Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).
BACKGROUND
Two years ago, my husband and I moved from a big city to a tiny town. We have almost no friends here. There is basically one couple that we hang out with. They're city folks like us. Our personalities, interests, and lifestyle don't help: in addition being from the city, we're introverts who work online and from home. This is a low-income, mostly rural town. Everyone here knows one another, and the social cliques were formed in childhood. I miss having a close-knit group of friends.
Me - How can I make close friends in (the tiny town I currently live in)?
I Ching - 29.2.3.4.5.6 > 56
I can see myself in hexagram 56 - a wanderer, a traveler, someone with no friends in the place they're in.
I can't say I fully understand Hexagram 29 with its changing lines, but it seems like the chances of me making friends here are pretty slim. The I Ching seems to be telling me I should be shouldn't expect anything at all.
What do you guys think of this strange answer? I would sincerely appreciate your insights. Thank you.
Me - How can I make close friends in (the tiny town I currently live in)?
I Ching - 29.2.3.4.5.6 > 56
>>Yes. This desire to rush to closeness is actually a problem I have that's location-independent. What you said was an excellent reminder that I need to be okay with more "casual" friendships that aren't meant to last long term.
>>Yes! Although I'm grateful for the peaceful, healthy, and cheap life we have here, I'm constantly thinking about whether I should go back. (What keeps me from moving back is my husband – he loves this place and wants to settle down here. He grew up on a farm in a very rural area and has a smaller need for connection than I do. You can imagine how hard it is for both of us – he dislikes even talking about moving!)
My inability to use this forum properly (I can't seem to be able to reply with a quote or do other fancy things without my laptop freezing) means my reply is a bit chaotic, but I just wanted to give you a heartfelt thank you for your insight into my situation.
Really, it means a lot to me that you took the time to read my question and provide such a thoughtful answer. It made me feel less alone to be "listened" to like that. And you also gave me much to ponder about.
I'm also very impressed with your I Ching interpretation skills – looking into the change patterns is definitely advanced Where did you learn to read the I Ching like that?
Hello! Like Trojina said, this is not your inability, this is the forum being buggy. If you have a minute or two, could you send me your experiences via this form?My inability to use this forum properly (I can't seem to be able to reply with a quote or do other fancy things without my laptop freezing) means my reply is a bit chaotic...
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).