In love with two men...

[hexagon]

Hello everyone!

Okay - let me put it out there...

Two things - I have been in love with two men for some time. I just asked the Yi a question about each - one of whom I have a long distance relationship with (Bill), and the other I work with which has not been more than a deep, resonating full-bodied crush (David). So I asked Yi:

How does Bill feel about me?

... and received 35 Progress unchanging. I take this to mean the possiblity of a new beginning - the dawn of a new day - but I am confused as it is unchanging. I then asked:

How does David feel about me?

... and received 13.3 > 25. I have not had the courage to ask him out for a coffee even though I have been "encouraged" to do so.

I take 13 to be encouraging - to mean kindredship - to find a common goal that we can share to work together on in order to get closer. I know we need this. But I am puzzled with the resulting 25 - The Unexpected - which makes me feel unsettled. I have been reading previous posts on 25 and understand that being in the moment without expectation is key to progress.

Incidentally, I have a relationship with my long distance friend Bill, but not with David.

Secondly, I have wanted to connect with Hilary in order to ask the perfect question regarding this issue and would love help in finding the perfect question.



Laurie

 

[dobro p]

You can't make up your mind which one you like best, and you've got the nerve to ask the Yi for insider information about how each of them like *you*?

Look, here's a suggestion: since you can't make up your mind, it's obvious that neither one is the big love of your life, right? So pick one, dump the other, commit for a while and you'll find out pretty soon how he feels about you. You'll get the answer to at least half your question. No oracle required. Clean.

 

[willowfox]

How does Bill feel about me?

... and received 35 I would say that Bill likes you a lot, this relationship has the potential to grow.


How does David feel about me?

... and received 13.3 > 25.

David's feelings are not very friendly, he has issues of distrust and not being willing to cooperate with you in a deeper relationship, I think he has something to hide as well, so any relationship would be stunted before it began. He most likely feels that you are sincere and genuine but line 13.3 says that he has some bad issues going on in his head.

 

[hexagon]

I thank you both Dobro and Willowfox as I have been in angst over this!

I also realize I should not have asked how these men felt about me - rather, I should have rephrased the questions with "Is it advisable..." using MY position to ask the questions in order to find clarity, not theirs.It's just that it's so damn tempting to do this,even though on some level I know I am not using the Yi wisely.

Ya Dobro - I've admired your wisdom for a long time - in fact, you gave me advice a couple of months ago on having courage to ask someone out - when you know yourself, the actions you take to find clarity come easily.

And Willowfox, I admire your ability to cut to the punch and tell it how it is. Very interesting about secrets - there's a lot at stake if David and I connected - our jobs for one thing.If it didn't work out, I know I would want to quit - and I've been at that place of employment for many years. I sense he has discussed our attraction with with one of his peers at work, one of which he confides in, and who would've set the record straight as to why a connection is unadvisable. Perhaps this is what the Yi is allotting to.

Maybe Dobro is right - make a decision and stick with it. My long distance relationship with Bill is my man.Understand I am in love (crush?) with David and this decision to let go is not easy.