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Hello all.

For those of you who remember, my last post was about a old acquaintance whose birthday I wanted to acknowledge. And, as far as the Yi goes, I seem to have made a decent choice. HOWEVER, I have some follow-up questions now.

Because since the bday msg, I sent a short but honest note asking if he would like to mend and/or rebuild the connection. He hasn't responded yet, but he's been visiting my blog lately for very long visits. I know he's considering every angle to his answer. So I asked the Yi a series of questions. I know you all can help me!

Show me a picture of his feelings for me now: 51.4-24 (twice, different days) and 51.3-55

How can I help him get unstuck? 58.1-47

What does he need to get unstuck? 4.6-7

What does X want from me right now? 7.1,5-60

What does X want me to say? 23.6-2

What does X want from the relationship (yes, I'm using the word "relationship" rather broadly here)? 53.1,2,4-1

If I ask if he still wants to keep hearing from me? 40.2-16

Show me the little foxes!
first: 55.2-34
second: 52.3,4-2
third 24.4-51

Anytime I ask the Yi if I should give up or never contact him again have been met with images of a mopey tortoise and the fool. :footinmouth: So I suppose I'm to keep the faith. :rolleyes:

This is an odd set of circumstances between us, and some very profound questions must be answered--by both of us--before either one of us would be ready for a serious romance. In the meantime, I'd like to develop a better friendship. And the YI seems to be saying "press on, gently." But how to press on? And when?

Any discussion/help you can share with me would be muy bueno!
 

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Show me a picture of his feelings for me now: 51.4-24 (twice, different days) and 51.3-55

Lines 51.3 and 51.4 shows a man who was taken by surprise by your message and it seems to have made him quite upset, bewildered and confused and so he has no idea how to respond in the circumstances, that is why you have had no reply.
 

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How can I help him get unstuck? 58.1-47 I don't think you can as this is advising you to not to be too interested in him as the joy that you are looking for lies within yourself. Hex 47 says you are facing a very difficult situation here and there isn't anything you can do about it.

What does he need to get unstuck? 4.6-7 He needs to learn a lesson of self control.

What does X want from me right now? 7.1,5-60 This suggests that he wants you to stop doing anything at the moment, to show self control and therefore limit your actions.

What does X want me to say? 23.6-2 Perhaps you saying that you want an end to the dispute.

What does X want from the relationship (yes, I'm using the word "relationship" rather broadly here)? 53.1,2,4-1 Perhaps a sort of reconciliation eventually.

If I ask if he still wants to keep hearing from me? 40.2-16

I think not yet as he still has internal problems to overcome.
 

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Okay. This fits.

How about these last two? Asked tonight. I want to clarify that I'm leaving any reconciliation open-ended.

If I call, leave a message: 50.1,2,4,6--36
What should I say? 49. 4,6--37
 

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done.

left a short message saying I realized I have asked something of him he can't answer now, perhaps ever. Said I understood.

And that's that.
 

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If I call, leave a message: 50.1,2,4,6--36

Well, this suggests that there will be a change but it is unlikely that he will answer as Hex 36 shows that he would prefer to keep a low profile and therefore hide his true feelings.
 

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Yup. Well, I'm pretty fried right now, so I'm not sure I'd want to hear from him anyway. It's a 20 year old pattern. Apparently I'm not bright enough to see it for what it is. Time will probably prove it to me.

Thank you, WF, for your consistent feedback.
 

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Apparently I'm not bright enough to see it for what it is.

How about a follow up question here? e.g.
What helps me be bright enough to see the situation for what it is?
 

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Okay, ben, for you:

20.1,2,3--9 (An obvious image with a LOT OF CANVAS.) So now should I be in therapy twice as often as I am now? Or meditate twice as much? (only half joking)
 

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