Intention of cheating?

[Mylife]

I cast a question about my partner intention to cheat. We recently had an argument about this topic.

The question was “did he have an intention to cheat on me”? and I got 8.5-2

8- is seeking union but no fault - two people stand together close - misfortune
8.5 - I don’t understand
2- responding and letting it happen

Does it mean there was an intention?

Then I asked if actually happened and the answer was 33uc - retreat, stop, going forward and stop abruptly.

I understand the cheating didn’t actually happened. Perhaps he values more our marriage than one off sex. And I m glad for that. But do you understand like I do, that actually there was an intention to happen?

 

[Liselle]

I bet 8.5 is Yi's clever way of saying that no matter what it tells you, you don't believe it. Yi tries to herd your worries into the pen so they can be killed, but you manage to escape with them and continue to worry.

Send your worries into the chute and run off into the wide open fields without them, Mylife.

Yi's given you more than one reassuring reading about your marriage. The 49.2 one, or go back even farther to this 9.5 to 26 one here (and the 50uc).

No kids - will this destroy our love relationship?

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Yi can't literally say in simple English, "Your husband did not cheat on you and won't. Stop worrying." But saying -

"There is truth and confidence as a bond.
Rich in your neighbour."

- is how Yi says that.

But you know what you don't want? A completely unnecessary self-fulfilling prophecy. 9.5 talks about "truth and confidence as a bond." It means you have that, but it's probably also a pre-requisite or condition. If you keep undermining truth and confidence with suspicion, you might not be rich in the one close to you.

I know this is really difficult. Once a seed of suspicion has been planted, it can be like a weed, growing with abandon and really hard to eradicate.

I wonder if there are other questions you could ask. Maybe something like, "How can I regain my trust in my husband?" or "How to handle my suspicions?" or "How can I work on getting past this?" or something. Some question that's focussed on potential and not on suspicion.

 

[Mylife]

I bet 8.5 is Yi's clever way of saying that no matter what it tells you, you don't believe it. Yi tries to herd your worries into the pen so they can be killed, but you manage to escape with them and continue to worry.

Send your worries into the chute and run off into the wide open fields without them, Mylife.

Yi's given you more than one reassuring reading about your marriage. The 49.2 one, or go back even farther to this 9.5 to 26 one here (and the 50uc).

No kids - will this destroy our love relationship?

Hi there, I m going to share with you a very difficult situation that I am facing in my life right now. Any support of the oracle answer would be immensely appreciated. I have been through a long infertility period (2 years) which includes: 3 operations, pills, breast biopsies, IUI...

www.onlineclarity.co.uk

Yi can't literally say in simple English, "Your husband did not cheat on you and won't. Stop worrying." But saying -

"There is truth and confidence as a bond.
Rich in your neighbour."

- is how Yi says that.

But you know what you don't want? A completely unnecessary self-fulfilling prophecy. 9.5 talks about "truth and confidence as a bond." It means you have that, but it's probably also a pre-requisite or condition. If you keep undermining truth and confidence with suspicion, you might not be rich in the one close to you.

I know this is really difficult. Once a seed of suspicion has been planted, it can be like a weed, growing with abandon and really hard to eradicate.

I wonder if there are other questions you could ask. Maybe something like, "How can I regain my trust in my husband?" or "How to handle my suspicions?" or "How can I work on getting past this?" or something. Some question that's focussed on potential and not on suspicion.

My cast received 8.5-2 not sure why you are relating to Answers of other questions.
How are these related?

 

[Liselle]

I think they're all ways of Yi saying your marriage is fine. In other words Yi has said this more than once.

In fact I wonder if 9.5 to 26 might even have anticipated this current problem. 26 is mostly about going beyond trying to live from day to day. That reading might have meant you and your husband have a bond that can thrive, not just to do with the question you asked right at that moment about children, but what Yi probably knew was coming up soon.

 

[Trojina]

My cast received 8.5-2 not sure why you are relating to Answers of other questions.
How are these related?

How can they not be related when it's the same topic from the same person? They are related because we who reply here are thinking human beings who are able to follow a person's story so of course we will think about previous threads if it's all connected and we have already replied there.

In any case Mylife we cannot tell you what you want to know. You simply aren't going to find out via the I Ching, for a fact, if your husband is cheating or not, you need actual evidence. Also you tread a fine line between the possibility of alienating him through suspicion and so driving him away and the possibility he is cheating. To know if he is cheating hard evidence is needed which means spying on him really and that also could harm the relationship so it's difficult.

The question was “did he have an intention to cheat on me”? and I got 8.5-2

8- is seeking union but no fault - two people stand together close - misfortune
8.5 - I don’t understand
2- responding and letting it happen

Does it mean there was an intention?

The line says

'A clear sign of seeking union.
The king uses three beaters,
Lets the game in front go.
The city people are not coerced.
Good fortune.'

It looks to me he'd do what's easiest he's not going to chase too hard. Looks like he'd flirt a bit , beat on 3 sides and if a woman offers herself/is easy game he might take her but if she doesn't he's not that bothered. Possibly a great many men are like that in the workplace especially if they have no moral scruples connected to actually being married. Also I imagine a great many men wouldn't see this as a threat to their marriage. Does he have strong beliefs about the sanctity of marriage ?

However that's merely an impression from the line it is certainly NOT evidence of cheating and you cannot by any means come to the conclusion that he is guilty from this or any other answer. Nor can you come to the conclusion he is innocent. So you need evidence and I wouldn't have thought it would be that hard to find that.

 

[Mylife]

Does he have strong beliefs about the sanctity of marriage ?

He always says ”I am not a cheater. I don’t cheat”. I know him putting great value on our marriage. In 7 years we rarely had solid issues. Just small stupid ones.
He is not the type of person to cheat and destroy our relationship. But that’s what I know about him before I found out this flirt with his colleagues. So I don’t know anymore. How can I know now?

 

[Trojina]

Actually, going back to your question it's not even 'has he cheated?' it's 'does he have an intention to cheat?'. Who can know his intentions? He says he isn't, you had quite positive readings about his promise to you he'd try to make you feel better about it.

He always says ”I am not a cheater. I don’t cheat”. I know him putting great value on our marriage. In 7 years we rarely had solid issues. Just small stupid ones.
He is not the type of person to cheat and destroy our relationship.

Good.

But that’s what I know about him before I found out this flirt with his colleagues. So I don’t know anymore. How can I know now?

You can't know unless you have evidence to prove he cheated. So he is innocent until proven guilty. So you can either decide to trust him or watch him to see what he does. If someone is cheating they are going to need to rearrange their schedule to do so.

I've suggested it before but you could talk to the woman's husband who may also be feeling insecure. Why can't you go out together as couples? Her and her husband and you and your husband? That would be a normal thing to do surely?

I bet 8.5 is Yi's clever way of saying that no matter what it tells you, you don't believe it. Yi tries to herd your worries into the pen so they can be killed, but you manage to escape with them and continue to worry.

Also I think Liselle may have been right , maybe this 8.5 answer is saying to you 'look you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink. I've given you reassurance but there's no more I can do if you don't take it'.

 

[Mylife]

I've suggested it before but you could talk to the woman's husband who may also be feeling insecure. Why can't you go out together as couples? Her and her husband and you and your husband? That would be a normal thing to do surely?

That’s what I m asking. And my husband is organising a dinner with her and her partner.

I know sometimes maybe I am asking impossible questions and insecurities brings the worse out of me - it gets me mad

I know he didn’t cheat on me. But I wanted to know if he was intending to chat in case I did find the sms.

And the 8.5 suggesting intimacy and closeness. Got me thinking maybe there was an intention but I cut his ways by finding it out.

Maybe I m getting overly paranoid?! Like @Liselle is saying?!

 

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Mylife said:​

The question was “did he have an intention to cheat on me”? and I got 8.5-2

"surround your prey (your doubt) on all sides except one...the prey you are destined to kill will appear on the free and exposed side"

Mylife said:​

..."I know he didn’t cheat on me"...

...."He always says ”I am not a cheater. I don’t cheat”. I know him putting great value on our marriage".....

..."He is not the type of person to cheat and destroy our relationship."...

...."And my husband is organising a dinner with her and her partner."...

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