Hex 35.6 relationship question?

[SophiaNY]

Lisa, that's an interesting 'story'. I guess it would all work together pointing towards not texting.

Thanks, too, Trojina. I'm not sure if the relationship is on it's way out or not. I'm not trying to further it by texting him happy birthday, just to be kind--as we always have been to each other--in a time of necessary 'split'.

Who knows, maybe Lisa is right and I am being advised to be coy? Or not. Don't know. Not sure what to make of the additional castings in light of all this. They didn't seem too hugely bothered one way or the other, as long as I don't overstep myself (which seems to be the one absolute area of agreement in all this?)

 

[ginnie]

I asked "what is the energy around doing something to reach out?"
I got 44.2.3.4.5. > 23

To me this says that you might get all twisted up over the decision to text or not to text. If you can do it lightly, without a lot of strain, it would be okay, but when the question starts to go in circles and starts to become an obsession -- well, meditation is the way to quiet the mind.

I have found that Yi rarely gives a clear green "go" or red "stop" signal, and it is never just saying one thing. And you find this same diversity in the various translations. For example, Hilary says "go" for 35.6, but many others take the opposite view. Given this lack of agreement on many of the lines, probably the best place to look for an answer to this question is into your own heart. If your heart is overloaded with worry and concern for what is right and appropriate . . . let yourself settle down. The important thing is for you to feel peaceful within yourself.

 

[SophiaNY]

Thanks ginnie. That's kind of what I meant about my own energies about the situation being reflected back at me, my knickers in a twist. (Don't worry, mulberry, I'm also listening about not overdoing that subjective side of things! )

This has actually been a really good learning curve for me on how to use I Ching generally, and I'm grateful for all the different angles I've been given. Each one helps me learn more and try to develop my own intuition about using it.

 

[SophiaNY]

I had the thought, this evening, what if I forget texting and just plan to send him a one-sentence email? That feels emotionally safe, no expectations, perfunctory but also aware of the distance and keeping myself back and out of any potential for drama (texting, to me, always has a greater feeling of closeness and expectation of closeness).

I asked Yi and got 53 unchanging. I know my initial question was what approach to take overall to his birthday, and that it was ambiguous about whether to act, and then my subsequent questions were about any form of contact (though I had texting in mind), but this seemed pretty okay, and a good middle path? It's the only unchanging hex I've received in this line of query...

Thanks for all the input. Obviously not the most important question in the world, but as I said, I'm also learning a lot about how it all works. Blessings to all!