Friendship reading ...

[ceciliaiching]

Hi everyone,

As always I would very much appreciate some help with interpreting a reading I did...
Bit of background info: there is a female friend of my partner's who has been quite interfering and hasn't really tried to be my fiend at all (I did try to be friends with her but she's been quite possessive about her friendship with my partner as they have been friends for a long time, before me and him met).
He knows how I feel about her and over time he has distanced himself from her however he is still 'nice' to her (that's part of his personality I guess). She's a bit of a user who will normally get in touch with him (and other friends) when she needs something. She's now gone to the states to live with her boyfriend but she's still emailing and texting my partner to keep in touch. On the face of it it all looks very amicable and he's being friendly back to her but I got a feeling that he's getting a bit fed up with her. I did a reading asking about their friendship and how it will develop and got hex 29, changing lines 4 and 6, changing to hex 6.
I saw this as confirmation that not all is as it seems and that there is actually conflict underneath it all....I have been worried that she will come back (she's quite impulsive and changes her mind easily!) from living in the states and start asking my partner for support / favours but according to this I would say that even if she did it doesn't look like their friendship is going to survive?
I am trying to figure out where the danger might lie from hex 29 but my understanding of hex 6 is all about conflict ....

Help please ))

Thank you so much in advance

Xx

 

[Tohpol]

Well, clearly no love lost between you and your partner's friend...I can almost sense the tension there. understandable.

The friendship then and how it will develop:

29.4.6>6

Line 4: She is in time of difficulties and honest help is sought and received.
Line 6: She is severely confined by circumstance and / or limiting beliefs leading to an impasse.

Naturally the background to this is 6: conflict.

I suppose you might want to ask: What is my role in this situation? Or...How can I help alleviate this problem?

The other possibility is that this reading is about your own state of mind in relation to the question. Sometimes the Yi does that, especially when we ask questions about third parties.

 

[ceciliaiching]

Thank you

Thank you very much for your reply. I will do another reading to see what I can do to help the situation.
I really have tried to give her the benefit of the doubt but she's made it very clear to me she doesn't want to be my friend and always goes behind my back to contact my partner and ask for favours.

If possible, could I ask for clarification in what you said please... If the reading is about the friendship, would you say that their friendship will not survive then? I've done readings about third parties in the past and they've been incredibly accurate.

Thank you!

 

[Tohpol]

Well, our own experience with the I Ching is pretty much the best indicator of how the Hexagrams work for us. So, if you think it's speaking to you about the friendship then certainly it's not a good indication of a friendship that could go from strength to strength. Similarly, based on the information you have given, if she is "interferring", "possessive" "impulsive" and a "user" then it seems that the friendship is likely to flounder since it isn't based on a genuine exchange. It's only natural that something will give in the long term or sooner.

Have you discussed this with your partner and told him how you feel? If you have, then perhaps being there for him as a support rather than giving the impression of wishing to control the outcome might be the best way forward for now. I think it may be that this fizzles out naturally. But since this woman is your partner's friend then I suppose it's up to him how he handles it, provided the assistance he's offering doesn't morph into being taken advantage of and thus creating tension between the two of you. Either way, discuss it and make sure you're both on the same page.

 

[ceciliaiching]

Thank you, yes that makes perfect sense. I agree that it's down to my partner to sort it, it's not really my style to tell him what to do ;-) thank you for taking the time to respond to me xx