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Miki123

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There is this guy I have been posting about. Long story short, I went at him one night, we didn't have sex as I was somehow reticent but overall felt very good. In the morning I felt a change in his attitude-he was suddenly cold. Didn't hear from him for weeks, I asked him what is happening and he didn't even respond (although he was bragging about how direct he is in general with people- he could have been sincere and we would move on). I found out he is with someone after a few weeks (which hurts like hell, he said he didn't want a relationship because it takes time etc and he's very busy with work; I said that I think when he meets the right person, he would not think like that anymore, and he said no because it's something he decided, to take care of his career first). It seemed as if we were going to have just a sexual relationship, and I would have been ok with that. He even asked me this. And then..nothing. At work he acts just like a coworker-nice but distant. I am so hurt and confused, I asked a bunch of questions to try to understand a bit better. I could really use your wisdom and patience.

What does he feel for her? 15.2 to 46
What does he feel for me? 62.3 to 16
What is the reason he dumped me right away? 2 unchanging
Why didn't he respond to me? 8.3.6 to 53
What are the chances I hurt his ego? 58.2.4.6 to 42
Is everything over between me and him? 14.2.3 to 21

What is the overall picture of all this? If I really didn't matter to him at all, he found this girl and he is happy now.. I need to hear where that reflects in the readings.
 

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What does he feel for her?
Hexagram 15.2 - Hexagram 46.
He feels she is straight forward and sincere and that he can be himself around her. The relationship doesn't require him to make adjustments or commitments.
46. suggests he's optimistic their friendship will continue to develop in a positive way.
Although he swore to you he had no time or interest for partnerships, I think 15.2 - 46 does say he has found someone and is happy with her.

What does he feel for you?
Hexagram 62.3 - hexagram 16.
He is uneasy that you might create problems.

What is the reason he dumped you right away?
Hexagram 2 uc.
He didn't have any intention for a relationship to begin with and when nothing came of your brief encounter he didn't have any feeling to put more into it.

Why didn't he respond to you?
Hexagram 8.3.6 - Hexagram 53.
He 8.3 "has no head for Union" with you. While his non-response seems cruel perhaps it leads to 53. Progress in that now you know in no uncertain terms he doesn't want to continue with any sort of romantic relationship with you. If you make it clear by acting in a neutral yet polite way towards him that you get the message and likewise are never going to bring up that "one night stand" again either, perhaps you will find you both can put this episode behind you and return to a friendly but distant relationship in your mutual work environment.

What are the chances I hurt his ego?
Hexagram 58. 2.4.6 > Hexagram 42.
More likely he realized that while you two seemed to hit it off well (58.2), he was disappointed the evening didn't go as he had hoped (58.4) and he recognized that you weren't interested in a fling but were wanting to draw him into something more - something he realized he didn't want to commit to (58.6).

Is everything over between me and him?
Hexagram 14.2.3 - Hexagram 21.
Best to assume it's over. The potential for any sort of romance between the two of you is blocked. Perhaps if you can come to think of that experience in a different way (as in "It was just one of those things!) you might at least find a way to be comfortable with his lack of romantic interest and thus create the potential for a friendly connection.
 

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What does he feel for her?
Hexagram 15.2 - Hexagram 46.
He feels she is straight forward and sincere and that he can be himself around her. The relationship doesn't require him to make adjustments or commitments.
46. suggests he's optimistic their friendship will continue to develop in a positive way.
Although he swore to you he had no time or interest for partnerships, I think 15.2 - 46 does say he has found someone and is happy with her.

What does he feel for you?
Hexagram 62.3 - hexagram 16.
He is uneasy that you might create problems.

What is the reason he dumped you right away?
Hexagram 2 uc.
He didn't have any intention for a relationship to begin with and when nothing came of your brief encounter he didn't have any feeling to put more into it.

Why didn't he respond to you?
Hexagram 8.3.6 - Hexagram 53.
He 8.3 "has no head for Union" with you. While his non-response seems cruel perhaps it leads to 53. Progress in that now you know in no uncertain terms he doesn't want to continue with any sort of romantic relationship with you. If you make it clear by acting in a neutral yet polite way towards him that you get the message and likewise are never going to bring up that "one night stand" again either, perhaps you will find you both can put this episode behind you and return to a friendly but distant relationship in your mutual work environment.

What are the chances I hurt his ego?
Hexagram 58. 2.4.6 > Hexagram 42.
More likely he realized that while you two seemed to hit it off well (58.2), he was disappointed the evening didn't go as he had hoped (58.4) and he recognized that you weren't interested in a fling but were wanting to draw him into something more - something he realized he didn't want to commit to (58.6).

Is everything over between me and him?
Hexagram 14.2.3 - Hexagram 21.
Best to assume it's over. The potential for any sort of romance between the two of you is blocked. Perhaps if you can come to think of that experience in a different way (as in "It was just one of those things!) you might at least find a way to be comfortable with his lack of romantic interest and thus create the potential for a friendly connection.

Thank you! I just can't believe how on point these reading are. If I ever doubted IChing, now I am sure it gives a pretty good idea about what you ask. It's kind of mind blowing. I still have problems interpreting the readings though. You were on point, it's clear that he deleted me off his mind when I didn't give him what he wanted. For the sake of asking, I asked if he will wish me in that way if he'll see me at a party (in the idea that he didn't get what he wanted then and he remained with some curiosity).

10.1.2.6 to 45
 

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If he sees you at a 45. Gathering his 10.1 outer appearance and his 10.2 shadow side will be in alignment with his 10.6 goal of having everyone feeling good together. So no secret fantasies about you but maybe a chance to be more relaxed and comfortable about each other in the real world.
 

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