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Iching 41.1 makes me wonder, what does she get from your continued attempts to convince her of this and that? I’d be asking why she doesn’t speak with you, rather than what you can do to change her resolve.
My advice is to stop pushing. Start reflecting and engage your inner self with the issue I think you are ignoring. If you can engage with the content required then 41.5 will come. Blessings to you.
I agree that 41.1 advises decreasing your communications. I think 41.5 is affirming this is the right thing to do.
59. Dispersion also looks to me as saying that completely letting this connection dissolve is necessary as the first step towards forgiveness.
These hexagrams don't comment on whether "forgiveness" leads to reunion - in fact they seem to advise you to completely let the friendship go, that the break up was for the best - but perhaps by releasing your desire to continue you will come to a place of peace and acceptance.
I wonder if her leaving wasn't so much about anything you specifically did but simply her no longer wanting to be in a work relationship with you? Perhaps when some time passes and it's obvious you are no longer hoping she'll come back - like if you hire someone else to do her job - then the friendship will renew? Another thought, was she aware of your romantic attraction? Could that have played a part in her refusal to discuss her quitting? Maybe ask the I Ching if there's a deeper reason why she left and so abruptly. But still the main message here seems to be to let her go her own way.
The planet Pluto, the planet ruling death and transformation, is at the last degrees of Capricorn this year indicating the end of many old established cycles to make way for new opportunities, new ways of seeing things, coming into focus.
Let her go. Take care of you, Rosada.
Another thought:
Although the I Ching seems to be saying you can't "convince" other people to forgive us, perhaps we can have an effect by considering Christ's teaching that it is in forgiving others that we ourselves are forgiven. Maybe make a point of consciously forgiving others this week. Literally go through your mind and any issue or person that you recognize as being something you are still holding a grudge about take a moment and meditate on forgiving them. Just saying their name and the word "forgive" even without understanding why can set things in motion.
If your friend refuses to say why you upset her then that tells you she is not interested in sustaining the relationship at all doesn't it?Dear all, hope you're all doing well. Any guidance you could afford would be appreciated.
I have a dear friend who I have upset but she will not tell me the reasons why and I am only left to speculate for the reasons.
This is friend of mine is also someone I have romantic feelings for. (We were first friends and roommates, then friends and colleagues). She was working at my company but has since resigned on the day we fought and I had upset her.
I have tried to apologize, for the sake of our friendship, plus convince her not to resign, however I am not having any tangible success getting through to her.
I asked: How do I convince X to forgive me and received: 41.1.5 to 59.
Looking at the relating hexagram of 59 - I think this describes how I am trying to connect with her via a number of different mediums: email, text as well as how I am trying to talk to her about other things as a way to reconcile.
Line 1: I think this line is telling me that perhaps I need to stop communicating/trying for a while. To decrease my interaction with her.
Line 5: I am confused by this line, does this suggest if I increase something by 10x I will have success?
Thank you all very much for your attention.
I have a dear friend who I have upset but she will not tell me the reasons why and I am only left to speculate for the reasons.
I asked: How do I convince X to forgive me and received: 41.1.5 to 59.
Looking at the relating hexagram of 59 - I think this describes how I am trying to connect with her via a number of different mediums: email, text as well as how I am trying to talk to her about other things as a way to reconcile.
Line 1: I think this line is telling me that perhaps I need to stop communicating/trying for a while. To decrease my interaction with her.
Line 5: I am confused by this line, does this suggest if I increase something by 10x I will have success?
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