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lateralus

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A few months ago I met this amazing girl and I really feel as if we have a genuine connection. She even admits that she can really relate to me more so than most of her friends and I can definitely say the same for myself. Over time I've grown to like her more than a friend and I have no doubts we both care for each other greatly. However, she's currently in this on and off relationship with this other guy and, as a result, I can't help but be disappointed. I'm aware that it may be a selfish notion but it's been so long since I've felt anything like this and to let it go seems so undesirable. So, I consulted the I-Ching and I received Hexagram 18 (which was odd seeing that I'll be turning 18 in a few days). If anyone can give any ounce of insight into my situation I would be very grateful
 

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Hi Lateralus,

Going from being friends to potential participants in a lovers relationship can be considered a big change. It's like a renovation of the relationship between you two. Actually, have to be honest, I got this answer after I asked my girfriend to marry me. I consulted the I Ching afterwards and got 18 unchanged. What it said to me that if you are going to change something which affects others, they will need time to adjust to the idea of change, and afterwards they have to feel if it works for them. My girlfriend hasn't answered, she needs more than the literal three days mentioned in the Wilhelm translation (I'm waiting two months now).

Now I'm not saying to you that you have to say you see her now in a totally different light. Of course it could be that you can't hold it any longer... Although the text says "it furthers one to cross the great water", but it's up to you to decide. Be prepared, if you do tell her about your feelings, that it can come as a shock for her.

Wish you all the best.

Cheers,

Gahan
 

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... So, I consulted the I-Ching and I received Hexagram 18 (which was odd seeing that I'll be turning 18 in a few days).

Hi Lateralus,

What was the actual question you asked? That would be very helpful in understanding the answer. For example, you might have asked:
What will be the outcome of this relationship?
What is my best course of action in pursuing this relationship?
What do I need to do to further my relationship with this person?

Etc.

The specific question will give a context for understanding the meaning of the hexagram.

Happy birthday!

Tony
 

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... So, I consulted the I-Ching and I received Hexagram 18 (which was odd seeing that I'll be turning 18 in a few days).

Hi Lateralus,

What was the actual question you asked? That would be very helpful in understanding the answer. For example, you might have asked:
What will be the outcome of this relationship?
What is my best course of action in pursuing this relationship?
What do I need to do to further my relationship with this person?
How does she feel about me?
Will she end the other relationship to be with me?

Etc.

The specific question will give the context for understanding the meaning of the hexagram. Generally hex 18 has to do with the need to put right the ill effects of some past influences.

Happy birthday!

Tony
 

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Hex 18 is about working on what has been spoilt, so it is telling you to pull out all the stops and work on this girl, she has been spoilt by another so you have to prove to her that you are the better man, of course it will take some doing but if you are sincere then you won't mind putting in the effort to get her away from the other guy.
 

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Hex 18 is about working on what has been spoilt, so it is telling you to pull out all the stops and work on this girl, she has been spoilt by another so you have to prove to her that you are the better man, of course it will take some doing but if you are sincere then you won't mind putting in the effort to get her away from the other guy.
Ah, Madam WillowFox,

Thou hast returned...All is well?

Topal
 

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Thank you everybody for your input. I don't see my situation resolving in the near future but I have a better perspective on what exactly is laid out before me. Thank ya! Much obliged!
 

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