Hex 44.1.2.3 to 25

[schalimar]

Good afternoon all,

Here the context of my question:
I met this new person Y a few months ago now and we like each others, sharing a lot of respect, laughing and friendship. We see each others time to time because he works close to my place, and we have commun friends. But being both hearth borken, we told each other that we will just hang out, what we do with great pleasure. I believe our link is soft and gentle. I saw him twice this week end and it made me realize I really needed to cut all the contacts I still have with my ex boyfriend because it is still sucking my time, my energy and all my peace (he broke my heart but also my own selfesteem after a 3 years relationship and he still writes me everyday!!! I answer but I want to stop this mascarade and set myself free from him! Problem he hols my cat in hostage, so it means I ve to go face him one last time before chasing him from my life - and even the idea of dealing with him one last time makes me feel unconfortable - I wish I could just disappear, even though it makes me sad that I have to do that, it would be for my own good, to move one).
I should also tell you, I'm really happy I'm not commited to my ex anymore, and can't wait to grow further and keep dreaming. I really appreciate this new freedom I didn't feel since I've met my ex 3 years ago!

So, I've asked the Yi this question:
What could happen between me and Y and I got 44.1.2.3 changing to 25.
I thought it was interesting to see that line 1 and 2 were about Metal, when I now know that this new person Y is a Metal chinese element (metal fending wood) and because my ex was wood. I'm earth, so you know.

The negative elements I can consider are my fears for this closure with my ex, fears for commitment, but most of all, fears of liking someone again.

I have complete my question asking: what attitude should I follow toward this new friend Y. And i got hex 43 unchanging.

What would you advice me about those reading?
Thanks a lot

Schalimar :bows:

 

[precision grace]

44 to 25 sounds to me like innocently walking into an ass-whooping (figuratively and maybe otherwise) having been enticed by something that just seemed very sweet and innocent and too good to let pass.

I'd be happy to go and get your cat from your ex as long as you are not too far away. Provided the cat is better off with you, of course.

 

[newlife123]

You are right to discontinue all contact with your ex. The idea of retracting love and merely maintaining a warm friendship is an idealism that has no basis in reality. The best moments of passion, hope, and intimacy will always remain as memories whose lingering loss will only be frustrating and saddening. Though distance and time can heal the wounds, so too do they obstruct all that was originally attracting, thus obviating any second chances.
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Though it could be said that that is a great regret to lose both a good friend and a lover, in reality it is no regret since your original purpose was not to be merely just friends.
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Further contact with him can only serve to psychologically and physically block each other from meeting new people.

As for your reading:
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Why rip yourself off and settle a relationship that is beneath you or just not right? You will live in constant discontent.
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Any perfect love is the restoring of two separated spirits into a unified whole. Thus a soulmate is easily recognized and feels at once like an old friend you have known for years. Now does this sound like the "y" guy you're thinking of? I bet not. If he isn't right for you then he doesn't belong to you and you do not have the right to waste his time either.
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So how do you really know what kind of love is right for you? How do you know if your assumptions are based on ideals you were taught to assume by society or other external sources? How do you know if your previous love experiences were based in totally wrong ideals?
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If you really want to know then throw everything away and start over.

INNOCENCE!

 

[schalimar]

This is what I want: to start over. Thanks a lot for those answers.
Though, I believe I met those two mates (Y and my ex) before.

I think I should start clearing off all connections I have because I trully dont need them (it speaks about 5 boys. It might be a little bit true, even though they are just friends).
It is funny also because I have 4 brothers, + my dad= 5.

I want to be free and on my own to be able to welcome someone else one day.
Thank for your help.

 

[Trojina]

Hi, you asked me to comment in PM so I'll try but I pay no attention to what is metal etc etc.

Purely as an impression 44.1.2.3>25 looks like an unknown quantity indeed. Might be worth being a bit careful. I think it looks like something that starts off with a lot of flow and ease (11 is the yang change pattern) but kind of peters out a bit (yin pattern 12) I'm not sure how much you can trust this relationship.....but I'm not keen on answering relationship questions I'm afraid Basically in 44 one is advised not to 'marry into' ie try to make anything long lasting. It may just be short term thing that enlivens you and strengthens resolve to finish with your ex....but who knows, things change so fast in relationships. if it were my reading I'd be wary of placing too many expectations on this...much better to play it by ear, just enjoy it for what it is...without expecting it to be more

 

[littlebuddha]

Hi Schalimar
Sorry for my late response, i am abroad and i don't spend much time online...
My impressions is the same as Trojan's - with "Innocence" as relating hexagram, you can indeed expect 'the unexpected' and albeit that can be great, it would take getting rid of all preconceived ideas about romantic relating, letting go all expectations... and i am really not sure neither how realistic is that nor why would you do it. To me the thing with the new guy seems not more than a crash, with not too big potential to become something else; of course, with a complete change in one's outlook and attitudes - any relation can bring us fulfillment, but being you i'd wait for some more promising to last opportunity to go work on my core believes about love (and life in general.)
Do get rid of your ex, though (at least that's what i'd do if that was my casting.)
It will all pan out for the best, you'll see :bows:

lb

Hi, you asked me to comment in PM so I'll try but I pay no attention to what is metal etc etc.

Purely as an impression 44.1.2.3>25 looks like an unknown quantity indeed. Might be worth being a bit careful. I think it looks like something that starts off with a lot of flow and ease (11 is the yang change pattern) but kind of peters out a bit (yin pattern 12) I'm not sure how much you can trust this relationship.....but I'm not keen on answering relationship questions I'm afraid Basically in 44 one is advised not to 'marry into' ie try to make anything long lasting. It may just be short term thing that enlivens you and strengthens resolve to finish with your ex....but who knows, things change so fast in relationships. if it were my reading I'd be wary of placing too many expectations on this...much better to play it by ear, just enjoy it for what it is...without expecting it to be more