Hex 40, Unchanging: A "Why" Question

[All Is One]

Hello everyone!

Just now I asked the I Ching about a particular situation I'm experiencing with a new friend who seemed to be a rather mature, wise person. I asked why he had utterly stopped communicating with me, which is not the way a mature, wise person would react, in my opinion. I have tried reaching out, but nothing. The intention behing my question is to know if it is because of something I said or did, seeing that he won't tell me. Oddly enough, this same hexagram appeared the first time I asked about him when we met: "Why has this person arrived in my life at this time?". I don't remember if there was a changing line or if this was the resulting hexagram. I also received it unchanging when last night I asked why je hadn't replied to my intent for further communication.

My experience with the I Ching is that I rarely interpret it correctly. To me it means that he might percieve that I have let go of our new friendship, but judging from my actions, there is no way he possibly could think that. Or maybe he is going through a period of release, but I don't know how that release could be due to anything I said or did.

Your help is greatly appreciated. No one likes to lose a new good friend for no apparent reason.

 

[Endless]

Hi!
I'm sorry to read that, I've experienced the same with a few friends in the last year. To give you some context, it has been a time of general changes in my life and I didn't understand either why some of my closest acquaintances were reacting as I never care about them, just because I had to leave.
In my view the message of 40 uc. as a response to your question could be 'release' in the sense of 'forgive', whatever the reason is that lead him to act like that. I hope that helps,
Have a nice day, or evening, wherever you are
Endless

 

[All Is One]

Thank you, Endless!

I know, it's terrible to feel guilty for being your authentic self, specially when you care about the other person and put thought into what you say and do to demonstrate that loving kindness. Oh, well...

In my view the message of 40 uc. as a response to your question could be 'release' in the sense of 'forgive', whatever the reason is that lead him to act like that. I hope that helps,
Have a nice day, or evening, wherever you are
Endless

So, you think the IC responded not in regards to the reason for my friend's behavior but instead about how I should react to it?

 

[moss elk]

So, you think the IC responded not in regards to the reason for my friend's behavior but instead about how I should react to it?

Yes, it seems to be counsel for you.

This will happen. It happens to me too.
The best thing is to be prepared to receive either type,
And to slow down and really listen so you can distinguish which type it is.

Sometimes I get exactly the kind of answer I am seeking,
Sometimes I get the answer I NEED to hear.


Little Tommy is in the garage diligently working on his bicycle , dreaming of his adventures once he is mobile. Aunt Pearl sits in the corner, smoking a pipe, rocking in her chair, watching nephew work and, gazing out into the street.
Tommy asks, "Auntie, do you think the red or black playing cards look better decorating my wheels?"
Aunt Pearl replies, "Keep Still, Stay home today."
Confused, Tommy scratches his head and thinks, "She didn't say Black and she didn't say Red,..."
In a moment it dawns on him to say, "Huh?", and look up from the work he was focused on. He sees a herd of Jackalope rampaging through the neighborhood, eating everything and everyone on site. He turns to Auntie and says, "Yes, it IS a good day to stay home." So, he closes the garage door and they go make some popcorn and watch I Love Lucy.

 

[Endless]

Yi sometimes speaks like a grandmother would, that's true. And what a beautiful story,
Thanl you Moss Elk.
E.

 

[All Is One]

What a wonderful story! It literally made me smile.

Of course the wise old IC would reply with what I truly need to hear and not succumb to my whims.

Thank you, Endless and and Moss Elk. You've been lifesavers. I feel much more centered now.

:bows: