How to Open my Sexual Energy Channel

[Trojina]

So, not taking the lead, but being seductive and influential in a slowly accumulating and cultivating kind of way? OK, I am up for the challenge. I guess that would position him to come to me (what I really want) if I set the stage well enough. Do you agree?

No since you ask.

I saw hex 9 line 5 in pretty concrete terms - if you don't have enough sexual desire use aids - in whatever form that might take, I'll leave that to your imagination - or his....

And if that doesn't work maybe you are just not sexually compatible. I don't think it works to try too hard to make someone into the kind of sexual partner you want - either they are or they aren't - thats why I think you got hex 1 in the beginning. Hex 1 may represent pure energy, life force and of course sexual energy. This energy in the unchanging hexagram is bigger than us, beyond us, it runs through us we partake of it but we can't push it around - it goes where it will. I just don't see hex one fitting in with 'stage setting' the dragon goes where it will So I saw your hex 9 answer as saying you don't have much influence in this situation but you have a little and maybe if you bring in outside aids to your love making, whether that be fantasy or whatever that might help.

But you know on a human level how can you 'position him to come to me' ? You can't because if you are 'positioning' him at all seems to be you are kind of demasculinising him - and who would want to be 'positioned' in this way ?

Also I thought the problem was your lack of libido not his so I'm not sure why its a problem to get him to come to you - unless you mean hes not initiating enough - hmm hex one again

Isn't the person you need to talk to in depth about this him ? The question started as being about your libido and now seems to have turned into how to best manipulate his

I think the answer to your question about how to open you sexual energy up was hex one - you need intitating male sexual energy - does he have it it - does he embody those hex 1 qualities for you or are you trying to make him act the part by 'positioning' him ?

 

[Tohpol]

The question started as being about your libido and now seems to have turned into how to best manipulate his

In a nutshell.

I think when one starts talking about sexual energy in these limited terms and become identified with it, it inevitably leads to problems. You can't position - or rather manipulate his sexual energy to do great feats of derring do if the other fundamentals are not in place.

If you have true intimacy, these things will unfold naturally - no force is required. REAL intimacy of the heart and mind is somewhat rare I think, after you strip away all the other layers of unimportant needs.

How to open your sexual energy channel is kind of a misnomer. There is no sexual energy channel as far as I'm concerned - the energy infuses our body/mind matrix, we have to slowly learn how to manage it. (Let's not go down the Kundalini road which has all kinds of rubbish attached to it imo)

According to some ancient wisdom teachings the sexual centre flows through all aspects of our emotional and mental "bodies" or centres. It seems to be the energy which can be prostituted or used productively, depending on our beliefs, perceptions. It's certainly not based in limited ideas of orgasm and bed gymnastics - fun as they undoubtedly are.

Topal

 

[Trojina]

BTW I'm not undermining the views given on these readings so far, I've been impressed, certainly angles i never would have thought of.

 

[rosada]

Hexagram 1. The Creative is about having a clear intention, so in responce to your first question I see 1 as saying recognize what your true inner desire is when you say you want to create a relationship with this man because 9.5 says neither of you are looking for a short term fling.

Perhaps that's why the unusually drawn out courting stage.

Consider Wilhelm's translation:

9.5
If you are sincere and loyally attached,
You are rich in your neighbor.

Loyalty leads to firm ties because it means each partner complements the other {not interested in any one night stands here}.

In the weaker person {the woman} loyalty consists of devotion, in the stronger {the man} it consists in trustworthiness.

This relation of mutual reinforcement (a devoted girl, a trustworthy boy} leads to ....pleasure shared...

aka...
26. {Carnal} Knowledge.

 

[shefa]

Oh my. I step away for a couple days and look what unfolds. Let's start from the beginning:

Yes, the original question is and was all about me and my own sexuality that has been hidden. I suppressed it I suppose out of necessity during the end of a relationship with a partner who didn't want anything physical and it was painful indeed. Suppressing became a habit and now it's like an archeological dig to find it again. No pun intended.

When Yi came back with the answer of 1 unchanging, someone here suggested that I find a good man to help me re-connect with my sexuality. I replied that I had found a fellow I like, but our relationship wasn't yet physical, though moving that direction. I asked Yi what it would take for us to be in a physical relationship, and got the 9.5 to 26. Some here have suggested this means I take the lead, and I asked Yi what of this advice? I got 42.2.3 to 9. Now this was when a couple people suggested that 9 means I should NOT take the lead. Lastly, I asked how I SHOULD proceed with this man, and got 44.2.6 to 31.

So this is where things stand. I have asked no further questions as I am still settling into the advice I have already received. As things have unfolded with this man and I this week, I believe sincerity and trustworthiness have, in fact, been heightened. We are in a good place in terms of developing a quality relationship, I believe.

Does this make where I am coming from more clear to those here?