Frustrated 47.5>40

[becalm]

Things at work seem to have extremes of highs and lows. The supervisors want improvements and asking for input but they're not hearing the input from the staff.
I'm getting frustrated and yesterday I was left to do a massive clean up whilst the 3 others sat and did a jigsaw puzzle.
I believe that we should work as a team and other staff should OFFER assistance and not have to be asked to help but the supervisors think it should be the other way around. One should ask for help.
They're in charge so this frustration is on me.....

What's the best thing for me to do about my employment
Hex 47.5>40

Release the frustration and get on with it or just leave the employment altogether.

In the hour since I posted this thread - I told the boss I wanted time out because I was frustrated, she asked what the problem was so I told her. I said (in a nice way) that I would do things differently to her but neither of us is wrong and that I just need to work out if I want to stay and do things her way despite my frustration or leave. I've raised this particular issue more than once but she's just ignored me.

 

[legume]

depending on the jobs i would often run into this issue of not wanting to bother anyone else and preferred to give advice or lend a hand at a task rather than ask for help, but eventually it dawned on me it came from this inner conflict of constantly fighting the "victim mindset", thinking that if i'm not asking for help i'm more self-reliant somehow. but it didn't serve me well and it's quite freeing to feel free to ask for help when it's needed, rather than frustrate myself with expectations of others... and it's freeing to not care what they'd think of me if i do. i believe 47.5 could point to something similar, it's about feelings of oppression and gradually finding relief, saying it's worthwhile to sacrifice the sacrifice, or to make offerings, which i'd understand as sacrificing the attitude of "shoulds" and making offering, as in maybe finding a way that asking for help feels alright. from Bradfords commentary "Maybe he thinks he gives up too much for his people - but really he might just be thinking too much. Maybe he could give up these thoughts about sacrifice."

and if this isn't an option, or my interpretation doesn't fit, then i still think in some way you'll find some relief soon, based on 47.5, although it might feel exhausting for the time being.

 

[becalm]

Thanks legume - hahahaha nope I have no problem actually asking for help. My frustration is probably more with the EXPECTATION that we should be working as a team and the Supervisor should be supervising her team if they can't take the initiative themselves or be supportive of their co workers, then she needs to step up and guide them.
Her and her 2nd in charge are always raving on about how they're stuck with so much because the team isn't pulling their weight.
I'm doing my part and more but no one else is, meaning they come in do what they HAVE to do and sometimes not even that and yet when I give suggestions (wisdom of experience) the supervisors just ignore and continue whinging.

Yes that sounds about right that the relief will come soon because I'll either leave or find resolution within the job.

She responded to this mornings text - Okay well you work out whether you want to stay or leave.....

What's my next best move Hex 33.3.5>35 - Basically do nothing.

 

[becalm]

What's my next best move Hex 33.3.5>35 - Basically do nothing

Oh my goodness you've put my thoughts into clarity for me. I've found if I don't respond to someone's agitation or need for an argument or whatever it does just that and they end up having to look at their own behaviour (or not) and not take it out on me. - Liss

I just found this in the archives so I'm taking my own advice..... because now they're trying to pressure me into making a decision. I said I wanted time out to work it out, they're saying no make a decision now!!

 

[rosada]

33.3
A halted retreat is nerve wracking and dangerous.
To retain people as men and maid servants brings good fortune.

This reads to me as the I Ching describing your desire to take some time to make up your mind as a "halted retreat" and points out that it's nerve wracking. I see a hint in the advice "to retain people as servants" a suggestion you not be shy about asking your co-workers to help with what you see as needing to be done.

Hmm..now that I re-read this it seems to be describing what the administrator told you - that she wants you to make up your mind immediately and that you are encouraged to ask for help.

33.5
Friendly retreat.
Perseverance brings good fortune.

Perhaps this line is alerting you that it's very possible you will leave this job.

35. Progress.
The superior man himself brightens his bright virtue.

It's up to you.

Together I think these hexagrams are first mirroring your wanting to bring everything out in the light of day (35) and the supervisor's insistence that you make up your mind to stay and ask for the help you want or go and no hard feelings.

 

[becalm]

Thanks Rosada. Yesterday was about the 3rd time I'd ask for help on this particular issue which led me to speak up about my frustration today. I don't know how many times I can say - I'd like everyone to work as a team and support each other. I can't make that happen only she can and if she doesn't lead by example then why would the other staff. They are all under the age of 25 and she's not much older.....I don't know whether that's relevant but it feels to me that my work ethics differ greatly.

 

[becalm]

33.3
A halted retreat is nerve wracking and dangerous.
To retain people as men and maid servants brings good fortune.

33.5
Friendly retreat.
Perseverance brings good fortune.

Perhaps this line is alerting you that it's very possible you will leave this job.

35. Progress.
The superior man himself brightens his bright virtue.

It's up to you.

Looking at Line 3 with what's written here - it's not nerve wracking or dangerous for me but it well could be for them. They are short staffed and even asked yesterday if we knew anyone that would like to work there. If I decide to go to the Owner about how I'm feeling then that could get them in a lot of trouble.

Line 5 - quite possible I'll leave. It doesn't matter that much to me except I'd have to tighten my financial 'belt'.

 

[becalm]

At this point I made a friendly retreat Line 5 and gave myself some time off until the end of May.

 

[Olga Super Star]

Becalm
I would think it 4 times before leaving a job without first having a new one, considering the world crisis we’re going through and the fact you’re no longer 25 and have had previous problems in paying rent. You don’t wanna find yourself again sharing accommodation with awful people or asking for benefits.

My advice is to stick with it and implement some detachment from the environment. Don’t let this trouble your life. Find within yourself the strength to go through this. If you change Point of view, things may look different.

I know it’s easier said than done, but it’s worth a try I think!
Or if you decide to change job, first look for a new one, then tell them you’re leaving.

I don’t know in your country but here millions are without a job now!

All the best

 

[becalm]

and if this isn't an option, or my interpretation doesn't fit, then i still think in some way you'll find some relief soon, based on 47.5, although it might feel exhausting for the time being.

I was feeling exhausted about it all so I decided to take time out for the rest of May and felt such a sense of relief!

 

[diamant]

@becalm it's obvious that your colleagues and boss do not have the same work ethics and honesty/integrity as you. Honesty and integrity not only don't work with such people, on the contrary, they turn out to your disadvantage, as your colleagues will 'attack' you overtly or covertly.
They can't change - so why waste your energy and lose your income? Why give the job 100% when that turns to your disadvantage? I'd play dumb with them, say you realised how much you appreciate them all, how you love working with them, and just stay and do at least 50% less of what you do (otherwise you make their incompetence more obvious). They've proven that they do not deserve your honesty. [sorry for not getting to your readings, I really wanted to write this, based on my bitter work experience]

 

[becalm]

@becalm it's obvious that your colleagues and boss do not have the same work ethics and honesty/integrity as you. Honesty and integrity not only don't work with such people, on the contrary, they turn out to your disadvantage, as your colleagues will 'attack' you overtly or covertly.
They can't change - so why waste your energy and lose your income? Why give the job 100% when that turns to your disadvantage? I'd play dumb with them, say you realised how much you appreciate them all, how you love working with them, and just stay and do at least 50% less of what you do (otherwise you make their incompetence more obvious). They've proven that they do not deserve your honesty. [sorry for not getting to your readings, I really wanted to write this, based on my bitter work experience]

It's true and I heard this thing yesterday - playing the confusing game - so it doesn't matter how I ask her to rectify things she's going to pretend confusion so she doesn't have to take action.
In the end of this present situation, I just bypassed the Supervisor and told the Owner I wasn't available for shifts (I'm casual) until the end of May. She's fine with it and allows it because most of the casuals are students. The Owner likes to work in with the casuals so she always has a 'pool' to pull from if needed.

You're right it won't change but I'm not someone that can just do half a job. I'm not there to impress anyone, it's my own work ethic. If I do less than, I would be letting myself down.....I'll just see how I feel by the end of May. Knowing my life, anything's possible!!