Hex: 51.4>24 and 49.4.>63

[bamagirl]

Hi all. It's been a while since I've been on but I have a question I need some help with. I've looked on the blog at the ones I could find that were close but most were about work.

I met this man and he is pretty great. We are friends with a little extra. We have never been sexually intimate though, only flirting and we kissed a few times. I have known him since March. He sort of comes and goes where he will contact me all the time and then he takes a break for a week or two sometimes. We are in one of those breaks now but it has been 4 weeks.

I asked "What can you tell me about this man, R?" and got 51.4>24
and then "what is the future with our relationship?" 49.4>63

I thought that this is possibly good... but don't want to get my hopes up if I'm reading this wrong. I am not very experienced yet. Thank you in advance for all your help and thouhgts.

 

[dancing white ferret]

51.4>24 "What can you tell me about this man?"

He is 50 50 torn about what to do with you. Neither moving forward or retreating. Sounds like he isn't really sure what he wants. Like he is ambivalent, which means confused and suggests he does have feeling for you to me. 24 suggests a turning point here.

49.4>63 "What is the future of our relationship?"

This, like 24, also suggests a turning point in your relationship to me. My experience has shown 49 to be a 180. Line 4 talks about a change in government. I would read this as a dramatic change in attitude. 63 reads like you are all lined up for a big change here. But 63 is also very unstable. Don't count on it either. But, if you were at all interested in more with this man, this shows the potential is there. Things could turn around! Just my take on it. Hope this helps you.

What else is going on with him? Sounds like he's scared to get emotionally involved with someone. At least, the situation your readings describe suggest that to me. Sounds like he could be down for something real with you or may run for the hills... Might want to ask what you should do in this situation to bring about the change you are looking for. In the end it is his choice, but you can certainly draw him toward you a bit. Let us know what the Yi advises for your action.

 

[bamagirl]

Thank you so much for your insight. And yes you are very right. Each time he comes back we get a little bit closer and then he vanishes. lol. From what I understand he has been hurt very badly, from his wife and last girlfriend who cheated on him with his best friend. I would definitely say he is a bit fear based. He is also used to younger women (25ish), from what I've seen, jumping when he says jump. We are 40. He isn't used to not getting his way... so me not sleeping with him unless we are in a committed relationship seems to fluster him. I will say he is very special and I am very much intrested in more with him. We have had a strong connection since we first met. It was very bazar to me. LOL.

 

[bamagirl]

I asked as you suggested, "What should I do to bring about the change I'm looking for, which is a committed relationship"
I got 16.1.2.3>34.

 

[dancing white ferret]

34 suggests from my experience that he has a strong sexual attraction to you and/or vice versa. I'm sure there is way more to it than that, but just thought I'd mention it... Hexagram 61 suggests you already have insight into your question. I read line 1 as do not put stock in unrealized potential or outcomes. Line 2 suggests you do have some kind of connection with this person. That you are similar in character somehow or have a good communication. Some read this as a soul mate line. I don't. This hexagram used to come up with my ex all the time. And it warns that bonds exist even among thieves. We had some great times, great conversation, but the relationship was not built on much substance. Not a very deep connection, but we had a common interest though if ya know what I mean. Also, 61 implies that you are dealing with someone difficult to influence. I know I was... Line 3 reads to me that you are obsessing over this person, and don't put too much energy into thinking about this. Hope this helps... 61 has me doubting he's suitable for a commitment... What's your gut feeling on him?

 

[bamagirl]

Sorry for asking but you were talking about 16 and not 61, right? LOL There were alotta ones beside that 6, haha.

My gut feeling, since the first time I saw his face was he was specially made for me... finally after all these years he'd finally arrived. I think he feels the connection like I do but it's scary(to me too). He even said one time how I scared him. LOL. It is obvious when we are together but I am 50/50 on if he thinks I'm worth risking his heart for or not. Fear is a powerful feeling. For me... I'm all in.

 

[dancing white ferret]

Oops! My bad... A little dyslexic moment there. Phew! 61 stinks for relationships in my experience... I've not had a lot of experience with 16, but I read the lines. I would interpret line 1 as don't come straight out and tell him what you want. Be casual and modest. Don't boast or be forceful in any way. Basically, restrain your enthusiasm. That's how I'd read that line here if it were my reading... Probably shouldn't talk about it to anybody else yet either. They could jinx it. Line 2 seems to point to timing and when to take action. Says "firm like a rock, not a whole day." So, someone has to budge, and looks to me like you will need to make the first move. Or could be a follow up to line 1, like don't say anything to him, his boundaries won't last. But I'm more inclined to think it is the former, with the added advice of recognizing the right time to act. Line 3 says not to look to others to act, but one should take action themselves. Also warns not to hesitate. Could it be suggesting you approach or contact him? It's possible... I don't have any experience to share with these lines, and would certainly get a second opinion before doing that... But, that's how it reads to me. I dunno though. It's always preferable for the guy to make the first move, but sometimes you just have to act first. This makes sense with the 51.4 reading to. He's just inert at this point, so maybe that is the only way to get the ball rolling. Does the timing feel right to you? 49.4>63 does suggest it is the time to turn it around.

 

[bamagirl]

Relationship update/ Hex 24 Unchanging

Hi Again. I have come to update you on this post which began on October 2nd.. I want to thank you all again for all your help. November 7th he texted and wanted to see me. He has been pretty consistent since then. We have grown much much closer.
Two days ago, I was havng a moment. I am in love with this man and I was impatient and irritated it hadn't gotten to a point where he has expressed what he wanted or how he feels about me. My texts were apparently not as timely as they should have been and he asked if everything was okay. LOL... I am almost certain he wished he hadn't because after a day of contemplation I told him how I felt and what I wanted... Which is us moving forward a step or two. He responded and said he was really trying to focus on his job right now. And he wanted to be secure in his job long before he started dating someone and that if it didn't work out he may not stay in the town where we live. (he sold his business recently and is begining a new job this week).... but added " I ENJOY OUR FRIENDSHIP AND WANT TO MAINTAIN IT..... " All in shouty capitals. lol

I then responded that I had never thought of him as just a friend, a platonic friend especially and wasn't sure I could. I was having a hard time than I imagined with his response and was going to take some time to process.

So.... here I am...I have cried for two days... I miss my friend and am wondering what I am to do and what wll happen.
I asked "What will happen now that I have told R how I feel?"

Hex 24... unchanging

I have read so much I now can't decide if we are finished and I am to "return" to myself and begin again alone... Is he returning like he has since March... Are we about to begin again, the same cycle but with new purpose lol.... all of the above?

At the beginning of this post I received 51.4>24 with this question, "What can you tell me about this man?"
Is this 24 where I am now?
I have officially perplexed myself. Any thoughts, as always are welcome and very much desired. Thank you in advance.