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41.0, Decreasing
Be true
Outstanding opportunity Nothing is wrong
But it calls for persistence
Worthwhile to have somewhere to go
How is this applied?
A pair of simple rice baskets may be used for the offering
41.2, 9 2nd, Zhi Gua 27: Yi, Hungry Mouth
(Fan Yao 27.2: subverted appetite, dismiss norms, hunger in hills)
Worthwhile to be steadfast
To go boldly is ill-omened Avoiding decrease increases one
41.2x Nine second merits steadfastness:
Concentrate in order to accomplish the goal
The master of the temple scrubs and waxes the floors, prepares the monk’s meals, cleans up the altar and keeps the idol smoking. But for all of this humble service, he doesn’t give anything up. These are the steps on his path, this is exactly the life he has asked for, the price he has chosen to pay. The very nature of his position is a hard look at the nature of sacrifice.
41.3, 6 3rd, Zhi Gua 26: Da Chu, Raising Great Beasts
(Fan Yao 26.3: fine horse, daily training, having a place to go)
Three people set out
And in due order lose one member A single person sets out
And in due order finds a companion
41.3x One person sets out:
The third gives rise to uncertainties
Is this an opportunity for me to not act and give up my impulse to intervene?
It's her room, but it's your house and things
I just moved in with my husband,
Well no, if it's her dad's house it's her house. I mean I don't know the scenario but if she was already living in that house with her dad it's far more her house than the step mother's house. Hang on...
looking back...
sounds like she moved in to her husband's house. Her husband's house will always also be his daughter's house while she is of the age to live at home anyway.
Certainly you should not go into the room invited but certainly you could ask for permission. Have you asked the girl if she'd mind if you cleaned up her room? What did she say?
By the tone and direction of other people's replies to my thread I realised this is really my issue and my own inability to deal with disorder and a need to control others. I guess it comes from growing up in a house with alcoholics and drug addicts who didn't give a damn.
@Trojina, when two people get married they establish a certain set of spoken and unspoken agreements. One of them is that we are the adults of the household and certain things must be done our way. My husband wanted me to move in with him, partly because he couldn't move abroad with me because of his responsibility towards his child, so he accepted to "merge" his life with someone he sees as an equal. My standards of cleanliness are higher than his, him being a man and all, but they are not unreasonable.
If every parent were to apply the view you suggested, then we would all be working to support little tyrants.
No one can live without concern for other people's space and preferences, and that must be learned from a young age. A preference to be in a dirty environment is not shared by most of us, and therefore, I believe the majority needs to be respected. It's not like I've had a "travelling stranger" 56 moment.
My 15 year old (step)daughter lives with us half the time and is very sweet to me, even though we are just getting to know each other - her father and I got married not so long after starting a relationship and we are from different countries, so there was never time to bond.
This is a girl that gets new clothing regularly, eats as much junk food as she wants and is very snappy with her dad.
I put some mirrors up on my windows so the mirror side is facing outside and within a week things are so different. The guy has been so helpful and kind to me just because he can.
Thank you and I am sorry again if I seemed to want to pick a fight with you, Trojina
I had asked something else today, regarding the feeling of having received transcendental "help" and the answer was the same!39.5.6, changing to 52.
The yang pattern is 20, yin pattern 19 so this does look like the approach of 'ancestors', viewing you, helping you. It seems to me a very noble aim to try to love your stepdaughter and this is what the cast shows IMO.
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