How will the situation develop? 29.1.3.6 to 9

[MahaMasha]

I have to say, I got really scared after receiving this answer. Who wouldn't be?

It looks like a pretty big challenge lies ahead of me.

The question was about the future development of the relationship between someone much younger who is also my work colleague.
The fact is that I somehow fell terribly in love, and we have almost no contact.. It is strange, I became "a little bit" obsessed with someone I barely know. His youth plays definitely a role in it. But it is, of course, more complex.

The reading is pretty clear, I would say. I am supposed not to act, stay true to my true self and wait for an answer (liberation) to come from outside. As long as it takes.

Any thoughts on this?
Thank you

 

[equinox]

I have to say, I got really scared after receiving this answer. Who wouldn't be?

It looks like a pretty big challenge lies ahead of me.

The question was about the future development of the relationship between someone much younger who is also my work colleague.
The fact is that I somehow fell terribly in love, and we have almost no contact.. It is strange, I became "a little bit" obsessed with someone I barely know. His youth plays definitely a role in it. But it is, of course, more complex.

The reading is pretty clear, I would say. I am supposed not to act, stay true to my true self and wait for an answer (liberation) to come from outside. As long as it takes.

Any thoughts on this?
Thank you

I don't think that you have to be scared of this result, I even don't think that it says anything about this relationship or its future, especially since you have almost no contact right now as you say. 29>9 probably reflects this, your influence on the relationship as a whole is limited right now. Don't forget, it's a commonplace but nevertheless true, if you are in your inner middle it will improve every relationship you have, also the one you are talking about right now.

29>9 seems to mirror your innermost thoughts and feelings that seem to be in turmoil, your positive and negative delusions, alternating hope and despair - as you rightfully say your quest now is to stay true to yourself, which means first and foremost you have get solid ground beneath your feet, think of that the hexagram 29 Kan represents the element of water and its attributes.

 

[MahaMasha]

could be, could be, thank you

 

[MahaMasha]

It is 10 months since then. I wanted to post here, since I think so many times that it is the pity that people don't post after some time has passed. For the feedback.
In my case, the oracle was totally right. It was one of the hardest and emotionally challenging "relationships". Yes, it was not a real relationship, we didn't speak for the first 6-7 months. And even afterwards, the communication was extremely limited. The whole contact was based on a couple of gazes.
It is difficult to explain how much one can fall in love and suffer for someone he does not even speak to.
But it was real. At times really hard. Total heartbreak.
After some 8-9 months, somehow it got weaker and then it dispersed. Looks like a dream now.

 

[sylvia1ching]

MahaMasha
How will the situation develop? 29.1.3.6 to 9

HEX 29: KAN: The Abysmal (Water) > HEX 9: The Taming Power of the Small

HEX 29: KAN Doubles
KAN - Water from the Heavens,
KAN - Water in streams, lakes, oceans

Double KAN represents - Doubled Danger but more importantly KAN - water shows you how to find a solution. Water is tenacious in its commitment to find its level, to find the mean. It uses an objective (vs subjective) view when it addresses danger, conflict, challenge, or issue and it is fearless in its approach and commitment. It fills all of the spaces it comes into contact without bias and it does not build up and become congested. it continually flows. The only things that get in its way will either be eroded or overcome by the continual and relentless flow of water.

KAN represents the soul lock in the body. It is correlative to the light line (-----) plunged between two dark lines (-- --). The objective view allows one to evaluate the situation with clarity and reason. The subjective view comes from a place of feelings and conditions based in the situation. It is important to evaluate your situation from an objective view because it takes all of "what ifs?" and uncertainty when you do not rely on your feelings to dictate your life.

Definitions: (Dictionary.com)
emotion - a natural instinctive state of mind deriving from one's circumstances, mood, or relationships with others.
- instinctive or intuitive feeling as distinguished from knowledge or reasoning.
(i.e. joy, powerful, authenticity, vulnerability, enthusiasm, anger, apathy, anxiety...)

feeling(s) - - a belief, especially vague or irrational one.
(i.e. sad, sorry, glad, good, bad, great, happy, fear....)

The difference between emotions and feelings is the following: Emotions are event driven where as feelings are learned behaviors that are usually in hibernation until triggered by an external event. (Laughteronlineuniversity.com)

"Hence too a ravine is used to symbolize danger; it is a situation in which a man is in the same pass as the water in the ravine, and, like water he can escape if he behaves correctly." (Wilhelm, 1997 3rd ed)

THE JUDGEMENT (Wilhelm, 1997 3rd ed)
The Abysmal repeated.
If you are sincere, you have success in your heart,
And whatever you do succeeds.

When we are presented with danger, conflict, challenge etc repeatedly (in life etc) we can become used to it. By becoming used to it, we learn how to handle danger effectively. It does not become an inhibition but we learn how to recognize it and not allow our feelings to dictate how we respond. Water addresses fear without concern. It flows into the situation and fills up the space and places without discrimination. It does not shrink back, remains true to itself, does not change its nature.

"Thus likewise, if one is sincere when confronted with difficulties, the heart can penetrate the meaning of the situation." (Wilhelm, 1997 3rd ed)

"Once we gained inner mastery of a problem" (Wilhelm, 1997 3rd ed) we can address the problem correctly, objectively and the action we take is natural and allows us to succeed. The way we address and take action is by being thorough in all that it takes to get it done and moving forward "in order not to perish through tarrying in the danger." (Wilhelm, 1997 3rd ed)

Danger can be used to one's benefit when utilized properly. It can be used to protect oneself from something or someone that will attack one. Like heaven that uses "perilous heights" to protect heaven from any attempt to invade it. It can be used as a mote to physically separate us from danger from the outside world. It alerts us to conflict within and makes us aware of a disparity in our life.

THE IMAGE (Wilhelm, 1997 3rd ed)
Water flows on uninterruptedly and reaches its goal:
The image of the Abysmal repeated.
Thus the superior man walks in the lasting virtue
And carries on the business of teaching.

The superior man uses water to show him how to address danger. Water flows continually, without bias, fearlessly, fills up all depressions and continues flowing. It is tenacious, remains true to itself regardless of the situation, always working, continually finding the mean and seeking level. Water flows from the moutain tops into streams, lakes, rivers, and in its path all things are eroded or washed away clean. As the water continues to flow it makes it way all the way to the ocean where the mean elevation is equal to 0 ft. This is where water comes to rest and has found its place of calm. Then the cycle begins as the wind picks up and disperses the water, sun causes the water evaporate and rise up to the heavens creating clouds and becomes rain, falling down on the mountain where water is gathered and it begins to flow to find the level again.

Line 1 (-----)
Nine in the beginning means
Repetition of the Abysmal.
In the abyss falls into a pit.
Misfortune.

When dealing with danger repeatedly you must be careful and not become complacent to it. It can be easy to allow yourself to be tempted or become lazy and allow yourself to take on the attributes of what danger brings. If you allow yourself to forget what is right from what is wrong and all that danger brings with that you can find yourself in a bad place or one can fall into the pit of abyss.

"With this he has lost the right way, and misfortune is the natural result." (Wilhelm, 1997 3rd ed)

Line 3 (-- --)
Six in the third place means:
Forward and backwards, abyss on abyss.
In the danger like this, pause at first ad wait,
Otherwise you will fall into a pit in the abyss.
Do not act in this way.

"When you are in hell, keep going!" Winston Churchill

With every step you make be it back and forth, forwards and backward you are walking deeper into danger. You cannot escape what has already been set in motion so you must follow it through to the end. Remember that you must not be misled that you are stepping into a compromising situation. Recognize that are in this situation and continue to the end.

Line 6 (-- --)
Six at the top means:
Bound with cords and ropes,
Shut in between thorn-hedged prison walls:
For three years one does not find the way.
Misfortune.

This describes the situation as being totally out of integrity and is riddled with danger and one who has lost the "right way". You are so entangled in a situation that is not correct with what is right that you are unable to escape the wrongness of it. You are as if a criminal in prison.

Summary:

What is going on it does not sound like it comes from a place that is not clear, correct, confusing, ...without integrity...The quote: "It is strange, I became "a little bit" obsessed with someone I barely know." suggests that you are acting in a way that is correct.

As you correctly interpreted you need to take a step back, recognize that your actions are not aligned with what is right, and let this go for a bit. It sounds a nefarious even if you are not being nefarious. You get to become very clear as to what your intentions and act from that in a way that is correct. Act with integrity and authenticity. My experience of your initial post is that of hiding or not being transparent in what you want. If you want this gentlemen then do not "obsess over him but meet him where he is at and accept the result. Perhaps your concern that you may be rejected thus holding back, wanting from far, creating a fantasy around this man keeps you from dealing with what the reality may be.

HEX 9: THE TAMING POWER OF THE SMALL

SUN-The Gentle Wind above CHIEN-The Creative Heaven
There are five (5) strong lines in position 1,2,3,5,6 and one (1) weak line in position 4.

There is one weak line that is holding, tames, impedes the five strong lines. The position of the minister holds them in check. Just like the wind holds the clouds together but it does not have the ability to bring to the clouds to rain. The thunder that brings the rain is being held back.. the time has not yet come for the strong element to come forth.

THE JUDGEMENT (Wilhelm, 1997 3rd ed)
THE TAMING POWER OF THE SMALL
Has success.
Dense clouds, no rain from our western region.

Dense clouds build up from the west (TUI) but does not bring rain. This is like the situation with King Wen when he was held captive by Chou Hsin. The time to make a large scale attack (strong element) is not yet time. While being held captive, King Wen kept "the tyrant Chou Hsin in check by friendly persuasion (small element).

You situation is not a good one because you are not being forthcoming but if you act with small unobtrusive ways to learn about this person. Just as in any relationship (friendship, intimate relationship etc) you learn about the other person with small gestures. You barely know this man and yet you are obsess and yearn from him. Move out of the dark and into the light with careful and considerate actions.

THE IMAGE (Wilhelm, 1997 3rd ed)
The wind drives across heaven:
The image of THE TAMING POWER OF THE SMALL,
Thus the superior man
Refines the outward aspect of his nature.

Wind moves across the heaven but only produces air and no results i.e. rain. Without something substantial to work from the effect is not real. At this point you stand from a position of observation and you are not directly involved with this man. Should you want to create an effect you can only do it by expressing who you are and what are about so that he can recognize who you are. You character must be expressed. As it stands now you are in the shadows lusting and wanting this man and he does not even know who you are. Be present, authentic, and honest.