help with 3 choices!

[alev]

ok, I am kind of standing at a crossroads here and need to make a huge life choice.

I asked "should I leave my job and accept position at company X?" hexagram 50

"should I do nothing at all and stay in my current company/job?" hexagram 26

"should I pack up and move to Hawaii and re start my life there?" hexagram 54.2.3->55

I was really hoping for some very clear path but I am torn, hex 50 advises supreme good fortune and "Thus the superior man consolidates his fate By making his position correct." this seems to say Definately yes go to company X!!
BUT hex 26 is great restraint, and seems to say STAY!

the third reading is also confuses me, I cannot understand how to relate the marrying maiden, especially these two lines to a reading about moving half way across the world to restart my life.
I definately need to make a decsion, one of the three things above and i simply do not know what to do, any help on these readings will be greatly appreciated...
:bows:

 

[alev]

hijacking my own thread here because I realized my third reading may actually pertain to my REASON for wanting to move to Hawaii. I have always loved it there but never considered moving there until I just recently caught my man cheating and upon my discovery of it, he left me. It has been a very very painful time for me and being here, everything just reminds me of him and I just want to go away forever and put it all behind, nothing to remind me of him. I think line 2 of hex 54 shows exactly what happened and line 3 says:
A girl who is in a lowly position and finds no husband may, in some
circumstances, still win shelter as a concubine.
my man left me, I can not find a husband but i can still win shelter...in Hawaii, leading to abundance (hex 55)?!!! any thoughts on this? when i had first read that answer as i got it, i thought it was definately negative, now i am not so sure...

 

[alev]

weirdly enough I just did some readings on my (ex) relationship, I had asked for image to show me my relationship with him as it stands now and received hex 8. Little shocked about this but maybe is just the image of what I want. And when asking his position towards me now I received hex 46.3->7
pushing upwards into and EMPTY CITY!!!
how bizare my reading about moving gave me a relationship hex and my relationship reading gave me a hex about a city!

 

[diamanda]

I asked "should I leave my job and accept position at company X?" hexagram 50
This is super positive, as you can see yourself. Of course, as it will be a new
beginning, you'll have to work slowly and steadily towards great success, prove
and consolidate yourself, etc.

"should I do nothing at all and stay in my current company/job?" hexagram 26
This also sounds great, the difference with your first question being that in your
current job you've already got a good position, it's more secure, 'stored up', so
it sounds to me that both these options are great, up to you if you feel like
starting over with a new success or continuing with your current solid position.

"pack up and move to Hawaii and re start my life there?" hexagram 54.2.3->55
I'm not sure if this refers to your relationship with your ex. It could be that, as
well as what could happen if you go to Hawaii. Moving to a different location will
not protect you from being "solitary" (54:2) or a "slave/concubine" (54:3). And
yet this reading is not that bad, 55 speaks of a colourful life, even if someone
is alone and thus needs to accept a 54:3 secondary position. This is something
which could happen to you anywhere in the world, and since your question is
specifically about going to Hawaii, the answer is showing you what could happen
over there (ie take all the trouble of moving just to possibly face the same).

As to where your relationship with your ex "stands", LiSe translates this as
"stand by", as in "standing next" to someone, and even "two people standing
back to back - or a man and a woman. The middle between East and West?".
I wonder if this refers to the fact that you are still in the same town - or, that
each of you is now in close proximity with different people. 8 usually shows a
heartfelt tangible union between like-minded people, and yet I've seen it
sometimes in my readings to mean literally "actually being somewhere nearby",
without any other feelings/union involved. Very hard to tell which it is for you
here. His position towards you, the empty city could be referring literally to you
wanting to move away, or, to him seeing someone in another city (?), or even
perhaps metaphorically to state the obvious that you two are not together.

 

[alev]

Thank you for reading and offering your thoughts Diamanda!
In my ramblings above I had neglected to mention the circumstances involving the new job offer seemed very "fated" I had 3 random, unexpected, very direct signs or nudges from the universe if you will about it and then boom the offer came! So the text of hex 50 about fate seemed very appropriate. I began negotiations for it last night, so we shall see!!
my current position is very stable BUT I have been very very unhappy here for awhile, I know in my heart this isn't where I should be and felt stuck with no prospects for years now. I am still unsure about Hawaii though and will do another reading about it maybe this weekend to clarify some thoughts.
This has been such a tough time, I feel like if I could I would just crawl out of my body and mind and escape I am not sure if he is dating the other woman, I have no way of knowing, I don't even know what really transpired. Evidence of something emerged, I confronted and he bailed without acknowledgement or explaination. No closure, nothing, Just left me in complete shock and confusion. I agree with your last comment I think the "empty city" is our relationship. I still want him very badly and I feel like my strong emotions are polluting my readings that I have done about him. For example, I have always interpreted hex 8 as "seeking union with..." that is definately what I am feeling towards him. As another exaple last night asked his feelings for me now and got 13.3.4.5.6->24, which momentarily elated me until I realized he hasn't called me or made any effort to talk to me. So I am left to assume the readings are just showing me my side of emotions. I am pretty much in the worst hour of my life right now

 

[diamanda]

So sorry to hear you're going through such a difficult time. I had a look at
an older post of yours, is that the same guy who was creating problems for
you some months ago? If yes then he doesn't sound like a great character
to be with. This kind of person does not change, and i'd bet money that
he'll do the same to the next girl(s) he meets, if that's any consolation!
And if it is the same guy, especially one of your questions back then, "Is
he here to stay for good (meaning has he found what he wants in me)"
?40.6-->64, seems to point to the fact that he's a predator (and quite
inedible himself). 64, not yet across, perhaps because at the time you
hadn't seen the full truth yet. From what i've seen in life so far, this
type of man almost never changes and they usually end up alone when
their good looks abandon them. As about his feelings for you now,
13.3.4.5.6->24, this sounds to me like he's a bit apprehensive and
somewhat looking over his shoulder to see if you're anywhere around,
but once he sees you're not, he enjoys some good times with old friends
(13:5), with new friends (13:6 - and "at the frontier/border"..?) and it's
all easy-come easy-go (24). He obviously knows he deserves a good
telling off, should you happen to see him, and he probably wants to
avoid that.

On a much more positive side, well done for starting procedures on
that new job! Since your current stable one is not what you want, and
things in general are not ideal, at least change one thing for the better,
and who knows, many more good events might well follow. With an
answer like 50, i'd even dare to think that you might meet someone
new at/through your new job, fingers crossed.

 

[alev]

Yep, this is the same guy and this isn't even just the second time this has happened I am ashamed to say. But he has always come back at some point but the way he handled things this time I am terrified he never will. I know he is bad and will likely never change but I also know that he is the man I love. Terrible postion for me to be in.
I like how you translated the 13->24 reading though, definately seems to make sense in this context.
Thank you so much for reading my post and reaching out to me
As soon as I hear about the verdict on the new position, I will give another update...

 

[alev]

well, to update on the job offer here, I did not get it in the end. Surprising because hex 50 seemed so promising...And I am still looking for an out of my current position but nothing else just yet...

On the other hand, my guy has come back so the hex 8 I drew before I guess was an accurate picture after all. Proceeding very cautiously from here...

 

[diamanda]

Glad to hear your man is back. Since you love him this can only be good news!

As about the 50 and you not taking the job, I find this quite strange indeed.
The way you phrased your question was should I leave my job and accept
position at company X, which implies that you were already offered a position
there. Perhaps you should have asked "will i be offered a position at company
X", but then again 50 is simply a totally auspicious answer. One of those
cases where I feel inclined to throw the I Ching in the bin Wishing you well.

 

[alev]

haha! don't throw it in the bin just yet! The circumstances were this...I was meeting with this business owner for an un-job related reason and had a fleeting thought, imagine he offers me a job! I had no reason to think he would, don't know why I thought that and I soon forgot about it...until I met him and he randomly threw in that he has this position open that I would be great for and wanted me to apply. I was stunned and though I had reservations, I put in my resume after consulting the I ching. The job was never fully offered to me per say as it was mainly just suggested...however, I think I would have had it except when it came down to negotiating the salary they just could not match what I am earning now and I couldn't afford to take a pay cut so it didn't work. maybe I am making a mistake by not taking the pay cut?
I don't know but it has set things in motion, I have done research and applied for other positions this week, so I am "consolidating my fate" in a way and things are looking up
I finally feel like I have the strength back to get motivated and do something about my crappy situation in life.
My boyfriend is back and acting like nothing ever happened and though I love him, I am looking for marriage and starting to look at things differently now. I am putting HIM on hold until I figure out what I want to do, stay or leave and find a more stable partner.
I have not ruled out Hawaii yet either, only I've been so busy and unable to find some quiet time to do some readings on it.
Wishing you well also and Thank you for all your kind words