issue from previous relationship

[psychonaut613]

So I'm in a relationship after a long time without someone. A previous girlfriend cheated on me more than once and put me thru all kinds of sh**.
Basically this traumatized me so now sometimes with the new girl I have this irrational fear of her cheating. It felt so persistent though one day that I asked the IC
Is there good reason for me to be afraid of this?

I got 52.1>22 standing still change to grace.
I take this to mean basically "no"
and possibly that doing what I have been doing, which is outwardly trusting her even if only on principle, will allow her the space to be the woman I want her to be towards me? Also, she is a scorpio astrological sign, so this probably means that she is being truthful?

Input and thoughts are welcome.

 

[psychonaut613]

At first when I started asking questions around here, I got plenty of responses.

But it seems as I ask more questions, less and less people want to chime in. IDK maybe I ask what you guys think of as stupid questions...

Has no one here ever had trust issues from being cheated on? I was just hoping for some advice.

 

[chibi chan]

Hi Psychonaut,

I'm really new to IC (and probably not the best at interpreting readings), but here goes....I generally agree with your take on the reading as "no."

Here's why...I think 52 is telling you to take and deep breath and "not let your thoughts go beyond the situation." Has she given you any reason to believe that she might be cheating? If no...let it go.

52.1 says (in part) "A man who halts at the beginning, so long as he has not yet abandoned the truth, finds the right way. But persisting firmness is needed to keep one from drifting irresolutely." I think this means that you keep trusting her and keep being firm in that trust.

22 says "Thus does the superior man proceed When clearing up current affairs. But he dare not decide controversial issues in this way." Maybe this warns something about the way you see her (and her behavior) and tells you to go beyond the superficial. Are you seeing the real person with real actions? I didn't really understand your comment that your trust "will allow her the space to be the woman I want her to be towards me." Also, I know almost nothing about astrology, but what I do know is that regardless of astrological sign people can lie and cheat. So, I think the IC is telling you to look at the real person, her real actions and emotions towards you and go from there.

Now...You're wondering why no one has posted a response to your thread...Have you posted a response to anyone else's thread lately? If no....you can respond to my Hobby thread here.

I'm really not sure if I was even remotely helpful...but I hope so.

Hugs,
Rebecca

 

[dancing white ferret]

I think Chibi Chan is on the right track. And I love your avatar, Chibi Chan! How cute! Psychonaut, your ex sounds crappy. And like a few of my exes. Yes, it is hard to trust someone after such a betrayal. Makes ya wonder, especially what did the other guy (or girl) have?! And of course, it only makes sense to be apprehensive about opening your heart to someone after having it broken by a cheater. It doesn't sound like you really think she is cheating. Just afraid it will happen again. Hope this helps you