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Hi all,
I posted a little while back about a guy I'd recently got together with, a friend who I also worked with and lived with (we are still in close proximity a lot of the time for various reasons). Anyway the advice (both of us having in the last 6 months come out of quite difficult/intense/painful breakups) was from this forum something like you might get together but it might not work now, because of the hurts, and/or you will have difficulty reconfiguring the relationship to a romantic one.
So, yes, as yourselves and yi predicted it did get complicated, push pull nonsense etc and (probably luckily although am upset about it), last night he ended things more officially and said he just wanted to be close friends. Anyway after we'd chatted (i said ok to ending, accepted it, realise even if I am hurt its probably for the best) he then texted later and said he hadn't managed to say all he wanted and would I be up for meeting again in a couple of days. Now part of me thinks why bother? What more do i need to hear? And another is like well it's just a chat so why not, I've made it clear I don't want to hang out in any intimate way or in his room or anything and of course I'm slightly curious as to what else he might feel he has to say.
So asked Yi:
Please advise with regards meeting X on friday:
30.3.4.6 > 24
Reasonably clear I guess, there was a thing, it's burnt out quite fast, and now I return to myself and my own path. Also don't try to cling to it (the beating pots and setting sun line), and also its ok to get rid of things that are not serving ones highest self.
But really what I want to know is, is there any point in meeting him at all or should I just say actually you've said what you needed to say, for me there is nothing more to discuss. So I asked:
Would it be better for me not to meet him?
24.1 > 2
Again, general vibe is returning to the self so I get that...but meeting?
Perhaps the idea is basically it's over, doesn't matter that much if you meet or don't meet, either way you are returning to yourself??? Obvs I'm also kind of curious about what else it is he feels he needs to say. I didn't express much because I thought actually I don't want to share with him that I'm quite upset and disappointed and also, unfortunately, I feel quite judgemental of him for sort of pursuing me and then changing his mind when I was actually available.
Any thoughts much appreciated : )
Lola
I posted a little while back about a guy I'd recently got together with, a friend who I also worked with and lived with (we are still in close proximity a lot of the time for various reasons). Anyway the advice (both of us having in the last 6 months come out of quite difficult/intense/painful breakups) was from this forum something like you might get together but it might not work now, because of the hurts, and/or you will have difficulty reconfiguring the relationship to a romantic one.
So, yes, as yourselves and yi predicted it did get complicated, push pull nonsense etc and (probably luckily although am upset about it), last night he ended things more officially and said he just wanted to be close friends. Anyway after we'd chatted (i said ok to ending, accepted it, realise even if I am hurt its probably for the best) he then texted later and said he hadn't managed to say all he wanted and would I be up for meeting again in a couple of days. Now part of me thinks why bother? What more do i need to hear? And another is like well it's just a chat so why not, I've made it clear I don't want to hang out in any intimate way or in his room or anything and of course I'm slightly curious as to what else he might feel he has to say.
So asked Yi:
Please advise with regards meeting X on friday:
30.3.4.6 > 24
Reasonably clear I guess, there was a thing, it's burnt out quite fast, and now I return to myself and my own path. Also don't try to cling to it (the beating pots and setting sun line), and also its ok to get rid of things that are not serving ones highest self.
But really what I want to know is, is there any point in meeting him at all or should I just say actually you've said what you needed to say, for me there is nothing more to discuss. So I asked:
Would it be better for me not to meet him?
24.1 > 2
Again, general vibe is returning to the self so I get that...but meeting?
Perhaps the idea is basically it's over, doesn't matter that much if you meet or don't meet, either way you are returning to yourself??? Obvs I'm also kind of curious about what else it is he feels he needs to say. I didn't express much because I thought actually I don't want to share with him that I'm quite upset and disappointed and also, unfortunately, I feel quite judgemental of him for sort of pursuing me and then changing his mind when I was actually available.
Any thoughts much appreciated : )
Lola