Hexagram 46.1.4.6>14 about dream

[QuanYiN]

Hello everyone,

So, I'm going to try not to turn this into a wall of text, but needs some context with regards to the reading.
Early March I met a fellow that I felt there was an interesting connection with -or maybe I just liked him a lot. Sadly that situation ended due to his being unavailable and myself going through a really rough patch for various reasons. The whole thing didn't last more than a month.

Yesterday, I was going through my journal where I also take note of dreams. I stumbled upon a dream I had completely forgotten about that I had back in October. I saw that I was with a man I didn't know at the time, but in my dream I knew him. His description matches exactly the aforementioned fellow in terms of skin colour, height and accent. I mention there were children around in the beginning of the dream (he indeed has children) and then our discussions, which I very much had in reality with the guy I met -albeit these may be standard early dating discussions.

In the dream we were meeting again after a while. We were discussing relationships and he said he had experiences with a very specific type of relationship (he had a word for it which I couldn't recall when I woke up), in which he met with people with serious problems -i.e. addicts, depressives etc- and then they only met again once they had worked on themselves and gotten rid of their demons.

It's been rough for me for a while now, however I haven't been passive about the situation and have been working through the darkness, so when I woke up it occurred to me that I was one of those burdened people. Also, because in the dream I was getting ready to take a shower, I assumed this was a symbol for me wanting to cleanse or renew myself.

I am very sceptical about prophetic dreams, though I've had some strange experiences in the past. Since I had completely forgotten about this dream, when I read the journal entry I was quite shocked -perhaps it's me reading too much into it, however it did feel very tied to this recent situation. I decided to ask the Yi about it, the question being just a general "What can you tell me about this dream?" --> 46.1.4.6>14

I think it indicates a sense of growth and progress, and line 6 particularly struck me as not only a warning, but my effort to work through a major depressive episode and dark times. I also found very interesting Lise's take on the hexagram, which also deals with measuring time. It made me think of timing and how that was an element in the dream (meeting and then meeting again after a while) and the bad timing between us this past month as he was going through a major family shift and I was in a dark place. The 4th line is a little mysterious here. Also, I'm trying to think of the whole hexagram as a response to a dream, but I only seem to have scattered thoughts. 14 is also interesting as the backdrop, but I can't really put my finger on it. Could it indicate having a lot on my/his plate?

How would you interpret this?
Sorry for the wall of text and thank you for reading

 

[my_key]

I decided to ask the Yi about it, the question being just a general "What can you tell me about this dream?" --> 46.1.4.6>14

46<>14
Karcher names 46 'Ascending the Sacred Mountain' so it could be that Yi is inviting you to approach this dream one small step at a time. Your approach, being somewhat skeptical, is holding a veil up between you and the emergence of real meaning and understanding (14) - perhaps not only with regards to prophetic dreams. In this context you are invited to make a positive offering to release the new mandate - something needs to be done differently to unleash the message of the dream into your world. Your difficulty with this is that you want an answer now rather than letting the meaning come to you or having to work a bit more for it.

46.1 - New beginnings are afoot. The door may now start to open on what was low in your world. A first step perhaps on the road from survive to thrive. Resting on your laurels will not serve you in this place.
46.4 - You are invited to nurture the new and yield to what it is offering you. This will help you find the right road.
46.6 - To bring this next stage through to a conclusion you will need to dig deep, stay steadfast in your character and be persevering in your efforts. It is in the rocky roads where the meaning and understanding of the dream can be found. As you tread the new road towards Thrive-ville you will increasingly recognise it can only be walked in true earnest by you and you alone.

... or it might mean nothing at all like this for you.

Good Luck

 

[QuanYiN]

46<>14
Karcher names 46 'Ascending the Sacred Mountain' so it could be that Yi is inviting you to approach this ....

Thank you my_key, this is a very interesting and new perspective for me, so I have a lot to think about here. I particularly liked the idea of letting the meaning come to me one step at a time -and perhaps I should set aside my skepticism and just let the dream speak to me as I grow. I do think it's an interesting parallel, the dream talking about people going through hardships and me going through a rough time, but there's a reward at the end of the road. Of course, that's not necessarily the relationship itself, but it did push me to think more about what I'm doing wrong/right and what I should actively work on right now. That along with 46.6 speaks to me a lot now.

I'll keep thinking about this and update the thread with new insights and developments. In the meantime, of course, would be great to get more angles from anyone who's feeling up to it!

Thank you!

 

[kestrelw1ngs]

Since this is only a year or so old I think it's fine to post.
I cast this reading for a remarkably similar situation with meeting a person who deeply changed my outlook on life just through us connecting briefly. The connection isn't over per se but due to some difficulties specifically with timing, my own depression and loneliness, and physical distance I feel like, it cannot be what I wanted it to be. And already grieve that.

On my part there has not been a dream but a spiritual intervention by guides like the Yi, showing me so much changing, of dark and "bloody" thoughts and habits being released, some real hope or glimmer of a future. That felt connected to meeting this person. I felt we were mirrors to one another showing the walls, guards and weak spots in each other but also the beauty and strength. It was complimentary. And I had a lot of reflection to do on my habits and assumptions in forming relationships from even just a few times meeting.

When he had not responded in awhile to my message and I felt a great deal of pain about it, I came to Yi asking, what is this thing between us, what is its role in my life?

And recieved this hexagram.
46.1.4.6>14

Interestingly enough when he and I had communication problems before I cast 50.1.3.6 >54

Which gave me the impression 50.1 there is a structure (cauldron) with new opportunity....something goes deeply amiss 50.3 (a spillage or miscarriage)...but the structure (cauldron) remains and can be put to use in the future.
54 not much choice in the matter, something important but not something you chose actively. A learning encounter.

Don't those two readings echo eachother? It's not negative or a warning so much as the kind of double meeting, or lesson you're describing with your situation.

I like to draw connections across situations when specific hexagram combinations show up. To tease out those resonances.

I hope you found solace in the interpretation of your dream.

 

[QuanYiN]

Since this is only a year or so old I think it's fine to post.
I cast this reading for a remarkably similar situation with meeting a person who deeply changed my outlook on life just through us connecting briefly. The connection isn't over per se but due to some difficulties specifically with timing, my own depression and loneliness, and physical distance I feel like, it cannot be what I wanted it to be. And already grieve that.

On my part there has not been a dream but a spiritual intervention by guides like the Yi, showing me so much changing, of dark and "bloody" thoughts and habits being released, some real hope or glimmer of a future. That felt connected to meeting this person. I felt we were mirrors to one another showing the walls, guards and weak spots in each other but also the beauty and strength. It was complimentary. And I had a lot of reflection to do on my habits and assumptions in forming relationships from even just a few times meeting.

When he had not responded in awhile to my message and I felt a great deal of pain about it, I came to Yi asking, what is this thing between us, what is its role in my life?

And recieved this hexagram.
46.1.4.6>14

Interestingly enough when he and I had communication problems before I cast 50.1.3.6 >54

Which gave me the impression 50.1 there is a structure (cauldron) with new opportunity....something goes deeply amiss 50.3 (a spillage or miscarriage)...but the structure (cauldron) remains and can be put to use in the future.
54 not much choice in the matter, something important but not something you chose actively. A learning encounter.

Don't those two readings echo eachother? It's not negative or a warning so much as the kind of double meeting, or lesson you're describing with your situation.

I like to draw connections across situations when specific hexagram combinations show up. To tease out those resonances.

I hope you found solace in the interpretation of your dream.

This is such an interesting synchronicity here. I received a notification that this thread had been revived, which reminded me of the dream and the reading just as I was getting out of another situation very similar to the one I described in the original post — only more painful, sadly.

Reading through your post and my_key’s response back then I’m thinking now that what Yi was telling me was that this is a pattern I need to grow in order to overthrow. I’ve made a lot of progress since the time I first posted about this reading, but this recent story that is so similar and with the reminder of this dream and reading I can see there’s more work to do here.

Thinking about it 1.5 year later I have this feeling that the dream wasn’t prophetic per se. It was telling me there’s a pattern I need to cleanse my self from (I wanted to shower after all) and that the people I find myself involved with romantically are not going to stick (either because of my poor choices or because I’m not ready) if I don’t do the work. The dream was also underlining the problem itself at the time - it was indeed a very very troubling time for me, I don’t think I’ve ever been through such a serious depressive episode ever before.

That being said, 46.1.4.6 fits all of this very well I think. It describes the progress, the growth and the difficulty as well. To me that is the difference between 35 and 46: there is work to be done, it’s not easy progress, it’s not unhindered growth, but it is growth that helps one become stronger. At the time of the reading I had taken some steps and lines 1 and 4 show some elements of that, but I think line 6 can be a gentle reminder not to let yourself go, not to become arrogant, to check yourself, correct your course, make constantly sure you’re on the right track. That has proven a hard thing to do. My time since then both in romance and outside of it, has been very much that. And it involved heartbreak too — and, like you say, lessons. Hard ones, but important nonetheless.

 

[my_key]

I particularly liked the idea of letting the meaning come to me one step at a time.....

That certainly seems to be the case for the progress and growth you have outlined over the last 1.5 years. A great achievement!

They always say that you should follow your dreams.

Good look with your next steps.