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pembs

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Hi All

When you consult the I Ching and ask a question about another person who is connected to you how can you tell if the answer is accurately referring to them or pointing back at you? I am really struggling with this and I have spent hours trying to analyse the answers but I am still unsure.

For example, I recently bumped into my estranged husband (we now live in different parts of the country) who I haven't seen in almost a year and I asked

"What about his feelings towards me?"
Hex 41lines 3 and 4 changing to 14
I have interpreted this in several ways:-
His feelings for me have now diminished.
He has achieved something great by sacrificing his feelings for me.
Or, is the answer pointing back at me and not relating to his feelings at all?

I then asked
"What about his love for me?"
Hex 35 lines 1,2,3,6 changing to 34
Again, I have interpreted this in several ways:-
His love for me is still strong and flourishing.
His strength has carried him forward and he is now making progress without me.
Or, is it pointing back at me?!

Are there indiciations I should be aware of which make it clearer to identify when an answer is accurately relating to the person I asked about and their feelings or when it is being thrown back at me, the person who asked the question?

I would appreciate some assistance as your thoughts will help me to translate my future readings.

Best Wishes
Claire
 

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your IChing questions

Hi Claire,

It seems to me that you're asking aobut feelings toards him. I'm feeling since you have changing lines I'd interpret this in the first reading 41 changing to 14 about moving on. So in other words, maybe he's decided to move on with his life and you're feeling depressed about it. It's hard for you to accept that insight.
I'm also a beginner myself, but I've learned through intuition how to pull information out of the I-ching without the book. I am also blind, have been this way ever since I was born. Hope that insight helps!
All the best,
Celeste
 

pembs

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Thank you Celeste for taking the time to respond. Any ideas on the second reading? It seems to conflict with the first reading.

Warmest Wishes
Claire
 

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Huh, I am usually avoiding asking questions regarding other persons. Or, more precisely, when it comes to very personal issues, I am avoiding asking questions about other’s persons feelings and intentions.

As regarding your 41 – 14 hexagrams… I would say that you should accept the, not so favorable situation (41), and probably learn something from it… And things you should learn would make you more stronger (14)… Or, maybe you should be aware that your own feelings are not really on the high level (41) and therefore you should choose the way on which you can achieve what you really need (14).

As regarding 35 – 34 hexagrams, I would say that the improvement between two of you is possible only if you sacrifice some of your principles, or if you do first stepS… But, even than, you should be aware that the known problems between you could reappear.


Every time I have asked for such a question, The Book gave me very strange answer, which I couldn’t relate to no one known fact or old presumption. :brickwall:

I am keeping the journal about my questions, and I write down how the things finally developed. So I concluded that, usually, such answers, were mostly related to the situation in which the person, I am asking about, just had have entered...or to some very special connection between two of us (both, negative and positive)….or to something this person is just passing trough…

But rarely I got an “reasonable” answer from which I could draw a picture “does he love me or not”. The Book just ignored such efforts, so I gave up.:confused:

On the other side, it is very difficult to distinct and understand “feelings” in hexagrams, since The Book doesn’t give them a very high position on the list of life’s priorities.

It took me few years to understand that, regarding my “I – am - burning– in-love-question”, :rolleyes: what I think is important, and what The Book think is important to me, are, usually, very different things.

Btw, I have had few other weird experiences with it. Maybe this one (not so romantic) will be good example.

Once I was asking about my colleague’s intentions, related to my business issues, and I’ve got hex 29. Well, since I knew that she is very good friend and not my enemy at all, I was kind of shocked. Only few days later I find that she got ill, very serious, from a pneumonia.:eek: So, The Book warned me about her actual condition, totally ignoring my question (and the question wasn’t “pointless”).:duh:

I also think that the way of asking question is very important, especially in such cases. It doesn’t seem to me that “what about…” questions are quite understandable to The Book.
For that reason I would prefer the “how it affect me….” or “what can I expect from…” patterns.
 

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Arli - your comments are SO helpful!!

I view many of the threads posted on this forum on a regular basis and there have often been interpretations given that relate to "he is thinking" or "she is thinking" with regard to how the other person is feeling. I just find it very difficult indeed to recognise when this is actually the case.

It seems that both yourself and Celeste both agree that the first reading relates more to my own reaction to the current situation rather than his.

Thank you both for your feedback - much appreciated!

Warmest Wishes
Claire
 

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