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Staying at home makes me think a lot about my future.
Will I find a partner to stay with me in my life?
Iching answered with hex 47 -1,3,5- 34
All the lines of hex 47 seem to be very inauspicious. This is the hex of depression. Line 1 shows loneliness. Line 3 shows loneliness and somebody who leans on things which are hazardous. Line 5 shows real depression and finally hex 34 which depicts strength.

I don't know where is the partner here.
 

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gosh 47 and 34 together does seem like a general explanation of how many people are feeling staying at home, pent up and boxed in - a small sacrifice for the collective and an invitation to find other ways of being.

I think the advice from 47 about words is particularly important, it is saying it is our actions in times of adversity that make our character. For example the people who hoarded toilet paper then tried to sell it on ebay for ridiculously high prices, that were eventually banned from ebay. Weak and detestable character to that soul. What will you do or not do?

47 is the enclosed tree, an enclosed tree can still live, perhaps it cannot spread out wide like a grand morton bay fig, perhaps it can't live as one of many belonging to one like the aspen, but it can live. A potted plant, a weed growing through the crack of concrete. Perhaps something a little more cultivated and protected like a small walled courtyard where the tree is tended to, and then perhaps the deep meditation and love that creates a bonsai which shows us the infinite that expands outwards into the grand unfathomable also compresses infinitely inwards. Compresses smaller, but expands with as much space in relation to each part.

Imagine your home as the walls enclosing the tree, your actions whenever you leave it to be pruned by the gardener, and then your every action inside of it the creation of the blueprint of your future. For example, everytime you wash and take care of yourself in the bathroom, do to yourself how you'd want to be loved by another, and at the same time how you'd like to show love to another. Then perhaps each meal can be a romantic dinner, each night time routine, foreplay ;)

I can see a direct practical association with the branches and leaves of the enclosed tree and them being able to reach up further as how we've all turned to the internet, even more than before, to find sunshine. You can always find someone to talk to online, somewhere about something. For the most part that is how relationships begin.

But the richest part of the enclosed tree for me is what is going on with its roots. Then if you take this as a psychological process where after recognising how your mind has walled you in can can also utilise your imagination and create any kind of enclosed tree, and, then what might happen next?

I'll leave it at that hoping that might spark some ideas for you about yourself, and then take a look at the lines again from that changed perspective, and aim to come out of this time like the best promise of both 47 and 34.
 

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Marry in haste repent at leisure.

47.1.3 Feeling isolated and alone.
47.5 Moving slowly towards improvement.
34. A stable condition.
 
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Hi
Remember that the I Ching is temporary, so it might show your current situation other than a lifetime forecast!
I have nothing to add to what has already been said except that I once asked about my love situation and got 47 unchanging. It was exactly how I felt, not communicating with men, isolated.
Maybe a nice question to ask could be: How to find the man of my life?
 

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I am not well-versed in I Ching but I have read that it's not best to ask a yes/no question and the question "will I find a partner for life?" can only be answered yes/no. Perhaps like some of others have mentioned you ask something like "how will I recognise the man of my life?" "what should I know to bring me closer to the man of my life?" etc.
 

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Oh thank you all for posting!:)
So true! this answer can describe how I feel isolated at home due to the virus right now.. Staying at home and looking the gloomy valley... the beautiful landscape around me. With no partner. This time is very good to explore our inner selves indeed. You can appreciate the little things that you take for granted.
Thank you for the advices chingching. I will keep them in mind.
Thank you rosada for sharing your interpretation.
Thank you olga for the idea of asking how to find the man of my life. I asked iching and the answer is 53.5-52. Perhaps after '3 years' I can have the stable partner I am looking for (and the child of course)
 

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Thank you olga for the idea of asking how to find the man of my life. I asked iching and the answer is 53.5-52. Perhaps after '3 years' I can have the stable partner I am looking for (and the child of course)
I think it says it won’t be too soon but you eventually will find him.
52 makes me think now it’s not the time to look for him.
 

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Will I find a partner to stay with me in my life?
Hex 47.1.3.5>34
34 as context - this hex is about propriety being a good thing. Sticking to that. The lines in the hex describe restraining and corraling horny goats and sheep. This suggests to me you are wondering if you should be more, umm - liberal with your affections - or stick to your principles. The Yi says you should stick to your principles. It is a Great Power. Or at least, this is in the context of remaining in your power.
47.1 If you sit on your butt and feel sorry for yourself, no one will see you for a while.
47.3 When you are stuck "between a rock and a hard place" as the saying goes, reaching out to what is thorny and will hurt you will not help you find your partner.
47.5 Work for more freedom gradually. Make that a ritual, an offering as you gradually free yourself. You feel oppressed by what the priests tell you. Perhaps this indicates a sense of guilt. Don't judge yourself too harshly. Take it easy.
The line says "the nose and feet have been cut off,", and might indicate traveling and "smelling the roses along the way" experientially will help you open up and transition into freedom. Go to a garden and breathe in the flowers, go watch a sunset... An art gallery. Take your time.
In 47 oppression your heart is kind of closed. Line 5 suggests how perhaps you might gradually open your heart again.

- LL
 
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I was seeing 47.1.2.5 - 34 as a warning not to be too quick to make a commitment but with Querent777’s insight I see how these hexagrams could also be indicating being stuck and thus they could be read as a reflection of your mood when you asked the question, that is, that you are feeling stuck and wondering if that will ever change. If I were forced to use these hexagrams to come up with a yes or no answer I say these lines are negative although 47.5 does hold out hope. Actually they seem to be describing this social distancing we’re being forced to go through and maybe they are saying that for now you’re stuck and not meeting anyone but once the bans are lifted you’ll be able to slowly get active again. Anyway you might get a more useful answer if you ask something like, “What should I focus on now (34. Stabilize) as a single person so as to ultimately be in a positive partnership?”
 

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I just want to add that I feel exactly like the lines of hexagram 47 the last couple of days. I received the line 47.1>58 again for asking the same question.
I feel entirely hopeless lately but looking the resulting hexagram 34 of this cast, perhaps I could smile.
 

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I definitely don't think you need to take these answers as predictions. A partner for life ? How can that be guaranteed in even the best of worlds ? You must surely know nothing, absolutely nothing can be guaranteed not to change which is why this is called 'the book of changes'.


I think the answers show you are really barking up the wrong tree with this idea you have of a partner for life as the key to all happiness, hence you got 47.3. It's a depressive way to think, that's what the answer is about. 'Will I ever find someone to make me happy' is a depressive kind of mode of thinking. It takes your fate entirely out of your hands and then you become a mere puppet who either is or isn't doomed to either despair or complete fulfillment for all time. Neither is a real representation of how things are.

As opposed to this abject passivity in 47.1.3.5 we have the way things really are, 34. You have alot of strength and power to make your life how you would like. It's not always going to turn out how you envisaged but it's all good. Be careful not to go with anyone just because they are better than no one (47.3) don't place all your wishes in one basket, don't cramp your own style is what I get from this answer.


I just want to add that I feel exactly like the lines of hexagram 47 the last couple of days. I received the line 47.1>58 again for asking the same question.
I feel entirely hopeless lately but looking the resulting hexagram 34 of this cast, perhaps I could smile.


It's how you feel but how you feel isn't the truth, 'don't trust words' and these can even be yourown thoughts in 47. Line 1 is a real kick in the pants to stop the whole depressive hopeless frame of mind. You don't need to have it. Look to 58, everything is lifted when it is expressed and shared. I get the sense you are really quashing yourself, you can let go a bit, you can start to enjoy the day and the people in it as it is.


These casts don't say you won't meet anyone, they are talking about where you are now. You could take the weight off your own head, you don't need to feel like this. It's a line I think where you have chosen a mood you don't need to choose. Not even a mood perhaps but a mind frame that is like an iron cage. It doesn't need to be, really it doesn't.
 

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Re-reading these responses I am struck by how we all tried to see a "yes" in these hexagrams which to be honest I must admit if the I Ching can give a yes or no answer I have to say I think 47.1.3.5>34 is a "no". If there is anyway to spin these lines into a "yes" I guess it would be that first one has to feel comfortable with oneself being single - kinda like 8.1 where Seeking Union says the first step to Union is to be at one with yourself. Like 47.1.3.5>34 says "Be here now" as in stabilize and appreciate where you are now in order to attract more good.
Perhaps the resulting hexagram 52 in your second toss (53.5>52) is saying you will connect with someone but not for sometime so again live your life now as if you are going to be single and enjoy it.

You might try asking, "What would partnership at this time be like for me?" Ha! That might make you be careful what you wish for!
 
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Oh thank you all for posting!:)
So true! this answer can describe how I feel isolated at home due to the virus right now.. Staying at home and looking the gloomy valley... the beautiful landscape around me. With no partner. This time is very good to explore our inner selves indeed. You can appreciate the little things that you take for granted.
Thank you for the advices chingching. I will keep them in mind.
Thank you rosada for sharing your interpretation.
Thank you olga for the idea of asking how to find the man of my life. I asked iching and the answer is 53.5-52. Perhaps after '3 years' I can have the stable partner I am looking for (and the child of course)

53.5 - 52 : for sure you will meet the one you expect.... Only this one line in response is very clear.
52 also is very clear, that's your expectation. I wish you to be happy during this time, in three years you have time to learn Yoga and Kamasûtra :) 🧘‍♀️
 

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I think the answers show you are really barking up the wrong tree with this idea you have of a partner for life as the key to all happiness...

As opposed to this abject passivity in 47.1.3.5 we have the way things really are, 34. You have alot of strength and power to make your life how you would like. It's not always going to turn out how you envisaged but it's all good...
Trojina I absolutely agree with you.. No I don't expect a man to be the key of my happiness. I am a 'big girl' I know very well that nobody is perfect. I just need a friend, a partner somebody to stay with me 'no matter what' in good and bad days.

About 34, I have indeed the strength and power to 'fix' my life, people believe in me (more than me) and my strenght but I am afraid that this what scares men around me.. I am too strong to handle.
 

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I don't know if you're going to answer... but when you talk about "men around me", do you think of any particular man ?
 

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I don't know if you're going to answer... but when you talk about "men around me", do you think of any particular man ?
No, there isn't any particular man. I am not in love with anyone. why are you asking?
 

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No, there isn't any particular man. I am not in love with anyone. why are you asking?

Because 53 is a slow-growing situation that needs time to evolve... so I was thinking that you may have already met him, among " these men around you"...
 

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Because 53 is a slow-growing situation that needs time to evolve... so I was thinking that you may have already met him, among " these men around you"...
No I am sure I haven't. I had forgotten the answer 53.5 I received. I received it yersteday for one more time, so I guess it will take time for a new relationship.
 

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...I had forgotten the answer 53.5 I received. I received it yersteday for one more time...


So this answer is something quite promising: the man of your heart, someone from the past with whom, "a hex53 situation" didn't go well, has the possibility of some common fruit. But be careful about the reasons that led to the rupture between the two in the past.

I have looked at your previous answers and they "all" speak, as I see it, of this man of the past and your present situation because of this "badly resolved hex 53 situation".

47.1.3.5>34 ..... A real need for you but dependent on someone you can't influence to realize that need?

28.2.5>62 ...... here shows you and him in two different situations in time?

breakmov
 

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