Is it time to move on? 21.1 > 35 and 21.1.2 >64

[suivis]

I am perplexed by this one. I outlined my story a few days back. After that and some meditation, I was feeling much more at peace, even joyful. Feeling a bit adrift again today, I asked a few questions about cutting loose or not. There's some other badness in our past, plus it's hard to have a relationship when you rarely talk and haven't really seen each other for weeks. The current situation feels like the beginning of what led to the past badness. I use LiSe and Cleary as references mostly.

What are the consequences if I end this romance with my boyfriend in my heart?
I got 21.1.2 > 64.

My follow up question was
What are the consequences if I do not end this romance with my boyfriend in my heart?
I got 21.1 > 35.

So, it seems clear that Yi is saying not to give up when I'm halfway there. Can someone help me understand 21.1 in this context? I referenced Hatcher for this, too, and all three see it very differently, ranging from "find your own way" to "don't be rash" to "deprived of the toes for a while, one relearns the value of walking more freely about."

Come to think of it, those all fit the situation.... I suppose I need to trust a bit more and let go of my fears and conditioned responses.

 

[emiliana2010]

suivis,

I have to say that I don't understand your questions. You ask what are the consequences if you do or don't end this romance with your boyfriend IN YOUR HEART.

In my experience this is something we cannot choose to do or not to do. Your heart has nothing to do with your decisions. It will not follow them, it has its own power and it's you who will follow its impulses - and suffer and grow - or not follow them and suffer and period. It's not the other way around.

The answers you received seems to me to point in this direction. Both are saying that trying to dictate to your heart is like putting your feet in a pair of shoes a size to small. The 21.2 suggests to completely eradicate what is not suitable to you.

Know that I'm in no way an expert in the Yi Jing and this is simply what it feels like imho.

All the best.

 

[anon]

In my opinion it would read something like: if you DO breakup with this person it would bring a very difficult frustrating situation to a an end.

If you do NOT? you will continue to move forward with great difficulty. It seems to be a bittersweet situation.

 

[precision grace]

As soon as you have to ask yourself 'is it time to move on' it's probably the time to move on.
but sometimes you can't..

21.1 - bad things in the past that need to be put right before you can proceed.

As you were asking about your heart, not your..erm..other parts I would suggest that this line may actually refer to a thinking pattern of yours that may need correcting. A wrong belief maybe or something along those lines. Anyhooo..just a passing thought. (heart does want what it wants, but it's not an isolated organ and it does get influenced by other bits)