you must find a wise mediator with the authority, either civil or religious, magical, philosophical, or social, to decide the question once and for all. This particular conflict was formed the moment you entered into the relationship(s) involved, which indicates that you must be more judicious when initiating situations. Until the conflict is resolved, do not undertake any of your more ambitious enterprises or make any major changes in your life.

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