End marriage or stay

[cnmn]

I am coming up on 25 years in a marriage that has had its ups and downs...a spectacular husband who used to be cruel and insensitive and has totally changed...BUT he has become super religious and I am not...His family who he is very close to are NOT supportive of me as I am not super religious as they are...and are often unkind. There are issues such as having a special needs son who is severely bipolar and I believe needs a stable home...Divorce would rock his structures...I wonder if I should leave and try to really find someone I am more in tune to spiritually(my husband is dead set against I Ching) etc...or stay. I received 55 no changing lines...which would indicate to me to stay in this marriage and see what I can do to make it better. Any thoughts on this as I am quite in pain about it...

 

[willowfox]

Hex 55 suggests and indicates that your marriage has reached and passed its sell by date, and its now rotting.

So, now something must give as the pressure will become unbearable the longer you leave it, obviously you need to be brave to take that step but look to your son as an example of true courage and fortitude. So, if or when you walk out, don't worry about it as you have the strength to make your own way quite successfully, you don't need the man anymore.

So, you need to make the break before the situation breaks you.

 

[tigerintheboat]

A Cornucopia of Possibilities

I am coming up on 25 years in a marriage that has had its ups and downs...a spectacular husband who used to be cruel and insensitive and has totally changed... I received 55 no changing lines...which would indicate to me to stay in this marriage and see what I can do to make it better. Any thoughts on this as I am quite in pain about it...

Because it seems you asked, "Should I or shouldn't I stay" it is hard to interpret the answer. Try asking two questions (at least)?

(1) What if I stay, what are the consequences for me?
(2) What if I leave, what are the consequences for me?
(3) What if I stay, what are the consequences for my son?
(4) What if I leave, what are the consequences for my son?

That should be easier to interpret.

If I could not ask all these questions, and had to just interpret H55, there would be a case for seeing this answer as preparation for war or legal action (same thing!): here is the relevant text from the Wikiwing:

Oracle

'Abundance [Feng], creating success.
The king assumes it.
No mourning. Yi sacrifice at noon.'

The words of the divination instructing Wu not to mourn, but to make the Yi sacrifice to the earth in preparation for war. Don’t be overwhelmed, don’t hide yourself away; take on the charge given to you, act on it.

Image

'Thunder and lightning culminate as one.
In this way, the noble one decides legal proceedings and brings about punishment.'

Thunder and lightning, action and insight, come together. The storm is overhead. You’ve gathered everything together, now take the decision, accept the consequences. Act.


And the Nuclear Hexagram gives you a picture of yourself....

"Hexagram 28, Great Overstepping – the core of both 55 and 56. At 55 you have an abundance of everything (responsibility, choice, opportunity) whether you asked for it or not. It could load you to the verge of breaking point. Also – don’t be afraid to stand alone and go beyond the norms."

But I encourage you to do more readings!

Tiger

 

[cnmn]

Thank you so much Willowfox and Tiger! I am doing more readings with these added broken down questions in mind. I wonder if I am moving forward already. I had a frank talk with my husband and told him I was not putting up with family rudeness any more no matter what and he was supportive. I also told him I didn't believe in some of the things he believed in and he needs to respect what I believed in and he was very open to that as I think he sees I cannot any longer live a lie in that way. I decided for the time being to stay but I am going further with more readings as Tiger suggested...