Family Challenges

[unsubscribed_cm]

So, received a message from my parents who pay for my education, inquiring (if not demanding) of the details of my classes. And also a message that one of them wants to come and visit.

I've been trying to get these two out of my life with everything I can think of short of telling them to **** off, severing relations with them and taking out student loans. (Which I could actually do)

But now that i'm away from them I've enjoyed a unique happiness. I'm tired of being burned by them with their sanctimonious sense of righteousness and values. They are pretty nosy stuck up people and i'd like to develop myself in their absence. And i'm tired of fighting with them.

When I first got the message I asked the Yijing:

Why is X parent asking about my classes and hours?

39

How do I handle this?

8.4.5.6 -> 35

Is this about control?

18

What if I just tell him i'm not interested in visitors or inspections into my business?

22.4 -> 30

I don't care for this inspection please comment?

62.3.4 -> 2

I don't care to be visited either?

44.1.2.6 -> 49

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So I wrote a letter telling parent X not to show up, as things wouldn't go well and asked the Yijing to comment:

1 -> 15

What will happen if I send this message?

32.4 -> 46

also

15.2.3 -> 7

What if I yield and give parent x everything they want?

40.1 -> 54

Why does parent X want to visit?

25.1.6 -> 45

How will this drama turn out (in future)?

16.6 -> 35

Any advice for this challenge?

40.3 -> 32


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So thats it, if you can look at every reading i'd appreciate it. I tend to do many readings instead of one really deep profound one and trying to see everything in it.

I hope someone can respond soon. Thanks.

 

[unsubscribed_cm]

My general interpretation, is this is some sort of test, and I should be true to myself, while relations are in bad shape, I could wave off the message or welcome it in friendliness, either way things will change but there is a possibility I could loose my financial support if relations deteriorate. But as things stand they need to be reformed in some way. I should probably look at the situation realistically rather than egocentric.

I suppose it's just advising the simplest resolution that ensues least damage and effort. Which will probably require some kind of diplomatic reserve from me.

 

[chingching]

Sounds like a good start.

the image text:

Thus the superior man turns his attention to himself
And molds his character.

This is a real, a friend in need is a friend indeed, hexagram as well. 39 is the time for those friends in need and I have found if you deal with things the best you can those from 'the southwest' arrive of their own volition.

Why is X parent asking about my classes and hours?

There is the chance that they are just trying to help you ... between generations the intentions behind actions get lost in translation. In any case thats for you to decide, and we all have to go through seperating ourselves from our parents (or them from us), 39 is a good answer though.

from wilhelm:

We are surrounded by obstacles; at the same time, since the mountain has the attribute of keeping still, there is implicit a hint as to how we can extricate ourselves. The hexagram represents obstructions that appear in the course of time but that can and should be overcome. Therefore all the instruction given is directed to overcoming them.

 

[pocossin]

Cyclo, from my perspective the degree and intensity of your alienation from your family is tragic and bodes no good for you. I also was alienated from my parents in matters of values and religion, but both had qualities I admired. My father was competent in his profession and my mother had an admirable sense of social responsibility and aesthetic pursuits. It's not like your parents kept you chained in a cage in the basement, is it? Your shotgun approach to divination simply muddies the water.

How do I handle this?
8.4.5.6 -> 35

Look at hexagram 35. Renew yourself. Your view of the world is so extreme that in my opinion you need professional counseling, and probably your school provides it for free. If that is impossible for you and your grades are not good, then you might consider dropping out of school and getting a job or joining the army.

 

[Trojina]

Any feedback on these answers ?

what happened on your parents visit ?

 

[Trojina]

I guess we'll never know