... I don't think you're going to be thrilled with my take on this. The general idea I'm getting here is that the Yi is drawing your attention back to you. 
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A lengthy one I’m afraid but I think the more background info I include, the easier it is to put interpretations into context. I’ve had a go at interpreting most of it but I feel I’m missing a bigger picture and Yi is screaming at me.
I posted readings about my break-up with X a few weeks after it happened so I won’t repeat the full saga, just give an outline...
We split because of his emotional uncertainties and I promised I’d wait for him to at least clear his head before moving on.
I wanted us to get back together and my first ever question to Yi was
‘What will be the outcome of this retreat?’ 42.1>20
After discussion with you helpful Clarity folk, I took 42, increase to mean self improvement, hoping that I’ll be at a better vantage point and clear in my own mind as an outcome.
Now, 2 months down the line, I have independently built a full range of fitted bedroom furniture for myself, lost 21 pounds in weight, become conversant with Yi, got beautifully manicured nails and discovered an affinity for Wicca. Is this my 42.1?
X is still in contact with me, the dust has settled, his emotions are still up and down but not quite so erratic. We see each other about once a week and he took me out on a date last week. Each time we part, I get a friendly kiss on the cheek. In addition to this, he has made various other arrangements with me from time to time and then cancelled at the last minute. Sometimes I think he feels something, other times it seems he couldn’t care less.
I still want us to get back together but I haven’t brought the subject up as I don’t want to put any pressure on him. He knows I’m still waiting for him and i know he hasn’t met anybody else.
It’s my own fault but I’ve put myself in relationship limbo. I’ve got to the stage where I need to either move on from this situation or at least get some hint from him that I’m not waiting in vain.
He made arrangements for us to go out today so yesterday I asked, ‘How can I behave to encourage X to initiate conversation about our positions?’ 16.4.5.6>20
Enthusiasm,
4. The germ of weaving images. There is great achievement. Do not doubt. Partners are united like a hair clasp does.
In everything one does, it is timing which is the most important. The ability to answer to the influences of the moment in time is the key to success, friendships, harmony. To a life in accord with the cosmos.
To go with the flow. Be spontaneous and relaxed. Be myself?
5.Determination: affliction. Persevering, not dying.
Inspiration will get lost if it is not caught within necessity or difficulty. Creativity will become reality when it comes up against a wall of obstinate matter, of unbelief, loneliness. When everything is too easy, creativity evaporates without crystallizing
I read this as unfounded doubts may become reality if I push him for discussion. I don’t want to push him further away and had already decided I would wait for him to initiate conversation.
6.Obscure weaving of images. Accomplishment has setbacks. No fault.
Don't expect others to follow your obscure ideas. The ideas may be good - inspiration often starts as faint hunches - but when others join in, they might be dragged along expecting a lot but possibly finding only disappointment.
Don’t expect him to want us to get back together or to be ready to do so. I don’t want to drag him into a relationship. My intention is to just get some form of either reassurance or closure without him feeling cornered.
So, after mulling this over for most of yesterday and deciding to just be myself, be cheerful and pleasant without pushing him for any answers, I felt at ease and was looking forward to nothing other than a pleasant day out.
This morning he cancelled because he wanted to go for a drink with his sister (who he sees everyday). Well, there is my closure right there, that tells me everything I need to know about how much he values his time with me.
Right, I’m ready to move forward either with or without him. I’m fed up of sitting in on my own and having a feeling of loneliness. Why should I sit in and not meet anybody and then listen as he tells me of the fun times he’s had doing this that and the other with his friends? I don’t have a big friendship group around me and his friends were also my social life, now he has gone, so have they as they only knew me as X’s girlfriend.
I decided to join a dating site, I was going to be clear in my profile that I was just looking for some company rather than commitment at the moment. I don’t want to jump from one person to another and I was going to be honest about that.
I asked Yi, ‘What is the outcome of me joining a dating site?’ 16.6>35
Hello again 16... Obscure weaving of images is what LiSe says for 16.6. I suppose in setting up a profile, you do weave an image. Maybe Yi is telling me that other people may not understand what I want from the dating site and my profile will be obscure to many. Alternatively, people may want to date me but expect more than I am willing to offer.
The reading isn’t too positive but I decided to go ahead with it anyway.
So Yi, next question...’What should the headline for my profile be?’
I think Yi has just shouted at me! 16.3>62
With no interpretation on my part, the first thing that popped into my head was an image of X being upset because I’d promised to wait and then broken that promise.
Big-eyed weaving of images: regret. Hesitation brings regret.
Wait for the right moment to act or react, for influencing or being influenced. Just inspiration is not enough: actions needs a base, borders, a form, and the right time and circumstances. Don't let the moment pass by - and bragging about what you are going to do (or waiting for consent) might cause exactly that.
I don’t think Yi wants me to join a dating site. I certainly don’t think this answer is a suggestion of an appropriate headline. This seems to say that I’m acting prematurely without firm foundations. Have I assumed incorrectly that X doesn’t care?
16.3 says wait for the right moment to act but don’t let the moment pass by.
The relating 62 says
The things you do are usually irreversible. So be careful. Especially in small matters, because in big things one is more aware of the risks and effects.
Death is definitive, and also all the feelings involved, so give extra attention to the things that happen, and the feelings of everyone. The same with spending money, so be thrifty and careful. The impression one makes on others is also irreversible, so pay attention to behavior and aura. When misfortune hits, then meet it with respect.
Is this saying that in joining a dating site, I will be burning my bridges with X and to hesitate and think carefully before doing so? Or is this saying that the headline for my profile will be the first impression I give and I only get one chance at that?
I’m leaning more toward the burning bridges idea as ‘death is definitive’ may be referring to my relationship with X and any remaining feelings dying out.
The only way I can truly find out where I stand in this relationship is to ask X about his feelings and intentions.
I asked YI ‘What if I just ask X about our chances of reunion?’ 42.2.4>10
More increase! I’ve already got a new set of wardrobes and become a wonderful person! What is the increase now?
Line 2 Someone's increase. Ten pairs of tortoise shells cannot oppose it. A long range determination is auspicious. The king presents an offering to the Supreme Being. Auspicious.
Gods are an ‘outside’ which is deep inside, the inner spark, the Golden Flower, the gem, whatever. This inner spark is the reason for being augmented, no augury will ever contradict it. Other people, fate, the whole world cooperates with this spark. It may not be visible for eyes, but it is for the heart.
There is still a spark? That spark will cause an increase in something? Maybe increase his awareness of my feelings/his feelings?
Line 4 Move central. Notify the prince, he follows. Harvest: a sacrifice to inspire confidence in shifting the city.
Do not brag about yourself but be trustworthy, make others know who and how you are and make friends and mutual respect. Then they will approach you for important projects and they will also trust your own enterprises
Minimise my ego but make sure X realises what I’m going through?
Hexagram 10 is about having the right attitude and recognising the right time to act. Know the rules to follow and use appropriate codes of behaviour.
Does anybody have any opinions or insight into this return to 42 or any clues about my 16itis? (or noticed any glaring errors in my interpretations)
So sorry about the lengthy post and I appreciate your time.
I posted readings about my break-up with X a few weeks after it happened so I won’t repeat the full saga, just give an outline...
We split because of his emotional uncertainties and I promised I’d wait for him to at least clear his head before moving on.
I wanted us to get back together and my first ever question to Yi was
‘What will be the outcome of this retreat?’ 42.1>20
After discussion with you helpful Clarity folk, I took 42, increase to mean self improvement, hoping that I’ll be at a better vantage point and clear in my own mind as an outcome.
Now, 2 months down the line, I have independently built a full range of fitted bedroom furniture for myself, lost 21 pounds in weight, become conversant with Yi, got beautifully manicured nails and discovered an affinity for Wicca. Is this my 42.1?
X is still in contact with me, the dust has settled, his emotions are still up and down but not quite so erratic. We see each other about once a week and he took me out on a date last week. Each time we part, I get a friendly kiss on the cheek. In addition to this, he has made various other arrangements with me from time to time and then cancelled at the last minute. Sometimes I think he feels something, other times it seems he couldn’t care less.
I still want us to get back together but I haven’t brought the subject up as I don’t want to put any pressure on him. He knows I’m still waiting for him and i know he hasn’t met anybody else.
It’s my own fault but I’ve put myself in relationship limbo. I’ve got to the stage where I need to either move on from this situation or at least get some hint from him that I’m not waiting in vain.
He made arrangements for us to go out today so yesterday I asked, ‘How can I behave to encourage X to initiate conversation about our positions?’ 16.4.5.6>20
Enthusiasm,
4. The germ of weaving images. There is great achievement. Do not doubt. Partners are united like a hair clasp does.
In everything one does, it is timing which is the most important. The ability to answer to the influences of the moment in time is the key to success, friendships, harmony. To a life in accord with the cosmos.
To go with the flow. Be spontaneous and relaxed. Be myself?
5.Determination: affliction. Persevering, not dying.
Inspiration will get lost if it is not caught within necessity or difficulty. Creativity will become reality when it comes up against a wall of obstinate matter, of unbelief, loneliness. When everything is too easy, creativity evaporates without crystallizing
I read this as unfounded doubts may become reality if I push him for discussion. I don’t want to push him further away and had already decided I would wait for him to initiate conversation.
6.Obscure weaving of images. Accomplishment has setbacks. No fault.
Don't expect others to follow your obscure ideas. The ideas may be good - inspiration often starts as faint hunches - but when others join in, they might be dragged along expecting a lot but possibly finding only disappointment.
Don’t expect him to want us to get back together or to be ready to do so. I don’t want to drag him into a relationship. My intention is to just get some form of either reassurance or closure without him feeling cornered.
So, after mulling this over for most of yesterday and deciding to just be myself, be cheerful and pleasant without pushing him for any answers, I felt at ease and was looking forward to nothing other than a pleasant day out.
This morning he cancelled because he wanted to go for a drink with his sister (who he sees everyday). Well, there is my closure right there, that tells me everything I need to know about how much he values his time with me.
Right, I’m ready to move forward either with or without him. I’m fed up of sitting in on my own and having a feeling of loneliness. Why should I sit in and not meet anybody and then listen as he tells me of the fun times he’s had doing this that and the other with his friends? I don’t have a big friendship group around me and his friends were also my social life, now he has gone, so have they as they only knew me as X’s girlfriend.
I decided to join a dating site, I was going to be clear in my profile that I was just looking for some company rather than commitment at the moment. I don’t want to jump from one person to another and I was going to be honest about that.
I asked Yi, ‘What is the outcome of me joining a dating site?’ 16.6>35
Hello again 16... Obscure weaving of images is what LiSe says for 16.6. I suppose in setting up a profile, you do weave an image. Maybe Yi is telling me that other people may not understand what I want from the dating site and my profile will be obscure to many. Alternatively, people may want to date me but expect more than I am willing to offer.
The reading isn’t too positive but I decided to go ahead with it anyway.
So Yi, next question...’What should the headline for my profile be?’
I think Yi has just shouted at me! 16.3>62
With no interpretation on my part, the first thing that popped into my head was an image of X being upset because I’d promised to wait and then broken that promise.
Big-eyed weaving of images: regret. Hesitation brings regret.
Wait for the right moment to act or react, for influencing or being influenced. Just inspiration is not enough: actions needs a base, borders, a form, and the right time and circumstances. Don't let the moment pass by - and bragging about what you are going to do (or waiting for consent) might cause exactly that.
I don’t think Yi wants me to join a dating site. I certainly don’t think this answer is a suggestion of an appropriate headline. This seems to say that I’m acting prematurely without firm foundations. Have I assumed incorrectly that X doesn’t care?
16.3 says wait for the right moment to act but don’t let the moment pass by.
The relating 62 says
The things you do are usually irreversible. So be careful. Especially in small matters, because in big things one is more aware of the risks and effects.
Death is definitive, and also all the feelings involved, so give extra attention to the things that happen, and the feelings of everyone. The same with spending money, so be thrifty and careful. The impression one makes on others is also irreversible, so pay attention to behavior and aura. When misfortune hits, then meet it with respect.
Is this saying that in joining a dating site, I will be burning my bridges with X and to hesitate and think carefully before doing so? Or is this saying that the headline for my profile will be the first impression I give and I only get one chance at that?
I’m leaning more toward the burning bridges idea as ‘death is definitive’ may be referring to my relationship with X and any remaining feelings dying out.
The only way I can truly find out where I stand in this relationship is to ask X about his feelings and intentions.
I asked YI ‘What if I just ask X about our chances of reunion?’ 42.2.4>10
More increase! I’ve already got a new set of wardrobes and become a wonderful person! What is the increase now?
Line 2 Someone's increase. Ten pairs of tortoise shells cannot oppose it. A long range determination is auspicious. The king presents an offering to the Supreme Being. Auspicious.
Gods are an ‘outside’ which is deep inside, the inner spark, the Golden Flower, the gem, whatever. This inner spark is the reason for being augmented, no augury will ever contradict it. Other people, fate, the whole world cooperates with this spark. It may not be visible for eyes, but it is for the heart.
There is still a spark? That spark will cause an increase in something? Maybe increase his awareness of my feelings/his feelings?
Line 4 Move central. Notify the prince, he follows. Harvest: a sacrifice to inspire confidence in shifting the city.
Do not brag about yourself but be trustworthy, make others know who and how you are and make friends and mutual respect. Then they will approach you for important projects and they will also trust your own enterprises
Minimise my ego but make sure X realises what I’m going through?
Hexagram 10 is about having the right attitude and recognising the right time to act. Know the rules to follow and use appropriate codes of behaviour.
Does anybody have any opinions or insight into this return to 42 or any clues about my 16itis? (or noticed any glaring errors in my interpretations)
So sorry about the lengthy post and I appreciate your time.