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lyrandra

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Hello, hello!

I need to know:
How can I forget him? 7.3 > 46
How can I become indifferent towards me? 26 > 26
How can I accept that he doesn't like me? 62.1.4 > 36

Thanks,
Lyrandra
 

rosada

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I think the I Ching is giving you some ghastly images to help jump start the healing...
7.3 Perchance the army carries corpses in the wagon.
Consider that carrying around memories of this past relationship is like carrying around a corpse. Yuuch.
46. The superior man of devoted character heaps up small things in order to achieve something high and great.
Sounds like taking it one day at a time.

Meanwhile I just want to add my two cent and say that maybe "forgetting" the man is not the best approach to recovery. I've had a few experiences way back before the dawn of time
and now that I've so effectively erased 99.9% of them I'm kinda sorry I can't recall a blessed one. So what if they ended badly? There must have been a moment or two that was worth remembering. I suggest you jot down a few particularly funny or positive incidents. (26.Record the deeds of the past.) You may find that with the good times recorded for posterity it's actually easier to forget the whole thing.

Your final question - how can you accept that he doesn't like you? Simply by acting as if you accept it. Not all at once but over time (62.1) as you see that he doesn't seek you out and as you get in the habit of passing him by without pausing (62.4) you'll find you can keep the inappropriate feelings hidden and to yourself.

So sorry you are having to go through this,
Best wishes,
rosada
 
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lyrandra

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I think the I Ching is giving you some ghastly images to help jump start the healing...
7.3 Perchance the army carries corpses in the wagon.
Consider that carrying around memories of this past relationship is like carrying around a corpse. Yuuch.
46. The superior man of devoted character heaps up small things in order to achieve something high and great.
Sounds like taking it one day at a time.

Meanwhile I just want to add my two cent and say that maybe "forgetting" the man is not the best approach to recovery. I've had a few experiences way back before the dawn of time
and now that I've so effectively erased 99.9% of them I'm kinda sorry I can't recall a blessed one. So what if they ended badly? There must have been a moment or two that was worth remembering. I suggest you jot down a few particularly funny or positive incidents. (26.Record the deeds of the past.) You may find that with the good times recorded for posterity it's actually easier to forget the whole thing.

Your final question - how can you accept that he doesn't like you? Simply by acting as if you accept it. Not all at once but over time (62.1) as you see that he doesn't seek you out and as you get in the habit of passing him by without pausing (62.4) you'll find you can keep the inappropriate feelings hidden and to yourself.

So sorry you are having to go through this,
Best wishes,
rosada

Thanks, Rosada. :)

I had a feeling that "forgetting" about him wasn't probably the best solution. It's not that I want to forget him. It's that I want to simply not care if I see him or if he's with another girl. I see him everyday. I want to accept the situation as it is right now and it's hard. Like you said, I should just take it a day at a time. Eventually, I should be able to accept it. I know it's the right thing to do, but I know it's going to be difficult. And I know life's going to test me.

Thanks again for your anwser! :)
 

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