hex 44.. can any good come out of it in relationships?

[Snow45]

Hi everyone,

I posted a few threads regarding an ex of mine. I had this feeling all along there was still unfinished business between us. It was just a matter of when. Although in previous reading the outcome was pretty much we will never be together again, time changes everything I guess.

Last week I had an encounter with him where he revealed his feelings for me. No love yet but a big mutual attraction. We have decided to start things again, casually first and see where it leads us... As this happend I ask the yi to many questions and my head just started to hurt... I didn't record any of the answers, but I do recall a lot of it was saying to be receptive and to not push to hard.

This week, giving it a bit more time to clear my head I asked last night... I was after a few drinks so I am not sure how 'focused I was' -
what is the potential for this relationship? 59 dissolution line 3 and 4 changing to 44 ( yikes)

Today I asked - What is the status of this relationship? 17 line 6 changing to 25.

If someone can please help with these readings.. when it comes to this relationship I am so involved I simply just cannot make right sense of what Iching is really saying. I do really have strong feelings for this person and would like it to work out... Also I am wondering as I already have asked so many questions on the subject.. are these answers even relevant any more?

Thanks :bows:

 

[loverofknowledge]

59.3.4 to 44 : right now, the relationship is an encounter, with mutual attraction, while there is the potential that negativity may creep into it, if you are too undisciplined, assertive, or chaotic in your approach.
59 refers to the dissolution of boundaries and blockages, in yourself, and in relationship or groups. This dissolution makes sense since your relationship is now changing forms, -- the old ways are dissolving, so that new structures will form.
In this process 59.3 advises you to let go of who you think you are or should be --and to let go of your self. Give yourself with kindness to the situation and relationship. Do not take things personally or with a self-focused reference. Line 4 asks you to dissolve boundaries with a group, of some kind (or possibly it refers to the relationship itself), so that new ways of relating can happen.
The status of the relationship: 17.6 to 25
You are to make a sacrifice to your "gods"/"god/ whatever you hold sacred-- so that this relationship may be consecrated to what is best and good. You and your partner are ready to be firm -- like a worshipper at a mountain -- in following a path that is life-giving, whatever that may be.
You are getting ready to commit, one way or another.
hex 25 tells you that there's an unexpected factor at play, maybe a nice surprise, or just something unpredictable - so don't try to over-think things or stress yourself by excessive planning, so long as your heart and intentions are in the right place.

 

[Snow45]

Thank you Loverofknowledge that advice makes perfect sense to me, especially the last line.. having my heart and intentions in the right place. Also not to take things to personally. I met him yesterday and spend a wonderful night and morning together.

I asked the Yi when he left to show me a picture of our relationship now and received Hex 3.2 to 60 ... This line is very much confusing as some translations suggest to stick with it and wait and other to let it go.. he is not the right suitor or he is? What would be your thoughts on this reading?

Maybe is suggesting to be patient, wait, give it time and thought and not to run away or get frustrated after the first little obstacle, things take time develop and all will be right with time.. I hope the 10 years isn't so literal,

When I asked about the status of the relationship question above with 17.6 to 25 is suggesting that we are ready to be firm and to commit :/ Also very different from the picture on 3.2

 

[mirian]

I asked the Yi when he left to show me a picture of our relationship now and received Hex 3.2 to 60

Hex 3.2 > 60 - It is early days and this relationship has to be taken one step at a time. With this reading, I don't think this is supposed to be a whirlwind romance! You might have moments of hesitation (from either side), but this is a good thing, as this is not a moment to jump with both feet. Let it develop at its own pace, don't commit yourself entirely straight on. Ten years is not literal, it is just a way of saying that there are things that need time to mature and become clear.

 

[loverofknowledge]

Hi Snow,
As I see it, 17.6 does not mean to commit, in the mundane sense, but rather to consecrate your relationship to good purposes, and to take it seriously.
3.2 says that you might wish to rush into this, but hold back, and let the relationship evolve for "ten years", i.e. a full cycle, and then it may be that you get betrothed. 60 reinforces that message because it says to set appropriate limits and boundaries.
How do you feel in this relationship ?

 

[Snow45]

I feel a little insecure and uncertain in the relationship. I care a lot about this person and the first time around we were together I think I jumped in with 2 feet without really thinking of the consequences. It was love at first sight almost. It was really bad timing for him at the time and he had just ended a really long relationship when we met, so going into a new one wasn't in his radar.

Now that a few months passed, I regained confidence and got myself back on track.. accepted that the relationship was over and I let go of him, Although I did always have a feelings we may pick up again. I didn't think it would happen so soon, it's being 4 months since we parted ways.

I want to trust him and be open and patient, but I guess i have a lot of fear.. of rejection and getting hurt again. I would not like to bring my past issues in the relationship this time around. but he has told me he is not ready to be in a relationship yet.. to give him time. I want to do this, and also for myself to see if even this is the right guy for me. I wish the yi could tell me if he is the man I am meant to be with, then I would have all the patience in the world. But I know it can't predict the future, so it's just having faith in the whole thing.

I guess I also need time to grow and let go of my baggage, thanks again for taking the time to reply to both of you. I really appreciate it! :bows: It helps me to know that there is 'hope' just need to position myself in the flow of things more. Take it slowly..

 

[loverofknowledge]

Hi Snow, that context deepens the message of the Yi.
3.2: the woman is chaste, but she is betrothed in 10 years. And 60: wise regulations.
Keep yourself "pure,' which is not really about sex, here, but about being in the relationship in a way that will preserve your integrity and build a future for you and your partner.
Especially since he says he's not ready to be in a relationship-- and you have a history with him-- enact some wise regulations,whatever those may be. Tell him, you'll only see him IF... and whatever is going to work for you, for the longer term.

 

[mirian]

. I wish the yi could tell me if he is the man I am meant to be with, then I would have all the patience in the world. But I know it can't predict the future

That is right: this reading in particular cannot predict that this guy is the one for you. So it is giving the advice based on present circumstances. And one aspect of hexagram 60 is to accept limitations, which you know already that this relationship is not yet ready for total commitment.