Feels like a Switched reading: 22.4.5.6 > 49

[dutch319]

Hi,

I have a strange combination which I'm trying to get a grasp on 22.4.5.6 (Grace with Lines 4, 5 and 6 changing) into 49.

The question reads. Which course should I take with XXXXX?

xxxxxxx is a friend…. I'll explain - I DJ as a hobby and he's just getting started… I've gone out of my way to help him which was out of kindness and without a search for self gain… anyway I'm getting the feeling I may have helped too much... I have the feeling he is taking credit for certain things… We were supposed to put a CD together for a number of friends who I played for a little while back and he was supposed to help though now he hasn't got the time, which is fine of course though now he has asked for my help for a set he is putting together for a birthday party…. Its all a little petty though music plays a huge part of my life and I don't like much the feeling of being used though I also believe more in rising above things - regardless it stings and I'm not sure if I SHOULD help and risk the same thing happening again…

Its got me pretty worked up in the sense that I don't feel positive about even putting my own mixes together at the moment, including the CD I promised to everybody which is not a good thing of course..

:bows:

 

[icastes]

While 22, Adorning, Grace, Decoration, is mildly good and not so good, it is auspicious for anything dealing with the arts. There is a warning about being tricked or cheated, but due diligence should prevent that. The final 49, Revolution, really is about abolishing the old and starting anew. So go ahead, and do your best. It should work out.

 

[ginnie]

22.4.5.6 (Grace with Lines 4, 5 and 6 changing) into 49.

The question reads. Which course should I take with XXXXX?

Mmmmmm. Where did he find the time for this other CD, if he had no time to complete the CD with you? What a rat! You at first thought it was an excellent relationship and you accepted him, even though he was a beginner. But he has not kept the promises he made to you. On top of that, he slighted you. What kind of gratitude is that, after you volunteered to help him? No wonder you feel hurt!

Is it time for you to go on the warpath, stake a claim to your rights and so forth?

You must consider that music is a small world, and you and he might be running into each other at events for many years.

If you read the text of hexagram 49, it's more like a slow unfolding, not a radical change at all. If this guy is acting like a rat, you don't have to say anything. Other people will notice the same thing about him. He will let other people down, the same way he hurt you ...

I think the I Ching is saying to you "Just be yourself and everything will work out okay." I know that "just be yourself" seems like pretty lame advice, but I think the I Ching is indeed saying that, and not saying: "Go on the warpath." I think the I Ching is saying: "See this as a triviality, compared to more important things in your life. It will pass. In a short time, you won't care about this anymore."

 

[Trojina]

Hi,

I have a strange combination which I'm trying to get a grasp on 22.4.5.6 (Grace with Lines 4, 5 and 6 changing) into 49.

The question reads. Which course should I take with XXXXX?

xxxxxxx is a friend…. I'll explain - I DJ as a hobby and he's just getting started… I've gone out of my way to help him which was out of kindness and without a search for self gain… anyway I'm getting the feeling I may have helped too much... I have the feeling he is taking credit for certain things… We were supposed to put a CD together for a number of friends who I played for a little while back and he was supposed to help though now he hasn't got the time, which is fine of course though now he has asked for my help for a set he is putting together for a birthday party…. Its all a little petty though music plays a huge part of my life and I don't like much the feeling of being used though I also believe more in rising above things - regardless it stings and I'm not sure if I SHOULD help and risk the same thing happening again…

Its got me pretty worked up in the sense that I don't feel positive about even putting my own mixes together at the moment, including the CD I promised to everybody which is not a good thing of course..

:bows:

Re your question are you asking generally what the best approach tot the situation is ? I'll take it as that anyway though I'm not sure I understand the dynamics...sounds like you helped him, then felt he took too much credit, felt used and feel upset and that upset kind of stymies your own work . The question is quite general so I'm not that clear from what angle to apply the answer but 22>49 in short to me looks like a cosmetic makeover...or a makeover of appearance so its something to do with a change, a renewal in your whole image, presentation etc etc .

I could see 22>49 as rebranding

Looking at the lines it would seem he is not intentionally trying to rip you off (22.4) infact in alliance with him perhaps there may be advantage especially in the whole presentation/marketing area if that is applicable. 22.5 often shows some embarrasment at not feeling quite good enough , not sure whose embarrasment this is, him or you, morelikley you i think.. I'm wondering if hes much more into selling himself than you are. If he is naturally just a pushier self salesman and you have been working diligently but rather quietly away for years and he comes along and kind of sells himself after you helped him i can see why you'd feel miffed...but perhaps its an area you need to think about for yourself. Do you think perhaps you undersell yourself ?

No idea if you can apply any of that but this does very much look like a makeover of presentation of your wares so to speak. Maybe this whole thing may lead you into repackaging what/how you offer to others in general. Maybe the discomfort you feel right now is part of that process. 49 can feel like an itchy old skin that needs to be shed

overall i feel the reading may be addressing your confidence levels. 22.6 shows one preoceeding showing themselves just as they are, unadorned but still beautiful.

If you can't apply this think about how a makeover (49) of presentation/appearance (22) can possibly be applicable to what course you take with him.

 

[ginnie]

Even if you don't show up someplace holding a CD, Dutch 319, you will still be beautiful.

 

[peter2610]

Hi Dutch,

My take on this reading would be largely at an internal level.

Hex 22, Grace, very often refers to issues brought up by relationships. Ken above Li, Stillness without, Clarity within. It is the combination of inner clarity combined with external restraint that enhances our characters with the quality of Grace. Seeing the situation for what it is, including the mistakes of others, yet having the capacity to control your own external responses means that you develop the ability to handle relationships and situations with consideration, calmness and composure - the essence of Grace. Li has associations with thought/idea/conflict/ego, hence the basis for the external accomplishment of Grace lies within the internal process of controlling these potentially inflationary elements. If you can accomplish this, it means you respond to events consciously and appropriately, rather than react to them.

Fourth Yin: Grace or simplicity, a white horse comes as if on wings, he is not a robber, he will woo at the right time.
Fourth yin is in a resonant relationship with first yang (your friend X). 'Grace or simplicity' indicates your uncertainty as to how to respond to his behaviour. First yang's intention "is not quite clear" (Wilhelm) and fourth yin (representing you) sits within the upper nuclear trigram K'an (pitfall) hence it can easily fall into a wrong assumption. Not quite certain where your friend's intentions towards you are coming from, you are faced with a choice of taking a negative view or simply not reading anything at all into it (this second option is the 'simplicity' or plain 'white' mentioned within the text). If you can adopt an attitude of plain simplicity by not reading anything into his behaviour, you'll find that "he is not a robber" and that "he will woo (offer friendship/support) at the right time."

Fifth Yin: Grace in the hills and gardens...
By not responding in a like-for-like manner, that is, by agreeing to help X rather than withdrawing, your ego may temporarily feel a sense of loss or disadvantage, but in the overall context you will be empowered by this process; to quote Chih-hsu Ou-i "one is able to know the joys of enlightened virtue and does not pride oneself on power or position." What is initially seen as a loss of self will prove to be a process of true empowerment. By transcending the relative rationale of ego, your sense of reality begins to identify with wholistic essence. Forceful control over others is not real power.
The Fan Yao for this line, 30,4 suggests the ephemeral and transitory nature of unbridled ego.

Top Yang: Simple grace. No blame
When grace reaches a condition of utmost simplicity, clarity and stillness unify and integrate with essence. By allowing this process to unfold in its own direction, without self-intervention, you merge your own path with that of universal principle. If you can 'go with the flow' without effort or inner conflict, you will have achieved the meaning of this line. The Cuo Yao for this line, 47,6 indicates the danger of doubt and uncertainty in freeing yourself from habitual responses.

The Zhi Gua, Hex 49, is pretty clear in this context, indicating the removal of old defense responses, and the eventual justification of your self-belief. The parallel nuclear process, 40,3.5.6 > 44, represents release/deliverance from a wrong assessment or mind-set, and the potential encroachment of habitual patterns.

Remain as balanced and centered as you can in this, but don't put on any forced or pretentious attitudes. Just be yourself and work with the situation, not against it. Try not to identify with any sense of ego-loss but simply accept a broader, more mature perspective - not easy for any of us.

Finally, don't lose your gig, get on with that CD!

 

[willowfox]

This suggests that you need to tell him straight, that it takes two to tango, therefore if he doesn't help you as promised then you also may not have the time to help him.

So, don't get angry just tell him how its going to be, a case of either/or. You are now in the driving seat, so tell him how its going to work.

But remember line 22.4 indicates that he still is a "friend" but seems to need encouragement to do the right thing and that's why you need to talk with him.

 

[caustic]

I believe that there are some people who think that when there are three changing lines that emphasis needs to be given to the middle line. The middle line here is 22.5, and maybe it is emphasizing your feelings that you have been presented with something shabby and not worthy of you. But 22 is about grace, and within grace is diplomacy. The lady in 22.5 accepts the gift of shabby silk, even though it is something beneath her status. She uses grace/diplomacy and the situation goes well. I'm not saying that you should let this guy treat you poorly and just accept it, but to use diplomacy in dealing with this situation so that it may go more smoothly.

 

[ginnie]

Have you ever heard this saying?:

"When someone hurts us, let us write it in sand, so that the water will wash it away.

When someone helps us, let us write it in stone, so that the memory of it can never be erased."

The Yi actually advises us, in hexagram 42, never to preoccupy ourselves with the faults of other people. When we see good in others, we are advised to imitate it. When we see bad traits in ourselves, we are advised to rid ourselves of these bad traits. Yi says nothing about seeing bad in others, and that is because we are supposed to be learning how to overlook bad traits in others. At least, that is how I understand it.

It's an advanced spiritual practice: learning how not to take offense when other people say or do hurtful things to us. And any form of creative expression -- like music! -- can help you get over the hurt.

 

[Trojina]

I don't see anything advising confrontation in the reading at all...infact in a roundabout way i see it as a possible opportunity

 

[dutch319]

Huge thanks for all your efforts to read into my query, for your help and for your delicate prose on the matter. Its scary how your advice, combined with the reading makes complete sense on various levels! Thanks SO much!