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I should write to X or do nothing, and I received Hexagrams 64 (moving lines 3, 4 and 5) leading to 57.
"Other than wait, can I do anything to win back X's friendship and keep my self respect"
You sound a lot like me In terms of being an over-giver and an over-apologizer. No, do not continue that trend, it does not work. Try and see if this gives you any insight: I take the below to mean you have already done enough. The other person should know this, and come back to you. Be sweet and aloof and brief in your contacts.I am new to this Forum and not used to Social Networking Sites. I have done the iChing for many years and often, when stuck, read this Forum. I usually trust my instincts, which rarely let me down, or, as I said, have a look at other comments. Now I am flummoxed and would appreciate some help.
I had a falling out with a friend - a person who I know on a personal level, via social contacts and on a professional level - rather spectacularly we fell out on both levels (it seems). I think we were both in the right/wrong in our way at handling the situation. However I wished to know what I could or should do. At first I asked if I should write to X or do nothing, and I received Hexagrams 64 (moving lines 3, 4 and 5) leading to 57. Then I asked:
"Other than wait, can I do anything to win back X's friendship and keep my self respect"
I received 14 - moving lines 3, 4 and 5 and 61. Whilst I have read about being modest and kind and to be sincere, this only tells me how my attitude should be, not what I could do. And whilst I understand that 61 relates to being honest with oneself, I am still puzzled. I am, what may be called an 'over-giver' - someone who apologizes continuously for other people's mistakes, who takes responsibility, who offers help when none is required - and I think this is what led me to fall out with my friend. I fear that acting now will be just a continuation of this - but if I don't act then nothing will change - hence the reason I did the IChing
Does anyone have any interpretation of 14 - esp the lines (leading to 61) which may help me make a decision and understand what I should do? Thanks
14. Noble Presence
Line 3:
A duke presents offerings to the Son of Heaven,
an ordinary person cannot.
Being in a unique position to do something for someone, that others are not able to do.
(The Son of Heaven is the king.)
Line 4:
It is not one's pride.
Without fault.
Something that one would have been proud of isn't happening. One isn't at fault.
Line 5:
Bowing deeply to a trustworthy associate,
with dignity.
Good fortune.
Respecting a trustworthy person one associates with, with dignity. Things go well.
Hexagram is changing to:
61. Inner Trust
Inner trust of piglets and fishes.
Good fortune.
It is beneficial to cross the big river.
It is beneficial to persist.
Having confidence like piglets and fishes have. Things go well. This is a good moment for big undertakings. Keep going on.
(Inner trust is trust in oneself: confidence. The natural behavior of young pigs and of fish is with a lot of confidence.)
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).