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[kdedeaux4]

I'm really hoping for thoughts and advice on this reading!

I'm in a mess of a custody situation with my daughters and their father. It's extremely complicated, but in a nutshell:
When my dad passed away, I really broke down. My mother and my ex collaborated (for their own agendas) to fill my children's heads full of horrific lies and nonsense throughout the week I was planning. I was unaware of this when I allowed them to stay temporarily across the country with their father, thinking I needed a break to heal and pull myself together. (I've raised them alone for 15 years with only my father's help). Suffice to say, he pulled legal manipulation and refused me access to them at all. Over this time (just over a year now), somehow, he's successfully turned both of them completely against me. They now say they want nothing to do with me ever again :-( I'm beyond heartbroken, confused and lost. They are very cruel to me now and keep coming up with new stories of what a horrible mother I was...most are things I've never heard of before. It's unbelievable!!
Anyway, I'm trying to make legal and personal decisions in the midst of this, but every avenue is thwarted and every option looks bleaker than bleak.
My oldest sent me a somewhat nice text 2 days ago. Not sure why, what it means, or if it even does mean anything...but I'm trying to get direction. So I asked the Yi, "What is the current environment between my children and me?
I received hexagram 61.4.5 -->58
I've read a great deal on here and other sites, but as usual, it all seems as conflicting as my thoughts and options already are!

Any thoughts from you all would be so appreciated!
Namaste':bows:

 

[blue_angel]

Hi,

I'll try to come back and help more with this later. But just at a quick look of the question "what is the current environment between me and my children?" With the answer 61.4.5>58. It sounds like the answer says...
58- there is openness and joy between you and your children that needs to be maintained through continuing to be tender, communicating, encouraging, and this will lead to persuasion of them following you or remaining close to you. There is an emphasis on moderation and pleasing everyone, showing you want what's best for them. You have an ability to keep joy and openness.

61- shows there is trust between you and your children that you will keep by being sincere and constant. Seems to say you can reach each others hearts even from a distance. I think this is an auspicious reading for you. All hope is not lost, even though it may be difficult and painful.

Lines 4 and 5 seem to advise being persistent with your intentions. Perhaps even traveling to where they are.

 

[goddessliss]

If you've been raising them for the last 15 years then they obviously aren't young children so personally I wouldn't concern myself too much about this being a long term estrangement. In the end they grow up and make up their own minds.
I was only talking about a similar kind of situation I had, yesterday.
Long story short my sons father and I split when he was 4 years old and my family took my husbands side and, always being the outcast in my family since I was 8 years old, you can imagine the bs that was fed to my son when he spent time with them which was frequently. At 16 my son went to live with his dad so it only got worse but I realised the best thing I could do was stay true to myself, not try to defend myself unless he actually asked me something and even then I just said what I had to say and didn't try to convince my son either way and left him to make up his own mind because I knew one day he would see the truth.
Eventually he did and he now has a lot more respect and understanding of me as a person and has apologized for his somewhat horrible behaviour over the years. He also has a good relationships with his father.
All you can do really is grow within yourself and let things take their course without trying to control the situation. - Liss

 

[kdedeaux4]

"61- shows there is trust between you and your children that you will keep by being sincere and constant. Seems to say you can reach each others hearts even from a distance. I think this is an auspicious reading for you. All hope is not lost, even though it may be difficult and painful. "
Thank you for that beautiful and encouraging interpretation blue angel!!!

Liss, I pray my situation has as happy of an outcome as yours. I've never even imagined anything this ugly or painful! Some people encourage to keep trying and demonstrating love and communication...others say let go and hope they come back on their own accord someday. I see value in both options, but can't seem to just fully let go and accept this for our lives.
I'm the big outcast in my family too... we have that in common
Thank you both so much for responding. I'm borderline insane with this pain and really needed to hear some supportive and encouraging words. Bless you both!