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I told my lover I love him for the first time over the weekend. He kissed me and said many kind things but never verbally expressed "love" back.

So...

I asked " Please give me insight into why he did not tell me he loved me as well."

Yi replied with Hexagram 26 Unchanging.

Thoughts? Advice? Comments? Criticisms?

Thanks in advance!
 
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When we say we love someone it isn't to hear them say it back, if they do its wonderful, but we say it because that's how we feel in the that moment, a deep love, and so we share it and express it. 26- calls for big restraint but also seems to translate not to eat alone, to create, and to share. To build up what we stored or our energy. I wouldn't personally worry too much on why he didn't say it back, he expressed not through words. He hasn't ran off. I am very old fashioned, so for me the man should do most of the initiating and wooing if you will. I'm sure many people will disagree. In my experience it works better when the yang or man takes the lead. But I see nothing wrong with you expressing and sharing your love. So now restrain yourself but keep your love glowing and building inside. Have you read the sticky on relationship readings? Lots of great advice and knowledge in there. Another question you could ask is "what advice do I need in my relationship with (name)?" Or "what is the general diagnosis of my relationship with (name)?" Maybe someone else will have even better insight as I am sure there is some out there. You can take all I say with a grain of salt, because what works for me, might not work for you. Take care and be blessed :)

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Thanks Blue Angel. I couldn't agree more. Because we are both men, I am not sure who should have said it first. LOL! I'm just teasing you a bit; I am a woman. I love tradition but find it very hard for me to be traditional. I am done doing the initiating and wooing for awhile, I'm heeding your advice and taking my love to the back burner.

I did read the sticky many moons ago. It never really occurred to me to ask about this relationship in the way you suggested. I asked "what advice do I need in my relationship with (name)?" and received 12 unchanging. Seems like I may need to hitch my wagon to a different horse in the end.

Thanks for your feedback. I appreciate it!
 
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:roll: thanks for that. You had me. That was awesome. If you were both men then the advice would be for whoever is the yang energy of the two to take the lead/woo/initiate. Anyway 12 is definitely not my favorite but I've never had it last forever. If you love him I wouldn't take off running just yet. 12 can very easily turn back to 11. I've had that happen in a course of a day! But there are blockages now, things are not quite flowing. This can also be answering depending on how you are deeply feeling? In 12 I have to wait it out, I focus on other things. Maybe
someone else has more to add. Did you
meditate and clear your mind before your
asked? Balance yourself a bit? Either way...
time will tell. If I got these two and I truly
loved someone, I would work on other things,
keep myself busy, let some time pass. See
what his next move is and flow with it. Unless you can slowly work out a way to clear the block. He kissed you right? He was loving? He didn't run away? Was it awkward after or when you parted?
 

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Glad you liked my joke. Thanks for sharing. It is indeed time to focus on other things.

There was no awkwardness. He was quite loving in his actions and words but he seemed to avoid the word "love" itself. That's probably more about him than me. Today I am more unfocused than usual. Meditation sounds great.

Again thanks for replying!
 
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re h12 being not necessarily time to hitch your wagon: unless you concur with the direction the two of you are moving: apart. You could always turn one of your magnets 180 degrees. Hilary shared an interesting 24-view of what this might look like.

A matter of turning the mind around, reconnecting, setting oneself back in context. 24, perhaps.
 

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How long ago was his last relationship? He was shocked and overjoyed by how sudden and clear you were in sharing your feelings. This is a good thing overall, and he'll tell you by the end of October how he really feels.
 

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@1eleven his last relationship was 2 years ago. I sure hope you're right.
@sooo Thanks! Can you help me understand your reference to 24 view? 180 degree magnets? It's all kind of Greek to me.
 
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1eleven please share how you came to your conclusions in the hexagrams, enlighten us with the deepening of knowledge and insight you have. :)
 

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A true magician never reveals his secret.

Just kidding. I'll elaborate soon.
 

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How long ago was his last relationship? He was shocked and overjoyed by how sudden and clear you were in sharing your feelings. This is a good thing overall, and he'll tell you by the end of October how he really feels.

As requested, here is a more detailed breakdown of my reply.

"How long ago was his last relationship?"
I came to this response by way of Hilary's book based on sequence - 25. "To be fully engaged with present opportunity, you must first be fully disentangled from the past." I see this 2 ways - either a relationship ended recently or a while ago. So, this is just a guess but perhaps his last relationship escalated rather quickly and this brought about a response of not wanting to repeat history of a failed relationship.

As for him being shocked, and overjoyed by how sudden and clear - this is derived from the nuclear trigrams of wood/thunder over lake/metal. Wood injures metal so this is a slight misfortune. To take this a step further, wood is "dead" in Autumn and Metal is Prosperous - hence me stating this is a good thing eventually - this overcomes the slight misfortune of wood/metal. I use the nuclear trigrams as "progress" of a situation. Metal is also the base trigram of the Primary hex and Earth (mountain - stillness/silence in this situation) produces Metal indicating good fortune. Without a resulting hexagram, I looked closer at the nuclear - this is where I gathered a good result in autumn/fall - this ends 'around' October causing me to make a judgement of his response coming by end of Fall. To take an additional stab at the timing (which is difficult without a few more details of the reading) I'd say you'll know more in 7 days from the initial reading.

I hope this helps.

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Thank you 1eleven, I will have to give your method a go, and see how it turns out for me.

UniqueCookie,

Please let us know how this turns out for you!

Best wishes,

Blue_Angel
 
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@sooo Thanks! Can you help me understand your reference to 24 view? 180 degree magnets? It's all kind of Greek to me.

I'm sure there are several apropos Greek metaphors for polarity. The heaven/earth polarity is pushing away from one another, as when you turn the + side of a magnet to another + side of another magnet, - to - gives the same result. But turn just one of them around 180, and the forces attract rather than repel. So there's a condition of 11 rather than 12... return toward rather than push away.

From there, Hilary's comment just inspired me in a mechanical and visual way, that just clicked.
 

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I wanted to thank and update you all. As of yesterday, November 3rd, he expressed verbally how he felt for me that he cares deply and that he can see himself being with me...etc. I plan to allow this to unfold in any course it goes with a positive and open-minded attitude.
 

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