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Hex 11.2 > 36 Elizabeth, are you still out there?

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I just found this long thread and ended up reading the whole thing! http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/friends/newreply.php?p=127216&noquote=1 I'm in almost the same situation now myself, just a little older. But no wiser! I've been 4 years struggling with my business, which has been on a steady decline. After 30 years at the top of my field, I've lost so much in this economic crisis - for me it's still going on. And 3 years in love with one man, who is so perfect for me in every possible way that I honestly can't even see anyone else - I'm blind to other men. But he's not with me. He's such a dear friend, even a partner in my work often, and he's in the same situation I'm in - struggling for professional and personal re-invention after a successful 30-year career, and a 25-year marriage. We met in an amazing stroke of fate - totally unexpected and out of the blue but pure joy for the first 6 months. Laughter and empathy and enthusiasm and everything beautiful and promising. We made plans for our business together and for travel we wanted to do, and even spoke of living and working together at one or two points. I truly saw signs from the universe that convinced me without any doubt that he my soul mate and that this was a fated encounter. They might sound crazy to some people, but I'm serious.

But for some reason, well a long series of reasons actually (I was married when we first met, we live 400 miles apart, we're both broke and really busy trying to find clients and keep our respective houses and make it through these economic times), we haven't been able to really get together. And as time passes, it's seeming less and less urgent - to him at least. For me he's all I think about every day now for the past 3 years! I'm afraid he'll find someone else closer to home. He does see different women and that's okay. But I want to be the one he ends up with. I'm desperately lonely at times. And profoundly sad to be apart from him. Today I went for a hike up into the redwood groves and sat on a log and just cried for an hour. Tears running down my face. He's been my best friend - we talk all the time and see each other whenever we can. But I've felt the energy shifting recently. There's a woman he's been working with and I think they've become involved in a romantic relationship. I don't know for sure... She's helping him which is great, but I wanted to be the one to help him! :hissy: I've tried and he didn't take MY advice! So I feel selfish, and guilty, and like I have a self-serving agenda. Torn between a spiritual approach (happy for him) and a real-life, real girl who needs a real man approach (frustrated!) I've spent the past 3 years trying to help him in every way, and now along comes this chick...

I asked Yi finally, is this woman a real threat to my intentions with him? I've been waiting a long time for him to come around and ask me again to move in with him. This time I wouldn't hesitate. My answer was Hex 11.2 changing to 36.

I'm so much like Elizabeth in this regard. Frustrated with waiting. Feeling like I'm so ready for this relationship. And upset that this has been delivered half-way. It's like the universe has said here's the perfect partner for you, but you can't have him. At my age, 60, what are the chances this will happen a second time? He's the only person I've been attracted to since I met my husband 25 years ago.

I would so appreciate some help from the good people here with this reading! I'm usually pretty good at understanding Yi, but this situation is so highly charged for me, I guess it's being obscured maybe by my own urgency in needing an answer. I do not want to give up on this man, but it he's elsewhere in his head, maybe I have no choice?
 
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Oh, and if you ARE still out there Elizabeth...and I hope you are! what happened with YOUR guy?
 

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If you click on her name a page will come up that gives you the option to send her an email.

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Thanks, Rosada.

Looks like I can't send a message to Elizabeth because her inbox is full and won't accept any new messages. Do you have any insight on my reading and what it could mean for my particular situation - which is a little different from Elizabeth's?
 

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11.2 is a pretty positive line for peace and harmony so I don't think the I Ching is saying this woman is a threat but the line does mention trying to remember people who are at a distance and the importance of keeping things pleasant and balanced. So it seems to me to be describing the situation - you are far apart so your relationship is no longer in romance mode but has stabilized as "friends".
Perhaps you would get value from asking the I ching what you can do to advance the relationship.

Good luck,
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Thank you Rosada. Yes, I know we are friends, but that's just the problem. I want him as my lover, not just my friend, as wonderful as that is. I can't help it! That particular desire occupies my mind constantly. I asked Yi the question you suggested and the answer brought up a whole new set of issues. H 41.1.3 > 18. Confusing, to me anyway. 3 travelling together become 2! That seems quite pointed with regards to my original question. I'm just not sure if I'm part of the 2, or the one who goes off alone. As for the other line... well, I do give him a lot - moral support, time, friendship, love, encouragement, ideas, inspiration! Doing that makes me happy generally. If it's diminishing me, that would only be because I continue to hold the space for him in my heart, and like I said, I'm blind to anyone else. The other side of that line could mean that if I were to give up on him, walk away from this situation in order to diminish or repress my desire, and try to get over him, it might really hurt him. I believe he would feel it as quite a loss. So it feels confusing to me.
 
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Hi Lilita,
I apologize about the inbox & the delayed reply. I literally have no free time these days so I haven't been on the forum in years until a day or two ago. If you want comments on the 11.2 i can share the outcome but there was nothing great in the short term from my 2010 posts. It was a really dark period for me for a really long time.

I reread my own thread just now on 11.2-36 > gosh there was SO MUCH support and love and help there, I'm really humbled by all of it. I'm grateful to every person who helped me at that time!

The one thing that strikes me in retrospect is that this set of hexes is actually reversed -- that is, we tend to read the hexes as first comes first and second comes in the future (which numerous posts have indicated is not the case). But in this case the darkness in hex 36 is the CURRENT state -- and the future is in line 2, the light in the future is out there, it's what the goal is, it is where the finish line is. So I see this set of 11.2>36 as indicating NOW you are in darkness but it will pass.

I got the same hexes recently too but regarding a totally different issue... In any case: Good luck to you :)
 

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