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Question: "What does the I Ching oracle think about me living as a dependent?"
The Yi is a big source of inspiration for me. It has only been a few months since I've started communicating with it, but the answers it gives are powerful, and I trust it completely.
[[LONG VERSION: inside these]]
[[Recently, I've had trouble learning to be independent. Leaving the nest is not something that has been easy. I did go to a good college after high school but did not graduate. Feeling like a bit of a social outcast when my friends were revealed to be just putting up with me, I withdrew and isolated myself. With no job, I quickly ran out of money and moved back in with my single mother.
It's about 2 years since I moved back to her house, and I feel stress and shame every month, every week I do not make progress toward independent living. I do have a job, but I have to drive to the city over an hour away every day. I am planning to move to the city as I will be far closer to work, but the main reason is I really need to learn to be responsible. I'm nearly 24, and recently some extended family members have been really putting the shame / guilt on me.
To make matters worse, my mother has narcissistic tendencies. She's not completely narcissist, but her attitude toward me moving is definitely that way. It is as though I am supposed to stay with her to keep her company - because - her husband left her many years ago. Any time I mention that I am going to drive to the city to check out the local areas, there is some excuse why I can't or shouldn't do it.
Living with mom for so long has eroded my responsibility mechanism. I am doing better, but last year it was tough for me to even keep up with minor chores like cooking and doing the laundry. I still live with some social anxiety, but I like people a lot more now than I did a couple years ago, and I'm confident that if I were to suddenly appear in my own place in the city, I would be doing those maintenance things, along with getting out into the social worlds.
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{SHORT VERSION:
Moved back in with slightly narcissistic single mom, been living here 2 years, want to move closer to my job over an hour away, I'm low on capability to act on responsibilities and low on social support, and every independent idea I have is shot down in one way or another. I am being guilted into staying - I am being made to believe that I need to live with her, when I obviously need to move out as soon as I can.}
Upon asking the question, as pertains to my situation, I received hex 49 with changing line 6 - transforms into hex 13. Here's what I see, bolded, within the readings.
49 - Forty-Nine
Ko / Revolution
Fire ignites within the Lake, defying conditions that would deny it birth or survival:
The Superior Person reads the Signs of the Times and makes the Season apparent to all.
The support you need will come only after the deed is done. N: Social support? Mom's blessing?
Renewed forces, however, will provide fresh energy for exceptional progress.
Persevere.
All differences vanish. N: She will be more accepting of my independence
SITUATION ANALYSIS:
A revolutionary Change must be made forcibly.
There is no negotiating with the Established Order.
Perfect timing is essential.
Let the abuse of power become apparent and oppressive to those around you before making your move. N: Not sure how to do this. Thanksgiving is coming up, where I will be around other family, but as of now it's just me and her.
Lay the groundwork, sow the seeds for Revolution without tipping your hand prematurely.
You will need a strong foundation, because you will have to bring about this necessary change alone.
You cannot count on popular support, so you must wait until there is massive dissent. N: how can I incorporate this? Do I even need to? If I must... very confusing.
Then the avenue for your assault will be cleared.
---
Changing Lines:
There is One Changing Line.
Hexagram Forty-Nine/Line Six:
You dodge the snares and snatch victory with the lightning speed and agility of a panther. N: Quickness essential.
The jackals lose their nerve and swear allegiance to you.
You have won your revolt.
Don't seek to climb higher.
Instead stabilize the new order for the good of all.
---
Transformed Hexagram:
13 - Thirteen
T'ung Jên / Social Mechanism
Heaven reflects the Flame of clarity:
The Superior Person analyzes the various levels and working parts of the social structure, and uses them to advantage.
Success if you keep to your course.
You may cross to the far shore.
SITUATION ANALYSIS:
This is a matter of Positioning -- not only yourself, but others as well.
There are niches to be filled, potentials to be realized, right livelihoods to be found.
You are not building a new organization, but shoring up an existing infrastructure.
It's worth the effort, because it will provide union, community, and an ironclad alliance.
N: Recently I was put off going to the city to look at places to live. I received a reading previously that said I must now submit to the Fates, which I took to mean - wait, for now. I decided to wait for several months, until just before spring, to move. But now it sounds as though I need to act quickly, create dissent rather than support, and perform the revolution. Does it simply mean - shore up resources, practice being independent, keep my exact plans secret until they are set in stone? Or - do I need to be quicker than that?
I really appreciate any insights you can give. I digest others opinions ravenously and I am not afraid of criticism. Sorry for the long one!
The Yi is a big source of inspiration for me. It has only been a few months since I've started communicating with it, but the answers it gives are powerful, and I trust it completely.
[[LONG VERSION: inside these]]
[[Recently, I've had trouble learning to be independent. Leaving the nest is not something that has been easy. I did go to a good college after high school but did not graduate. Feeling like a bit of a social outcast when my friends were revealed to be just putting up with me, I withdrew and isolated myself. With no job, I quickly ran out of money and moved back in with my single mother.
It's about 2 years since I moved back to her house, and I feel stress and shame every month, every week I do not make progress toward independent living. I do have a job, but I have to drive to the city over an hour away every day. I am planning to move to the city as I will be far closer to work, but the main reason is I really need to learn to be responsible. I'm nearly 24, and recently some extended family members have been really putting the shame / guilt on me.
To make matters worse, my mother has narcissistic tendencies. She's not completely narcissist, but her attitude toward me moving is definitely that way. It is as though I am supposed to stay with her to keep her company - because - her husband left her many years ago. Any time I mention that I am going to drive to the city to check out the local areas, there is some excuse why I can't or shouldn't do it.
Living with mom for so long has eroded my responsibility mechanism. I am doing better, but last year it was tough for me to even keep up with minor chores like cooking and doing the laundry. I still live with some social anxiety, but I like people a lot more now than I did a couple years ago, and I'm confident that if I were to suddenly appear in my own place in the city, I would be doing those maintenance things, along with getting out into the social worlds.
]]
{SHORT VERSION:
Moved back in with slightly narcissistic single mom, been living here 2 years, want to move closer to my job over an hour away, I'm low on capability to act on responsibilities and low on social support, and every independent idea I have is shot down in one way or another. I am being guilted into staying - I am being made to believe that I need to live with her, when I obviously need to move out as soon as I can.}
Upon asking the question, as pertains to my situation, I received hex 49 with changing line 6 - transforms into hex 13. Here's what I see, bolded, within the readings.
49 - Forty-Nine
Ko / Revolution
Fire ignites within the Lake, defying conditions that would deny it birth or survival:
The Superior Person reads the Signs of the Times and makes the Season apparent to all.
The support you need will come only after the deed is done. N: Social support? Mom's blessing?
Renewed forces, however, will provide fresh energy for exceptional progress.
Persevere.
All differences vanish. N: She will be more accepting of my independence
SITUATION ANALYSIS:
A revolutionary Change must be made forcibly.
There is no negotiating with the Established Order.
Perfect timing is essential.
Let the abuse of power become apparent and oppressive to those around you before making your move. N: Not sure how to do this. Thanksgiving is coming up, where I will be around other family, but as of now it's just me and her.
Lay the groundwork, sow the seeds for Revolution without tipping your hand prematurely.
You will need a strong foundation, because you will have to bring about this necessary change alone.
You cannot count on popular support, so you must wait until there is massive dissent. N: how can I incorporate this? Do I even need to? If I must... very confusing.
Then the avenue for your assault will be cleared.
---
Changing Lines:
There is One Changing Line.
Hexagram Forty-Nine/Line Six:
You dodge the snares and snatch victory with the lightning speed and agility of a panther. N: Quickness essential.
The jackals lose their nerve and swear allegiance to you.
You have won your revolt.
Don't seek to climb higher.
Instead stabilize the new order for the good of all.
---
Transformed Hexagram:
13 - Thirteen
T'ung Jên / Social Mechanism
Heaven reflects the Flame of clarity:
The Superior Person analyzes the various levels and working parts of the social structure, and uses them to advantage.
Success if you keep to your course.
You may cross to the far shore.
SITUATION ANALYSIS:
This is a matter of Positioning -- not only yourself, but others as well.
There are niches to be filled, potentials to be realized, right livelihoods to be found.
You are not building a new organization, but shoring up an existing infrastructure.
It's worth the effort, because it will provide union, community, and an ironclad alliance.
N: Recently I was put off going to the city to look at places to live. I received a reading previously that said I must now submit to the Fates, which I took to mean - wait, for now. I decided to wait for several months, until just before spring, to move. But now it sounds as though I need to act quickly, create dissent rather than support, and perform the revolution. Does it simply mean - shore up resources, practice being independent, keep my exact plans secret until they are set in stone? Or - do I need to be quicker than that?
I really appreciate any insights you can give. I digest others opinions ravenously and I am not afraid of criticism. Sorry for the long one!