Hexagram 28: 4,6 to 57 for relationship and Hexagram 13: 2,6 to 43 lessons learned

[Mpourtsin]

Hello!I am new to hexagrams and this community, so hopefully someone will help me to understand what is the interpretation for my questions, which I hope I asked properly. Basically questions are about a guy I met. I am an introvert so I don’t socialize with people quickly. But I met this guy, he gave his number to me. I somehow contacted him a few weeks later. He invite met to dinner. Then we met over a coffee. He invited me to his house next day. But I didn’t want to become intimate and changed plans. He is really handsome and I am very attracted to him but inside he is totally different than me and the values I stand for all my life. And I have this feeling that does not leave me alone not even a second that he is not trustworthy. And yet again, we met a few weeks later and became intimate. I am quite confused now. Despite all the differences we have, we are having a good time when we are together. But I can’t get over this feeling that there is something untrustworthy with him. I know that he is a womanizer, I know that he has problems with his finances and his work. So I keep saying myself that this is just a fling however when we are together, especially after we became intimate, I felt like he was expecting something more. I told him in a very kind way that I am happy with what is going on but I am not expecting us to become a thing. He seemed he didn’t have a problem with that but he still continued to make plans for having a romantic weekend getaway, introducing me to his best friend, going to his hometown etc. He invited me to go out for a movie night this weekend. He was going to work for long hours on Saturday, that’s why instead of saying yes, I told him to call me if he still feels like it after working all day long. He didn’t call. I didn’t call either. Now I feel like, if I don’t call him again, he will not call me. So it is a good thing, I suppose but considering how we met and how our lives crossed each other without knowing each other - because we understood that we studied in the same school for three years and didnt meet once, his work place is next to my best friend’s apartment, where I spent at least two days a week- I can’t stop thinking about what is this out of the blue thing about. This is why I asked two questions; 1- What should I expect from a relationship with him? What a relationship with him would bring my life? Hexagram 28: 4,6 to 57.From which I understood that my gut feeling is right, as “prepondence of the great” reflects a serious threat’s approach. With the changing lines mentioning an emergency management, I do not have any idea what are they about. Hex 57 says who understands the causes, understands the effects and know how to act. 2- What lesson should I learn out of this situation? Hexagram 13: 2,6 to 43. Hexagram 60: 1,3, 6 to 57. What I understand from both castings is that I have to learn my limits as well as I have to learn to make a decision and follow it. I know this was long but I would appreciate your comments. Thanks,

 

[radiofreewill]

Hi Mpourtsin,

Welcome to Clarity!

"What should I expect from a relationship with him?"
28.4.6 to 57 ~ High risk, lots of sacrifice, but a good outcome in the long run is still a possibility.

Hexagram 28 features the already-sagging ridgepole holding-up the roof of a house under stress, and what can happen to the people living under that roof? Line 4 suggests that your guy is living above his means, and that it's not sustainable? Line 6 says that you are in over your head and overextended, but if you can shoulder the risk (you could lose some of your security,) then success is still possible?

"What lesson should I learn out of this situation?"
13.2.6 to 43 ~ You would need community support (family, friends, etc) while he exorcises his demons to get through this.

In the hexagram 13 model of community, sheer numbers of members committed to common goals win the day. Misfits within the community are neither ruined nor shunned, but rather transformed into productive members of the group by the power of the community to float (almost) all boats.

"What lesson should I learn out of this situation?"
60.1.3.6 to 57 ~ The discipline that you had early-on (line 1) was lost to impulsivity (line 3) and now real insight (hex 57) would be needed to navigate through potential disaster (line 6.)

So, imho, if you do choose to continue the relationship, then it looks like you would be signing-up for a lot of hardship? It feels like your intuition about his untrustworthiness is correct? With him, you should realistically expect to be the one who has to 'hold up the roof' of the house?

However, the reading suggests that, despite it all, success is still possible?

I hope this helps!

 

[Mpourtsin]

The story went bad and what I learnt was if you do not trust the person at first sight, there is a reason for that.