hope to help other sistas Hexx.2.4.6>39

[goddessliss]

Good Morning,

I am hoping my story and question helps others on this site who seem to be in a similar dilemma to me.
So interpretation of the hexes and the lines hopefully will help others and not just relate to my particular situation/story.


A weird/funny relationship I have been having with G for close to 6 months continues to be this way. The relationships started off as an intimate one but I pulled back from that, because G appears to not have an open heart, however he still seeks me out and has the expectations from me one would have if we were in a 'normal' relationship.
I don't want this but have allowed it for a time in the hope we would get back together but recently I asked if he was willing to give it another go, as in an intimate relationship where we could work towards hopefully build a long term relationship, and he said No he wasn't interested in that.



My head understands his words but my heart continues to hope, so energetically I am still putting it out there but I feel it is unhealthy for me and my life so this morning I asked -

Please show me how to energetically shift my focus away from G
Hex 44.2.4.6>39

So yes the situation is Hex 39 Limping

From http://www.yijing.nl/i_ching/hex_33-48/hex_e_44.htm
Hex 44 represents is that which is powerfully attractive to the ego. It can be a person, an event or something you have unwittingly put into train, which takes off out of control and far beyond your plan.
Yes this is right I feel totally out of control in my heart with this situation with G.

From http://www.eclecticenergies.com/iching/consultation.php?lns=897979
Line 2:
There is fish in the surroundings.
Without fault to not benefit guests.

There is something useful available. It is not wrong to not let others benefit from it.

What are the fish?? But yes I should be less hospitable I think.

Line 4:
There is no fish in the surroundings.
Emerging misfortune.

Something is not available. As time passes, the problems this raises will get worse.

Again what are the fish and I am not sure what this line means.

Line 6:
Providing the horns.
Inadequate,
without fault.

Only part of what is needed is provided. It is not adequate, but not a mistake either.

So it is ok to extend a hand in friendship but nothing more?

Gosh I just want to move on, tricky when their phsycial presence is still around but I understand it is how I energetically relate to that.

thks hope this is gonna help others.

Liss

 

[foxx777]

Liss: I do find reading about your dilemma and your castings helpful, as I have spent a lifetime in very conflicted/emmeshed relationships with men, sometimes just unhealthy, other times, downright disastrous.

Kudos to you for using Berkers, by the way! I find him so concise and compelling!:bows:

I do think the aspect of , "It is not adequate, but not a mistake" in line 6 means that even though friendship in not enough (as in line 4, of intimacy, it is said it is the something which is not available which will cause trouble in the future) I think somehow you are being told that friendship with G on a temporary basis may lay the groundwork for a new start to intimacy. that is the way I would view it.ETA: The fish would be instinctual feeling, bonding. Intimacy. There is not enough of it at present. But line 6 says although inadequate, not a mistake. I saw Dragona's post now and also see much in what she says.

 

[dragona]

Ahm, that 4th line...
hex 44 for me is a sign I am pushing, being too obvious in the game.
A sign to beck off.. because once there was a fish in the pool and now there isn`t..
One can`t will it back in (there was this long discussion on 44.4, remember reading it, sorry can`t be sure where)..say the fish is the genuine interest of the man.

When a man has withdrawn from the world, its tumult often becomes unbearable to him. There are many people who in a noble pride hold themselves aloof from all that is low and rebuff it brusquely wherever it comes to meet them. Such persons are reproached for being proud and distant, but since active duties no longer hold them to the world, this does not greatly matter. They know how to bear the dislike of the masses with composure.Wilhelm
Now, it could be about you...to stay aloof and very still, smile mysteriously .... he will return but only to get away again because it is just the way it is ....
(the last sentence cold apply well to the person this reminds me of as simply, the person does not care)
The image of OBSTRUCTION
Thus the superior man turns his attention to himself
And molds his character.

Difficulties and obstructions throw a man back upon himself. While the inferior man seeks to put the blame on other persons, bewailing his fate, the superior man seeks the error within himself, and through this introspection the external obstacle becomes for him an occasion for inner enrichment and education.

Make yourself strong and stop in front of the obstruction...somebody wisely stated here that the easiest way to release the knot is to loosen it ...and he may come undone all by himself

 

[goddessliss]

Thanks dragona and foxx777 for helping me on my quest. :bows:

Ahm, that 4th line...
hex 44 for me is a sign I am pushing, being too obvious in the game.
A sign to beck off.. because once there was a fish in the pool and now there isn`t..
One can`t will it back in (there was this long discussion on 44.4, remember reading it, sorry can`t be sure where)..say the fish is the genuine interest of the man.

That's it exactly I have been toooooo obvious about what I want and now I am backing off, he was once interested but now it appears he isn't.

Now, it could be about you...to stay aloof and very still, smile mysteriously .... he will return but only to get away again because it is just the way it is ....

Exactly what has happened over and over again.......


The image of OBSTRUCTION
Thus the superior man turns his attention to himself
And molds his character.

Difficulties and obstructions throw a man back upon himself. While the inferior man seeks to put the blame on other persons, bewailing his fate, the superior man seeks the error within himself, and through this introspection the external obstacle becomes for him an occasion for inner enrichment and education.

G does Not like to look at himself as the obstruction and when anything happens between us he does not like he blames me, through this I have experienced a lot of heartache but now am looking to myself for inner enrichment and education.

My landlady (and mine and G's mutual friend) and I have been discussing G a lot because she has been experiencing some of his negative behaviour as well so between us we are becoming a strong and supportive source for each other. Clearly it is a different relationship for her with him but there are parrells in his treatment of her also.

My question was how to energetically shift my focus away from G so I think this last bit answers my question.

Make yourself strong and stop in front of the obstruction...somebody wisely stated here that the easiest way to release the knot is to loosen it ...and he may come undone all by himself

- Liss

 

[dragona]

Glad to be of help and most likely stating the obvious but it is very unfair situation by you, makes you feel you are in the wrong somehow...it is the game of hot and cold but actually a game of control.
When you meet someone who is not playing it with you, you will gain a different insight...I think it was the same man in the other thread, where I suggested the change of strategy?
I think you may get on the top of the game even - that is if you want to play that way.

 

[goddessliss]

Glad to be of help and most likely stating the obvious but it is very unfair situation by you, makes you feel you are in the wrong somehow...it is the game of hot and cold but actually a game of control.
When you meet someone who is not playing it with you, you will gain a different insight...I think it was the same man in the other thread, where I suggested the change of strategy?
I think you may get on the top of the game even - that is if you want to play that way.

Yes dragona it is the same man from the other thread and using a change of strategy has helped heaps

You are right I have felt in the wrong but that is typical of my 'patterning' to blame myself that is something I am working on at the moment.
That would be nice NOT to have to play games and just Be together. Feel I am on top of the game or at least getting there although I don't really want to play but it is about being on top of the game for my own equilibrium.
He is away at the moment so it is giving me a few days to 'sink' into my own self as I sort out myself and my emotions.

thks again - Liss