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38.4>41:my question was: will we reconcile. (Really I specifically asked: reconciliation with J?
38.4, 9 4th, Zhi Gua 41: Sun, Decreasing
(Fan Yao 41.4: decreasing sufferings, take charge, expedite)
Estranged and alone
Meeting someone unique
Exchanging confidences
The distress
Is no longer wrong
38.4x Exchanging confidences, nothing (is) wrong:
The aims (are) carried out
moving on.Is 38.4 reconciling or moving on?
This.you’re alone right now, you will eventually meet someone new
Nothing in the reading about that,, while in this place.
thank you so much Rosada for such a beautifully detailed response. And I think you’re right. I did end up calling him back instead of txting. We talked for a few hours and it felt amazing. He is definitely a kindred spirit. But interestingly when I got off the phone, I didn’t feel the need to grip. Somehow through connecting I let everything go. Perhaps I’m in the hex 3 place now? Or maybe 38 line 5? I don’t know what will happen. I do still care, I do want it to work, and I’m perfectly ok if it doesn’t.A few more thoughts..
Thinking about how the previous hexagram 37. Family leads to 38. Opposition the hexagram made up of fire above and lake below. Fire and Water don't mix well - so from there we think of the Family leading to having children, daughters, who share a lot in common but ultimately they are in opposition to each other because they will marry different men and thus their destinies will take them down different paths. Therefore the image advises this is a situation where "amid all fellowship the superior man retains his individuality" (Wilhelm)
Looking at the individual lines this hexagram seems to be offering guidance for how to maintain your individuality:
38.1 Remorse disappears, if you lose your horse do not run after it. It will come back of it's own accord.
That seems to fit what you've already experienced. You stopped communicating for awhile. You did not run after him and without a lot of debate or explanation he came back of his own accord. - Sounds like the sort of thing that happens between siblings - separating because you don't agree on everything, but then you gotta come back, we're family!
38.2 One meets his lord in a narrow street, no blame.
You didn't get this line but I thought it worth including just for the sake of understanding the total hexagram.
This line acknowledges the part of the process where one can step outside of their usual roles - meet outside of the Family roles - and hopefully speak more honestly about how they really see things. Like, "You may be my older sister or the boss or the boyfriend I feel obligated to agree with while at home or on the job or on a date, but this this is how I really feel."
38.3 One sees the dragon dragged back etc. not a good beginning but a good end.
(You didn't get this line either but it's worth reading.)So then the inevitable misunderstandings that come when two opposing perspectives are forced to meet. Harsh at first but keep talking and things will work out.
38.4 Here is the line you got encouraging that you could associate with this man and get to see things from his perspective without losing your own. I think when you understand the previous lines in this hexagram you see this is really a very positive line and advice for being able to get to know someone without over committing.
38.5 Remorse disappears. The companion bites through the wrappings. If one goes to him how could this be a mistake? Wow! A terrific omen for responding positively to his having made an effort to reach out to you.
38.6 Isolated through opposition...he will woo when the time comes.
This seems to say that you can't force things to progress faster but it all works out.
You didn't get this line either, but it's also worth reading as it gives a clue as to how these situations evolve. Like you were not communicating, you were isolated but if you just keep talking, getting to know each other, respecting each others positions, not trying to suppress the others individuality, then if after getting to know your areas of agreement and disagreement it does appear a closer friendship is desirable he will "woo when the time is right."
Interesting the lines you did get lead to hexagram 3. as in 38.1.4.5>3. Difficulty in The Beginning, another suggestion that it's a little premature to be trying to determine exactly what this friendship could ultimately be.
Keep talking!
thank you so much Rosada for such a beautifully detailed response. And I think you’re right. I did end up calling him back instead of txting. We talked for a few hours and it felt amazing. He is definitely a kindred spirit. But interestingly when I got off the phone, I didn’t feel the need to grip. Somehow through connecting I let everything go. Perhaps I’m in the hex 3 place now? Or maybe 38 line 5? I don’t know what will happen. I do still care, I do want it to work, and I’m perfectly ok if it doesn’t.A few more thoughts..
Thinking about how the previous hexagram 37. Family leads to 38. Opposition the hexagram made up of fire above and lake below. Fire and Water don't mix well - so from there we think of the Family leading to having children, daughters, who share a lot in common but ultimately they are in opposition to each other because they will marry different men and thus their destinies will take them down different paths. Therefore the image advises this is a situation where "amid all fellowship the superior man retains his individuality" (Wilhelm)
Looking at the individual lines this hexagram seems to be offering guidance for how to maintain your individuality:
38.1 Remorse disappears, if you lose your horse do not run after it. It will come back of it's own accord.
That seems to fit what you've already experienced. You stopped communicating for awhile. You did not run after him and without a lot of debate or explanation he came back of his own accord. - Sounds like the sort of thing that happens between siblings - separating because you don't agree on everything, but then you gotta come back, we're family!
38.2 One meets his lord in a narrow street, no blame.
You didn't get this line but I thought it worth including just for the sake of understanding the total hexagram.
This line acknowledges the part of the process where one can step outside of their usual roles - meet outside of the Family roles - and hopefully speak more honestly about how they really see things. Like, "You may be my older sister or the boss or the boyfriend I feel obligated to agree with while at home or on the job or on a date, but this this is how I really feel."
38.3 One sees the dragon dragged back etc. not a good beginning but a good end.
(You didn't get this line either but it's worth reading.)So then the inevitable misunderstandings that come when two opposing perspectives are forced to meet. Harsh at first but keep talking and things will work out.
38.4 Here is the line you got encouraging that you could associate with this man and get to see things from his perspective without losing your own. I think when you understand the previous lines in this hexagram you see this is really a very positive line and advice for being able to get to know someone without over committing.
38.5 Remorse disappears. The companion bites through the wrappings. If one goes to him how could this be a mistake? Wow! A terrific omen for responding positively to his having made an effort to reach out to you.
38.6 Isolated through opposition...he will woo when the time comes.
This seems to say that you can't force things to progress faster but it all works out.
You didn't get this line either, but it's also worth reading as it gives a clue as to how these situations evolve. Like you were not communicating, you were isolated but if you just keep talking, getting to know each other, respecting each others positions, not trying to suppress the others individuality, then if after getting to know your areas of agreement and disagreement it does appear a closer friendship is desirable he will "woo when the time is right."
Interesting the lines you did get lead to hexagram 3. as in 38.1.4.5>3. Difficulty in The Beginning, another suggestion that it's a little premature to be trying to determine exactly what this friendship could ultimately be.
Keep talking!
BingoSo maybe he’s 38.4?
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).