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Hello everyone,

I asked Yi whether I should share some potentially beneficial information with my son, and received 46. It’s not that I wouldn’t do everything to help him, if I possibly could, but first off, not all my help had proven beneficial to him it the past...:) Secondly, the information concerns a capped-rent accommodation within a creative community I don’t know enough about yet, in a city that we are both moving to in order to start our respective studies. So I’m also thinking (perhaps unfairly): if he moves there first - he’s free now, I’m probably staying put till the end of the year - he may not want me there later, cramping his style. May not be the healthiest of options, anyway, for the people like us, with the history of codependency. But I can’t help swinging from feeling sneaky and selfish to thinking, “He’s a clever, capable 26-year-old man! Do everyone a favour, leave him be and take care of yourself!” Btw, we will both be living off our student loans, I’m in no way better off financially than he is.

Thing is, I often receive H46, unchanging, taking it to be a message of perseverance, patience and keeping a steady upward pace. Looking back through my I Ching notes this morning, I suddenly wondered if what 46 was actually telling me all along was to just walk on by, stay on my path, instead of wandering off onto others’, breaking my own stride as well as theirs? (My North Node being in Aries, that would totally figure).

Any such experiences out there?

Thanks! Have a 🌷.
 

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46."Encourages vigorous activity in the spirit of optimism," Hilary.

I see this as meaning you should share your info. Maybe the unchanging aspect indicates you should not put any charge on it like you're promoting that he actually live there. Just send him an email, "FYI, I saw this in the paper and thought it might be of interest."
 

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46."Encourages vigorous activity in the spirit of optimism," Hilary.

I see this as meaning you should share your info. Maybe the unchanging aspect indicates you should not put any charge on it like you're promoting that he actually live there. Just send him an email, "FYI, I saw this in the paper and thought it might be of interest."
Yes! Perfect - thanks Rosada.
 

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Hi Grace,
By moving do you mean that you will be moving also your furniture and stuff for good? Or that your house will remain where it is with all your stuff in and you will be going away only temporarily?

the solution you are talking about with the creative community sounds right for someone with just a suitcase. Where would you be putting all your stuff?

I Wonder if it’s typical of my country to keep stuff for a long time, for centuries, from wardrobes to Hand-knitted Grand-grand-granny dowry night gowns to gardening tools (I just inherited some from early 1900!).

I have read in America when they move they often leave the kitchen where it is, so maybe you’re American and travel light?
But what about your mother’s childhood books? Am I the only one to keep those?

I agree with Rosada and would share the info. If your son doesn’t want you there, you will find somewhere else to stay. I guess living you two together is not an option?
 

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Thank you, Namesake (my real name’s Olga, also, but I thought I’d mix it up with some Grace and Heart).

It is also typical of my country to keep stuff of value, sentimental and otherwise. Unfortunately, my family house got destroyed in the civil war, along with its entire content; luckily, we were all out at the time. :)
By mentioning this, I believe you hit the nail on the head: I’m fretting about details, when perhaps I’m really sad and upset that I wouldn't be able to provide a family home, albeit rented, for my boys if I move to London. All three of us are embarking on our respective grad studies this year, you see, and I want us to have a home for half-term and holiday gatherings, I truly do.
Thing is, I don’t actually HAVE to move anywhere at all: my course is run on a couple of evening a week, and taught online for at least the first term, curtesy of COVID-19. Perhaps that’s what 46 was all about, put one step in front of the other, that’s all I need to do for now.

Told my older son about the artists community, so he’s looking into it. I already did (after I enquired with Yi and posted here) – gosh they keep sofas OUTSIDE! And the upstairs rooms, which are all the rage, seem to be rather on a chilly side. :eek:

Now that I’m here, I asked Yi to please give me some insight and advice about my yearnings to have a safe and comfortable home of my very own: 57.3.5. > 4

Line 3
'Subtly penetrating with urgency – shame.'

Trying too hard, yep, get that.

Line 5
'Constancy, good fortune, regrets vanish.
Nothing that does not bear fruit.
With no beginning, there is completion.
Before threshing, three days.
After threshing, three days.
Good fortune.'


Not so much. Although, Lise’s interpretations reminds me a bit of Hexagram 46.

Lise: Slowly and gently one weaves one's seal into everything one does or is. It is an unceasing process which gives one's life and all one's actions one's own pattern. It will take a long time to change what has been growing during a long time. So be careful with the moments when you still can shape things.

And hexagram 4! Well! I’ll ask if I want to, so.

Thanks again for taking the time to reply and bringing tears to my eyes (only joking – you actually made me realise I would like to be more like Americans, at least when it comes to letting go of the non-essentials!).

All good things,

O.G.H.
 

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I didn't mean to make you cry of course, I was just trying to understand how it can be so easy for some people to move while we (Mother and I, but also everybody else we know) are full of stuff from the past!
You know, I have the pot they used for peeing at night when living in the countryside and the bathroom was a hole in the yard (and you certainly didn't go down there at night, since there was no electricity and no heating).
Also, I found what they used to put in beds when no heating existed (bed warmers?): a weird huge wooden construction where hot embers would be placed. I am not the only one with that stuff, almost anyone with a basement or cellar has them where I live. I guess when you live in Tokyo or New York or London you can't keep anything with you.

Well I got this book by this Japanese woman Marie Kondo about the magic of tidying up and did a bit of Kondo cleaning around myself. I found it useful with clothes, gave some to my younger cousin, but I still like the idea of keeping some of my ancestors' belongings.

I know London is very expensive, so I am not sure I would leave a house where I can live by myself to move in with other people (sofas outside meaning that you will have to sleep outside?!).

I once watched a program about a project connecting elderly lonely Londoners with people not able to afford rent. No need to look after them, it's not a job, and you still pay for the room - but you pay much less! I guess it's being done so that these elderly people have a human being around instead of "staring at four empty walls", as the woman in the film was saying. I would look into that. Also, it sounds more flexible than renting a whole house, which means you could stay where you are until Christmas, celebrate Christmas with your sons and then move to exciting London.
Could you not rent out where you are now while you are in London? That could help pay the rent over there.

A woman who owns a house in the city I lived (where I stayed years ago for a while) actually told me a house is a burden, you have expenses and feel tied. And that the only time she was ever happy was when she was around with a backpack only.
 

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I know you didn’t wish to make me cry, I really was only joking, in that darkly humours Slavic way that may not actually come across as humorous at all. Sorry.

But seriously, what you are writing about - your exploration of memory through those more tangible parts of our history – just so happens to resonate with a few similarly flavoured experiences in my life at the moment... Only today, someone sent me a couple of photographs of my father, rare because everything had burnt down with the house: God knows where they’ve found it, but there he was, looking young and handsome and smiling, and I realised that I have some more processing to do, more grieving, more letting go. Synchronicities, you see. Most healing. So thank you.

My younger son is (his words) “obsessed" with Marie Kondo, and the YouTube minimalists. Keeps buying stuff, then selling it on, complaining they are crowding him. Haha. And that TV program you mention, about people moving in with elderly Londoners, that sounds like a rather sweet win-win situation. May well check it out. I am renting at the moment, and believe that subletting is illegal.

The art community outside sofas are just for chilling, hanging outside the warehouse with your homies, sipping beer, spitting bars. That sort of thing. I’m almost sure of that.

I knew I shouldn’t have started to write this before supper: now my chicken is cold and I’m crying again! :)
 

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You know, I had thought you might be from ex Yugoslavia as I don't remember any civil war in England recently. Very sorry about your house, and what a synchronicity to see pictures of your father. They are a real treasure, a big treasure to pass on to your sons. Some people have houses, some people have the memories and stories of the houses they once had, there isn't much difference after all.

Do enquire about subletting, who knows, maybe it's perfectly legal. Where I live it is absolutely legal, unless the tenancy agreement clearly states that you can't sublet. But there is usually little reason for landlords to do that, they just want rent, and of course you remain responsible for the house and for any damage the new person may cause.

My younger son is (his words) “obsessed" with Marie Kondo, and the YouTube minimalists. Keeps buying stuff, then selling it on, complaining they are crowding him. Haha.
😂 Kondo says to throw away, not buy, ah ah. Unless it gives you real joy, of course ;)
 

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I'm not understanding why people would be moving countries mid pandemic ? We will likely have a second wave, more lockdown in UK
Ah you said you don't have to move you can do it online.

I don't understand the question thats the problem. I don't understand the first post, what it is that you don't know if you should share.
 
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The art community outside sofas are just for chilling, hanging outside the warehouse with your homies, sipping beer, spitting bars. That sort of thing. I’m almost sure of that.

Outside sofas wouldn't last long in the rain. The pubs will be shut again in the autumn as the schools open, we can't open both at the same time apparently. It's really not a time for hanging out outside drinking with groups unless you are homeless ! People are doing that but spreading Covid hence more towns and cities are getting locked down now as the infection rate increases again. I just don't see how it's a time to move to London...or why more people are being allowed in. I don't get it.
 

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He may have to go into quarantine for 14 days on arrival.
 

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