hex 6.2> 12 truth and feelings

[stronglightning]

Hello everyone. I asked for help from yi to clarify a situation that has long made me feel bad. I got out of a story with a guy who left me without much explanation, or rather disappeared. Things went on in an uncertain and always a little ambiguous way until we talked about us. At the time he did not know what he wanted, but he did not want to commit himself. I did not believe he would disappear. The fact is that I can not be free from this situation because it is as if it had not had an end for me. He has completely closed the contacts with me, I tried to write to him but without an answer and I do not understand the reason for his gesture since there was no quarrel, on the contrary he told me that we would see each other. I found myself wondering who he really was, because the person I had thought I knew would not have behaved like that.Had he never been sincere?.Since then I have not looked for him, but I was so hurt, hurt and confused, without an answer to my doubts. I have often blamed myself, wondering what I could have done to bring us to this situation and I can not manage . it's like I can not forgive myself. I asked yi "can you help me to understand if he has gone away because of me? hex 6.2> 12.I really need to feel free to find my peace and come back to trust people.

 

[stronglightning]

any suggestion?

 

[diamanda]

Hi stronglightning,

can you help me to understand if he has gone away because of me? 6.2 > 12

No he didn't go away because of you as a person. 6.2 shows someone who flees from an argument. You said that things were sort of ok/ambiguous, "until we talked about us". He obviously never wanted anything solid and clear with you, so the moment this was brought up (even indirectly), he just fled. He was cornered, and his game was up, so he fled without explanation.

I can totally understand how hurt you feel after his chicken-ish and unmanly behaviour. This type of guy is unfortunately quite prevalent out there. I've seen and heard this exact scenario played out so many times. This is a type of Z-male (to put it mildly...), who simply just spreads hearthache and misery around. They're always flightly, slippery, full of pathetic excuses, e.g. they 'don't know what they want', they want something 'higher', they 'had a bad childhood', they are 'sensitive', usually they are 'artistic', they have a wife 'but they're not really together', and bla-dee-bla-dee-dah.

I really need to feel free to find my peace and come back to trust people.

This type of guy is someone never to be trusted. Next time you meet someone who doesn't know what they want, and they're ambiguous etc etc, please remember that the problem is not you - the problem is how pathetic the guy (or person who behaves thus) is.