guidance on an emerging friendship/love interest (?)

[greenfrog]

Hi all

I was wondering if you could help work something out. I met someone who I knew from way back but never developed a close relationship with. I was over to my home town last weekend and met him by chance in a bar. We spent the night together and when I got home we just ended up chatting online a lot.

I am very thrilled about it all because I think we have a lot in common and that he likes me. But I just come out of a wrong relationship and I want to be more careful about what I do and who I fall for, if that's ever possible. In some way I think it is, it just a matter of cold awareness. We are very different in terms of background and education but very similar in a 'spiritual' way that is our values and what we look for in life.

I asked a series of questions to try and work out what I should be doing about all this. I can see myself going into 'loved up' mode which I am very wary of because I need to really try to know what I need in a relationship and not to fall into the wrong one so to speak, which will not nourish me or my partner.

So here it goes

What should I do about J? 22.3.6 - 24 (I got 22 and 24 a lot lately relating to my old relationship and other stuff and can't quite work it out)

Then I asked again what's my position within the situation? 25.4.5 - 27 (Here I am basically wondering if I'm interested for the right reasons or if it is just blind attachment to someone else or blind excitment about the newness of it all?

What's his position within all of that? 46.4 - 32 (I think this means he likes me)

What would a relationship together be like? 8.5 - 2

Thanks in advance and over to you wizzards :bows:

 

[lloyd]

Hi greenfrog
I'll go with you as far as 24, which is the birth of something between you and X.
Both of you have elegance, like two peas in a pod (22/3), and seem to have the awareness that elegance ONLY will not see you through in the end (22/6). Reasons to be cheerful about a new beginning (24).
So, hit the dance floor, see how things work out and your further questions may get answered.:bows:

 

[greenfrog]

Hi Lloyd

Thank you very much for this response. I was away for a while this is why it took me so long to respond. This fits in with how I feel about the situation. We knew each other when we were young and have lots in common, but by now both of us have had a lot of experience in failing relationships and getting on is no longer sufficient. You have to be aligned spiritually and purposefully design the relationship you want to make it work, no longer letting oneself go with the motions.

Thanks so much for this.

G

 

[lloyd]

be aligned spiritually and purposefully design the relationship

Sounds a bit weighty, as I Ching suggests that this awareness will develop spontaneously between the two of you; but yes, in a sense you are right. Enjoy