Clarity,
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London.
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United Kingdom
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Hello,
Long time no posting! Mainly due to being on quite an even keel recently - emotionally perhaps - and also perhaps through my confidence in understanding the lines. But this problem seems to be getting bigger...
I have been living and working as a teacher in Asia since May. I'm having a great time here, but outside the classroom. The kids are very bratty here - wasn't expecting it! And though I have some good days with them, I really hate doing it. I'm also doing freelance work - so am up very early working on the computer, go to school (feel out of my element and abused by some of the kids... though I know they're just kids, their lack of respect is horrible and the other teachers don't seem to care - it's more of a business than a school so they want to keep the kids happy!) then come home and do more freelance work (of which I think I have taken on too much this month). On top of this, my friend who got me the job here, and who hates it too, has decided to leave in a couple of months without handing in her notice. So I will be left with the chaos of having to pretend I didn't know and perhaps taking a couple of her (horrible) classes. I was thinking of leaving myself, but I've now met someone here who I really don't want to leave (it really feels like the best relationship I've ever been in, etc.) and last week, for example, teaching was ok. So it's up and down, but more down than up... and I'm scared the slope is slippery. I feel wholly unsuited to teaching. I also want to save money for a course I'm going to start next year. I did think I'd start it this year because it's slightly cheaper, but then there are really good things about being here, gaining the experience, and I don't feel mentally ready for the course if I'm honest... But I know I will always only just be surviving. And I'm no good at being strict so I'm not sure if it's just going to get harder to manage the kids. I guess having faith in the innate goodness of others is sometimes naive, especially when it comes to children.
Basically I'm full of dread, stress and don't know if my decisions, which are rather big ones, are right. (Staying would mean deferring uni till next year, and being in a job I hate for, if I'm honest, love, in the main... But then that is what we live for...?) And on top of that, there's a bit of contention now between my friend and I, seeing as she'll be leaving me in a bit of a mess etc, but then she's had a hard time at said school (worse than me) and I understand her reasoning (they can be very difficult about letting you go/and demand money from you even if you hand in your notice)
I asked,
Should I hand in my notice? So I can leave as soon as possible after my friend, but not be forced to leave the country for breaking the contract? So then I could stay with the boy, and work freelance... and search for some here too... but then of course, things may not continue going so well between us... I don't want to become dependent at this stage, despite having joked about me doing this before...
10.1,4,6 > 39
I then asked,
Or should I keep going, as things are now, but How? (ie just survive all the inevitable difficulties and possible regrets of staying...?)
12.3,4,6 > 39
Not surprised to see 39 there twice...
Eek it's all so horrible. I can't even bring myself to try and see what the answers are saying I'm so stressed and tired, and feel a bit hopeless (not to mention having work to do). But of course I know that, it could be that will I have better teaching days again, to make me feel it isn't all just going to blow up in my face...
I would Really appreciate some help interpreting these answers.
:bows:
Nice Trojan I have never looked at how hex 10 could be like vicious cirlce I suppose it really could be if you dont make the right choices & break the cycle,,interesting
Steve
Hi there
yes you really seem to be stuck between a rock & a hard place not a nice situation
10.1 i see as try if you can to enjoy the simple things in life and dont try & progress until you are sure about what you want to do.
But then 10.4 is advising to press forward to avoid an upleasant situation then 10.6 is excellent and you can look back and say I am glad that is over.
Maybe the yi is shouting 39 you are blocked , I think 10.4 is the key here the line to really look at and even 10.1 is saying you are not obligated to stay
I think if you are really unhappy life is too short to waste if you can get out of a situation you are trully unhappy in.
I think that is what the lines are advising although I havent looked into the second reading but at a glance it doest look as good as the first option.
Only really you know what to do I hope I am on track here and have helped.
Maybe someone else may disagree with me just thought I would try to help as it does sound a crappy situation.
All the best
Steve
Hang on this isn't a new situation, you've been through similar dilemmas many times as you've shared here in other threads. I don't mean the actual details of the situation I mean the dilemma of 'do I stay or do i go'. Same dilemma with the house share, same dilemma in China...its always coming back to a central dilemma of staying or going and it always appears as a massive decision to you
So I would take the 10.6 quite literally. You have the answer to all these questions already. All it requires is you to think what you did before in similar situations when you were faced with this repeated dilemma. Think of how those dilemmas played out. What you wish you had done and hadn't done. I think you need to 're trace steps' thats what 10.6 shows.
All the difficulties and limping are contained within the steps you take. Lines 1 and 6 move, you are going in full circle, experiencing the dilemma in its entirety perhaps whereas before you experienced the dilemma in more fragmented way here its all wrapped up in one with the love interest thrown in to boot !
I think you will make your own mind up here...and it will relate to what you've done before in previous similar situations
You may not see the similarity, from a distance I can. To me it appears you are in the same head space you were in in China and in the flatshare back in UK. Maybe the problem isn't the choice you feel you have to make but the necessity you have to keep on facing yourself with anguishing choices ?
I'm not meaning to be flippant but can't give any more insight a} becasue i can't stay on computer b} because I think you will do as you will do...you see it as another horrible terrible nasty complex mess......but you've had these before...look back and also look back to how you got where you are now (10.6)
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).